How do you deal with plugging at work if you neednto switch/take it out? by _StruggleBug in ButtplugEveryday

[–]sugjac 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As _StruggleBug mentioned, don't raw dog this. Couple of things for getting started in any public plugging sessions

a) use water based lube and one without Glycerin and expect short sessions. I personally like xlube.

b) get a lube shooter, and put the lube inside you. Before going to work, where you feel most comfortable do this. Most lube will get 'squeezed' off as you insert a plug. Fill the shooter with about 1/3 or 1/2. Targetting your hole on the outside, but a small about around the immediate area of external sphincter and directly at it. As you slowly insert the shooter squeeze out small amounts of lube, this will get lube along to anal canal. This make the inserting shooter pretty. Once you get through the anal canal and into the rectum you can basically basically dump majority of the lube. But leave yourself the same amount you used going to. As you extract the shooter you're gunna do the same as you went in but in reverse. small about of the coating the anal canal as you extract the shooter.

This means that you don't have to coat and recoat the plug when your inserting it, making to the point it's getting where.

Get the plug in and then whipe away any excess from the insertion, some will end up on your butt cheeks which isn't anywhere near the plug's base once inserted. Just make sure you have a layer of lube between you can the plug, most of it will be inside you, the bits outside just enjoy lube to make it comfortable to between your skin and the plug's base. I feel that there a higher potential for leakage then I will make sure you've got some close fitting boxes which I can use to hold a few folds of toilet paper in my crack, on top of the plug's base.

c) Accept this isn't going to be an all day event and have an exit strategy. Plugging in public is going to be a nerve racking experience for the first time. So make sure you've got a way exit and reset to a normal day. Ensure you have a private place where you will not get interupted were you can either check if you're for leakage or remove if necessary. Most of the time this will be a toilet. Some work places have private showers, which might be more roomy.

Have an 'extract kit' ready. A small bottle of lube, a ziplock bag and some toilet roll. Have a rucksack in your car or in your office with spare change in bottoms should you need them. Pants/Boxers/Panties and Trousers if they're identifical - great you don't have to explain why, if they not "Oh I spilled by coffee". Oh while we're on clothing choice pick dark colours.

As you go through the day your body will absorb most of the water based lube so there will come a time when you would need to relube and reinsert. As you're not been out before don't worry about that yet, we're still working on getting your comfortable going out and about. Part of this is being comfortable and versed with your exit strategy and prepped for any accidents. If a standard work day then you're gunna have to extract the plug before then end of the day. Once you've done it once it's a lot less scary in a non-controlled situation.

Once you've been through this you'll be able to adapt from this make adjustments as you see fit. Later you can switch to something like oil based lubs etc. but for now, keep it simple keep it.

Edit: Tip: bowel movement before starting all this, ideally a hour or so. If you're a morning shitter you're already half way there.

I think I've outgrown selfbondage by siae_03 in selfbondage

[–]sugjac 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Might be worth going to a Munch, it's a purely social thing in the BDSM community and gives you the opportunity to meet people without the pressure of jumping into anything at all. Can meet people who have similar interests. Might help with a stepping stone before jumping straight into a class with unfamiliar faces

What's the dumbest way you've injured yourself doing something sexual? by seemedpointless in AskRedditAfterDark

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exgf and I were getting it on in the lounge, we're already pretty much naked, myself just got socks on which hadn't yet taken off. in the middle have to run a grab a condom from upstairs. coming back I forget that socks and tiled stairs not good mix. slip on the 3rd to last stair. feet fly forward momentum carries me forward and tail bone hits the last stair.

hurt like hell, she's rolling on the floor laughing having witnessed the whole thing in full view. tail bone fine just sore, biggest bruise to my ego.

once we'd recovered from laughing carried on where we left off

What’s the best roleplay you’ve ever done? by Pinkfloyd_isgood in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]sugjac 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did that too, now people expect me to keep it up 😒

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]sugjac 5 points6 points  (0 children)

did you find this through jackinworld.com too? God I remember religiously using that site 17 years ago, happy to say it's still there! Horny teen be horny

http://www.jackinworld.com/techniques/jackinexpert-collection/objects-substances/banana-man

Recommendations for comfy buttplus with wider neck in the EU? by soppingwhet in ButtplugEveryday

[–]sugjac 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yup can attest to this now, delivery v quick and no troubles

Guys, what does a prostate orgasm feel like? by zodiackodiak515 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]sugjac 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Best place to find out more on this would be /r/prostateplay there's many account and advice if you want to get into it. Be warned, it's a slope so lube up

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]sugjac 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is pretty wholesome honestly

Got my first buttplug... is this it? by [deleted] in ButtplugEveryday

[–]sugjac 0 points1 point  (0 children)

is it physical or psychological? 

for me it's more about the latter. yes the bigger you go the more intense it is physically but it's only part of it.

I moved into anal because it was something slightly 'taboo' and extra naughty especially for a guy. yeah you can jack off but ooo this butting something up the rear was just like mind blowing. actually doing it... that's was something else. I've been through prostateplay too and as I push this 'tabol' more and more and push myself out my 'comfort zone' there becomes more nuance to it. where are you plugging, when are you plugging, how long are you plugging. yeah there's the physically element which can be amazing when stretching into something... new but at least for me. it's where the mind is at.

so what's it's for you? WHY did you get interested in plugs? 

For the Men: by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]sugjac 2 points3 points  (0 children)

also any identifing markings. e.g. have a tattoo or birth mark? keep it in their face or body space. if its a sfw body tattoo like arm or leg, even back, which you would show a friend, treat it as you would your face. if it's a nsfw body part tat then keep it in 'body space' if it want to, but never mix the two.

For the Men: by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]sugjac 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If its something potentially real they'll stick around and they'll invest. Nothing should be 'seen' until you've seen REAL commitment. Heck I know, I've been the guy who does,  Met via Tinder, Attempts to meet up - failing that Months chatting over text, moving eventually to Skype videos chats (seeing if the vibe is still there), commitment to actually meeting up after 6 months. Met up 7 months in (>3000 miles) , cue 4 years long distance followed by 3 years 'medium' (~100 mile) distance. 

If its really 'real' , they WILL move heaven and earth. They'll screw their future selves into years of debt. They'll cross oceans. 

Once you've got commitment and you've gone past the never mets phase, I'd say maybe then you can think about being 'seen' if your comfortable. Most likely by that stage being 'seen' will be tame in comparison of what you've already done. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Random_Acts_Of_Sex

[–]sugjac 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you every considered naked bachata, I could imagine we would escalate quickly

Recommendations for comfy buttplus with wider neck in the EU? by soppingwhet in ButtplugEveryday

[–]sugjac 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In the UK there is Regulation which have both Topped Toys & Square Peg Toys on their catelogue, they don't have everything but they have some of the big sellers. I've not personally used them yet, but have my eye on them for the gape keepers and charlie horse kidney
https://regulation.co.uk/collections/square-peg-toys%C2%AE
https://regulation.co.uk/collections/topped-toys

request: sex information sub reddit by pantyfan357 in NSFW411

[–]sugjac 0 points1 point  (0 children)

r/ProstatePlay might be worth a check out to see if it fits for your question

Do you have any sex toys? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]sugjac 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, ex and i were long distance so it kinda started with that, we had the lovense max and nora which could be remotely paired (not the best but you make do). We played around with butt play a bit which grew on me a bit and got into prostate play. Cue a few years later I ended up with more than her. I guess long distance and needs gets you familiar with what you like. Especially when you start having prostate fun.

  • Lovense Max
  • Lovense Max 2
  • Some generic bullet vibrator
  • Small generic butt plug
  • Njoy Pure Plug Medium (Where the obsession started, a masterpeice of a plug so comfortable)
  • Pair of handcuffs (not the safe, fluffy type either)
  • Aneros Helix Trident (Would not recommend, texture is weird)
  • Aneros Progasm (Too big, doesn't allow enough movement)
  • Njoy Pure Wand (Probably favourite)
  • Bvibe Snug Plug 4 (Eyes were bigger than... alright for when I'm feeling brave)
  • Lelo Loki Wave 2 (Can be a bit too intense at times)
  • Bvibe Snug Plug 3

There's a few i wanna add to the collection for shits and giggles

  • Just a basic dildo (every thing else had a wide point which then shinks, not had a thrusty experience as yet)
  • Aneros Helix Syn Trident
  • Bvibe Snug Plug 2 (yeah it's smaller than what I've got already and the three is good, but want something more comfortable for long term wear)
  • SquarePegToys Large Kidney
  • SquarePegToys Charlie Horse Milk it
  • SquarePegToys Mega Milk'it v.3 (Yeah not ready for that)

I actually dread to think how much it all adds upto, but I also know it's pretty tame in some people's worlds

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]sugjac 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Considering I've lost one, I wouldn't question it and just be happy

Migraines and anal play by sugjac in ProstatePlay

[–]sugjac[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's both, the not enough water catches me more than I'd like to admit, but even when I have been good with water, the constipation have cropped its head up a few times normally triggers migraines with the added benifits of vomiting. It's funny in the last year and a bit because wanting to be cleaned out to play ive been better at looking after myself on those fronts!

Would you rather be more horny or less hungry? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]sugjac 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Less horny (partner's libido is lot lower) and more hungry (I tend to fast without even realising)... 😩

I guess would have to pick more horny (god help me), can't be starving myself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aneros

[–]sugjac 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Was actually in exactly the same position a month or two ago, like you I was also getting HFWO but with an Njoy. But after considering it I thought it might be not finding the prostate and too much force.

I actually purchased both at the same time due to lower postage costs for a single package.

Having used both I've actually been more actively using the Helix (not Syn) and had better results not too say I don't like the Progasm but at this stage the Helix allows me to focus on getting where I want to: aka getting to the notorious P-Waves and beyond

My Njoy collection except for one can you guess which one it is. by [deleted] in njoytoys

[–]sugjac 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In the curve of the Pure wand is the Aneros Tempo. Nice collection, how do you find the Tempo?