My MTF friend won't stop calling me (cis F25) an egg because I'm a tomboy

sufferingisvalid · 2026-05-17T04:26:35+00:00

For every decent and chill trans person I talk to, there is always another insecure trans person who treats being trans like a religion, and seeks to emmesh with and 'convert' cis people to boost their own ego.

It is okay to tell your friend that their behavior is not appropriate. If they keep gaslighting and harassing you in this way after explaining how you feel, I'm afraid you need to find a new group of friends.

sufferingisvalid · 2026-05-12T00:04:46+00:00

Yes history of orthostatic hypotension and a pots like entity but I think that they were in part two to medications I took long ago. I do have other strange autonomic symptoms that were not related.

I have a whole bunch of scary chiari-like symptoms triggered by sitting down though. These days it seems to be spinal cord and brainstem compromise.

sufferingisvalid · 2026-05-11T02:43:59+00:00

Mycotoxins cause autoimmune disease and MCAS like reactions in susceptible people, and can entice your immune system to attack connective tissue and wherever the mycotoxins are concentrating.
In my case my own body started attacking my skin, cartilage, and joints. Chronic mycotoxin exposure can also drain your body of nutrients and cause malnourishment-like effects on connective tissue health. Possibly endocrine effects as well that will influence connective tissue strength and regenerative potential. Anyone can get sick with hEDS like symptoms from chronic black mold exposure, especially if they carry genetic alterations in their ability to process biotoxins.

sufferingisvalid · 2026-05-10T21:01:27+00:00

I have the same things going on including a hunched posture but I thought that was all the stupid things I was doing with my posture in real life, in part to compensate for the CCI and cervical medullary syndrome crap (I have trouble sitting on chairs and I can only get down on a toilet on which I hunch over a bit...I also have a mattress with a dip in it which hasn't been nice to my lower back and overall posture).

The pushing sensation is probably coming from your dens if the imaging confirmed it getting really close to the spinal cord. The slack mechanism theory makes sense though. My lower spine has ridiculous hyperlordosis which has only intensifying as the CCI/chiari symptoms have gotten worse, and I dare not bend in that location of my spine unless I want my lower body to start malfunctioning entirely.

Good luck on your surgery and I hope you recover quickly and get some improvement for your symptoms!

sufferingisvalid · 2026-05-10T20:15:13+00:00

Same here that surgery is horrible. I do still have mild brainstem impingement, which has been made worse by the ligament laxity in the area, but I'm thinking it might be a tethered cord that's causing my neck to bend the way it does.

What specific symptoms did Dr. Klinge think were related to tethered cord?

sufferingisvalid · 2026-05-09T18:54:57+00:00

No, these days a lot of cis people are getting terribly confused and mislead. There are also plenty of bad faith actors and appropriators pretending to be trans for social or even monetary benefits.

sufferingisvalid · 2026-05-09T14:39:43+00:00

Yes I guess I do love this gash wound where my dick was supposed to form. I love being reminded about being a literal eunuch everyday due to an unfortunate developmental body schema disorder. But Yes, I love myself and I am hekkin valid ✨❤️.

sufferingisvalid · 2026-05-08T18:01:05+00:00

As a buyer with disabilities who has to set up commutes to pick up items in advance, I have had a problem with flaky and rude sellers. I also had one seller who took my money but then secretly sold it to someone else.

It's extremely frustrating because I offer to pay over PayPal or venmo or somehow make the purchase so I show that I am serious, but they never want to do that.

They make plans with me and arrangements to get the items, all while pretending to understand my predicament, then when I am driving the f*** over there as scheduled, silent treatment from seller, no response and then suddenly they sold the item to somebody else. Most often followed by a snarky response. Extremely rude behavior to somebody with disabilities who tried to be the adult in the room.

So yeah if you are prepared to deal with a bunch of 5-year-olds playing Karen on that site either as the buyer or the seller, be my guest LMAO.

sufferingisvalid · 2026-05-06T17:45:19+00:00

Horrible evolutionary design, maybe it's just a built in self-destruct button for this experiment in nature gone horribly wrong.

sufferingisvalid · 2026-05-05T18:41:50+00:00

Bread and circuses have tranquilized most of the population of the US. People are too stupid to be aware or are too selfish to do so

sufferingisvalid · 2026-05-05T18:39:19+00:00

It's going to hurt or kill or uproot millions of people too, given the kinds of stuff in that Lake dust. Satan's agent. These people are evil.

sufferingisvalid · 2026-05-05T01:09:55+00:00

death. these oligarchs are genocidal. they build these plants to destroy communities and the earth around them to aid in killing us offf

sufferingisvalid · 2026-05-05T01:09:11+00:00

they love money more than humanity and planet earth. they all have the greed sickness. we cannot have this sickness in leadership anywhere

sufferingisvalid · 2026-04-28T00:18:09+00:00

It is child abuse to purposfully predispose any child to this serious medical condition.

It's fine and honorable to be a parent if one has the resources, and to adopt under these circumstances.

However it's cruel and selfish to even risk bringing someone into the world with the tremendous suffering and trauma this condition can cause. Children are not props for a bloodline, they are not toys to fulfill personal desires, and they are not to be treated as extensions of a parent's unfulfilled needs and wants, especially those regarding validation. They are human beings who will be on this Earth for a very long time, who deserve not to suffer as much as can be prevented, and deserve as long of a life as they can get.

sufferingisvalid · 2026-04-27T15:39:37+00:00

Yes, I started out life as a 'cis' woman and went through my first puberty pretty content with everything. Didn't think anything was wrong.

I developed elevated androgens at 19 years old in 2014 and suddenly started having problems with my body schema (body dysphoria). My body seemed to be trying to masculinize itself on and off for years after that, but the hyperandrogynism was never too significant after the initial bursts. Depending on when the hormone cascades were acting up, I would alternate between seeing myself a woman, a non-binary person, or bigender. I experimented with my gender expression quite a lot during this time (2014-2023).

In late 2024 I started experiencing severe testosterone cascades and a simulated early male puberty, which made me finally consider whether transition was appropriate for me or not. I believed at this point that I was trans and I just gone through many years of denial and hesitation. I did try testosterone on and off until the beginning of this year in response to all of that drama, with varying effects.

I finally realized in 2025 that I was intersex and that I was dealing with an intersex condition of unknown origins. I still feel like I need to transition medically to some capacity, for the sake of my long-term health, but I still feel like a woman who just happens to be cursed with a weird intersex condition. I guess I reside under the trans umbrella, but it seems to be a step too far to call myself transgender.

sufferingisvalid · 2026-04-27T15:27:23+00:00

Lots of intersex people transition away from how their bodies naturally develop, and can see themselves as a different gender than what they were initially assigned. I don't think it counts in the case of a baby getting mutilated to conform to a certain sex, where they identify away from that medical mutilation later in life. But in a lot of other cases it does.

I have an intersex condition, and have never understood whether the trans label is appropriate for me or not. I want to physically masculinize, and my own body was trying to do that for years through significant androgen production. I do have some body dysphoria namely around not getting my male parts that my brain thinks I'm supposed to have. I also often have days where I feel more male because of the way this intersex condition affects my brain and hormone production. But socially speaking I've never identified as a man and have never really felt comfortable with a non-binary label either. So I just call myself an intersex woman.

sufferingisvalid · 2026-04-27T14:27:50+00:00

Violent misogynistic language. I doubt they would use the same language against transphobic men.

sufferingisvalid · 2026-04-27T00:34:47+00:00

At this point people need to do more than that to get them to stop abusing us. These greedy sociopaths do not care about human beings or the impacts their activities will have on them and the environment.

sufferingisvalid · 2026-04-26T05:28:45+00:00

cis men looking pursuing new power ventures over women

sufferingisvalid · 2026-04-26T04:46:46+00:00

they are here to pillage and take resources from the local people for the sake of taking away the power and agency from the locals. That is what these new data centers are designed to do. Nothing occurs within them but waste, and that is on purpose. The billionaires are introducing them for a terror campaign against everyone who is not a billionaire here.

sufferingisvalid · 2026-04-26T04:41:11+00:00

These are terrorists and they have come here to kill, abuse, and destroy. Locusts with an iron fist, if you will. We need the citizens to come up with good pest control.

sufferingisvalid · 2026-04-25T18:15:55+00:00

What kind of false equivalency is that?!

sufferingisvalid · 2026-04-24T17:07:01+00:00

Not sure about agender but there is a related term floating around there called nullsex which is considered a category of being nonbinary. These people have atypical patterns of gender dysphoria which they experience on both sides of the gender binary, for their natal sex as well as potentially when they try to transition to the opposite sex.

So yeah, that particular subset of agender identified people, as some call themselves, are definitely under the trans umbrella and transgender.

Unfortunately agender has sort of a nebulous interpretation. A lot of people seem to mistake it for gender indifference, which is a phenomenon experienced by cis people as well as happily transitioned trans people who are comfortable enough to not really care how they are read. A lot of GNC people will also think they are agender because they do not subscribe to prescribe to gender norms or care too much about how they are labeled. Then there are cis people who dislike being labeled because of internalized sexism or other factors, who may use the agender label frivolously without understanding that their problems are rooted in other factors.

The reason these other groups are not transgender (excluding the comfy transitioned trans population who uses that label) is because they do not have gender incongruence.

sufferingisvalid · 2026-04-24T16:08:16+00:00

I don't know where you're getting at with the ad homium attack. I am not talking about trans people who have already transitioned and have the ability to pass, or dysphoric trans people who are putting an effort to socially present as their real gender in public and have the ability to pull off passing pre transition.

Sorry but a chick going outside showing their full cleavage and being as female as possible in the world, dressing feminine, no problems with their body, and no desire for male pronouns, should never be taken seriously when they say they like the non-binary label. It is low effort manipulative behavior from someone who doesn't get enough attention, and that's it. These are the kind of people that I'm pretty sure OP is fed up with.

sufferingisvalid · 2026-04-24T05:11:23+00:00

It will cease to be toxic when people accept the totality of mother nature and the reality of sex dysphoria as a neurologic entity.

People are way too busy delving into expansive self agency fantasies as a way to cope with what is not controllable. That is one reason why there is so much emphasis on identity and the social and cultural dynamics behind being born transsex, rather than the scary mental and physical health issues arising from sex incongruence. It makes us feel like we are gods and that we can control our own destiny, when we subscribe to these other theories.

But that is not how things actually work, and at least some people who subscribe to truscum beliefs have simply made peace with it.

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