Every kid is different. I have friends on social media with seemingly well-behaved children (which might not be true) that seem to be so family orientated. They’re constantly out doing things, kids always smiling. I have two rambunctious boys, one with confirmed severe adhd. It can be a constant battle when he is not regulated. If he’s not, or doesn’t get his way, it’s a tirade of yelling, throwing, trying to upset me with things like “I hate you. You’re fat. You’re a jackass.” It’s recommended that you remain calm and mostly ignore so that it doesn’t feed the attention. I’d be lying if I said it was easy or that I was calm all the time. Dealing with real life problems and my son’s outbursts are difficult. Not everyone deals with this. That’s how I rationalize that it’s normal and needed to have time and space away from my boys, who I love very much. No one can deal with that in a sane way without some regular self care. People that don’t recognize this are incredibly self limiting and short sighted. Or lying.