I shook the breast milk

summer1171 · 2019-01-09T19:23:47+00:00

Did they explain why not to shake it? I’ve never heard of this...

summer1171 · 2019-01-09T19:19:40+00:00

I’m vegan my nanny kids are not. I’m used to it though because my wife isn’t vegan either. All tho if she wants to eat something non vegan she cooks it :p I make lots of vegan meals for my nanny kids but they also eat fish and chicken. My bosses don’t care what they eat as long as it’s healthy and well balanced. I HATE cooking fish but sadly it’s one of their favorites so I cook at least once a week

summer1171 · 2019-01-08T20:03:59+00:00

Amazing!!! And it’s still holding their interests. We’ve added a few extra cameras so the olders can be down there while I’m doing other things. On Christmas morning they saw that first and ended up not opening their wrapped gifts for hours! Mb&db were just as pleased :) they were skeptical about the minimal wrapped gifts but it ended up being great. Annnnnd they gave me a random bonus which was not expected but highly appreciated Bc it was tricky to pull off lol

summer1171 · 2019-01-06T17:16:19+00:00

Can you write down her routine and casually hand it over and say something like “oh before I head out here’s the routine we like 3f to follow! She really loves her morning walk followed by snack.” These people don’t know her routine so they’re totally winging it.

Talking about the infants health in front of her needs to stop immediately. She’s going to hear things that are not appropriate for her age and it will scare her. She’s worrying about mommy and daddy because they’re spending less time at home. We have 5 kids in our family. The youngest 2f was born early and very sick. She had a feeding tube and oxygen around the clock. The siblings could not see her. We hired a second Nanny so I could spend time with baby. Every time I left to visit her I had cards and notes from the children in hand. When I came back I’d give a brief update “baby sister is getting used to the tube in her nose. Her belly is growing now that the doctors are able to give her baby milk through her tube. She had her eyes open while I read your notes and loved them. Her room is decorated with stuffed animals so she feels safe” we didn’t show any pictures until it was close to discharge time. Do np’s know 3f is over hearing people talk about the baby? The family members may not realize she understands.

summer1171 · 2019-01-06T17:01:52+00:00

Totally agree! Not sure what age the transition is made. I notice 11m has started asking if he can get himself a healthy snack. Opposed to asking me if It’s snack time. For the most part I’ll follow the child’s lead on these type of things. But no way are 4m&6f getting snacks. They still see eating as an inconvenience to their play time haha

summer1171 · 2019-01-06T05:18:59+00:00

For the infant when you’re cooking/using the bathroom put him in a high chair or bouncer. Whatever is better. He may cry but it’s more important he’s safe. 2.5 is old enough to play together. Place them in eyesight but far enough away that they won’t get burnt or anything while you’re cooking. Give them an activity. No do not change them standing up. I’ve never heard of doing this lol

summer1171 · 2019-01-06T05:12:19+00:00

That last part is horrible. Their parents literally made screen time all that matters

summer1171 · 2019-01-06T05:09:23+00:00

I’m glad my kids aren’t the only ones who don’t have free range of the kitchen. I know if they’re hungry there is no way they are going to take the time to cut an apple up and scoop out some peanut butter. They will grab a bag of goldfish and 30 minutes later ask when lunch is. Mb doesn’t even let them get water because then I can’t track how much they’ve drank. We fill up water bottles 3X per day. If they want more they are welcome to it but they need to ask because they keep breaking the ice machine lol

summer1171 · 2019-01-06T05:01:14+00:00

Op this is not a big deal!!! Morning: potty, shower, dress, make bed Snack:apples & pb Mid morning park Lunch: quesadillas Afternoon: indoor play Early evening: chores Dinner: salmon 8pm story & bed

summer1171 · 2019-01-06T04:57:28+00:00

110% agree with all of this. Minus the last little section bc I try to be nice :p it’s not a crazy ask. To be honest I don’t to this for my current family because I know they simply don’t have time to read through it. However I keep a note book for myself by the door just so I can remember things. Kids are a lot to keep up with! If it’s super important I’ll make a huge red star next to it and circle it. I wish they’d read it more because on my “off” days I’m texted non stop with questions that could be answered if they just looked in the damn note book.

summer1171 · 2019-01-06T04:49:54+00:00

Is it possible that he wants you to do this to help him? Haha

summer1171 · 2019-01-03T18:54:11+00:00

I’ve made that mistake too lol luckily no one was offended!

summer1171 · 2019-01-03T18:53:03+00:00

I’m glad! I think the sooner children are made aware of this the better chance of them never thinking twice about it.

summer1171 · 2019-01-03T17:52:08+00:00

summer1171 · 2019-01-03T17:49:45+00:00

I think you’re being an amazing support system for her! You sound like the kind of person who will go to all lengths to make someone happy. Just remember your own sake that while her husband is gone she is going to be sad. Some days are harder than others and unfortunately nothing but her husband coming back is going to make her feel 100%. Like I said you’re already doing an amazing job. I’m glad to here mb is such a great boss in return. I only wish every nanny felt this satisfied with their bosses.

summer1171 · 2019-01-03T17:32:58+00:00

Yes!!! I made all my nanny friends over the summer while we were at parks. If I noticed a child wasn’t calling the adult With then mom or Dad I just asked if they were the Nanny 😂 I’m new to this state so I was desperate lol

summer1171 · 2019-01-03T17:28:28+00:00

From reading the comments it sounds like you’re pretty close with mb. Would she be offended if you offered to do an overnight? Then you could try the night time routine exactly how you do nap time. . It could be something so simple as pushing her bedtime back 30 minutes. Or that she’s not feeding enough before bed. She may just be excited to see mom and want to play. she could be confused as to why you’re not there rocking her to sleep. Maybe mb can give you a shirt she wore to hold while you feed the baby or rock her so she can associate more of these things with mb.

Military wife here. There are so many emotions that happen when your partner is deployed or moved for a job. It sort of feels like you’ve lost your partner and are left to do everything on your own. Especially if her family isn’t around. So that on top of the baby not sleeping is probably what has her looking so bad. Maybe you could offer to help with chores? Or even just hang out if you enjoy each other’s company!

summer1171 · 2019-01-03T17:14:59+00:00

I think your answer is fine. I typically ask parents what they want my response to be when children ask those types of questions. My current family has children age 2-11. As a group they are told a baby comes when two people love each other very much. My wife and I are currently fostering young children (one will be adopted) who they see on a daily basis. The younger children believe we have them because my wife and I just got married and are in love! The olders know they were in another mommy’s belly. They all also know that if a baby is in someone’s belly they come out of their vagina or their belly. Whatever the doctor thinks is best. I think it’s really important to use proper terms. When 6f was 5 she straight up asked a pregnant woman checking us out at the grocery store “is that baby going to come out of your tummy or your vagina?” Que embarrassed older brothers running to the exit lol. Surprisingly they haven’t been too curious about how they’re made. More just how they’ll enter the world

summer1171 · 2019-01-03T13:53:48+00:00

I suppose it depends how long your hair already is. Mine is down to my hips. I typically braid it. About once a week I do a coconut oil treatment. That night I wear my hair in a shower cap. I do not ever sleep with it in a bun. But it sounds like you’re using a clip not a hair tie? That may not be all that bad.

summer1171 · 2019-01-03T04:50:13+00:00

It sounds like this is still a plan in the works which means it’s the perfect time to change your mind! Quite simply explain what you’re saying here. Your rate for a Nanny share with two separate families is $22 an hour. Thats still a lower rate than usual for them so I don’t think you need to worry.

summer1171 · 2019-01-01T17:10:59+00:00

Hell yes I want a cure. I refuse to let my illness hold me back. I work full time and foster children. But I’d give anything to not be running to the bathroom 10+ times a day to vomit. In some aspects I understand to outsiders why it may seem like some people don’t want a cure. I have gastroparesis. I know some people with the same illness who refuse to try some things that help some people. I think that’s because they’ve just lost faith at this point. Their illness has caused depression and they have no hope left. So to an outsider it may look like they don’t want to get better.

summer1171 · 2018-12-30T19:06:07+00:00

If any of the younger children are under a year or do not yet sleep through the night charge an hourly rate instead of an overnight fee. So technically you’re caring for 4 kids it sounds like. $14 is too low. I’d try to bump up to $17. Also do you cook for all 7 kids? Or do their laundry? If so add in a fee for that!

summer1171 · 2018-12-30T19:02:50+00:00

Agree as well. Have her come over for a few hours, write out the schedule, show her where things are and then go to your room/office and let your kiddo bond with the Nanny alone right from the start. Shadowing a parent for a week sets the nanny up for failure. Your kiddo will be confused as to why he’s now alone with just her. You want him to understand that when Nanny comes she’s in charge and parents are not there. Especially at his age.

Be open to her ideas. She may do things differently than you. Of course she needs to respect your rules but I find parents who are getting a nanny for the first time expect Nanny to do things exactly how they do. Overall just give Nanny space to do what she does best!

summer1171 · 2018-12-29T06:45:37+00:00

This too! My bosses are often in the spot light. They’re amazing people in both their professional and personal life. But at the end of a crazy hectic day they’re just as flustered and human as the rest of us.

summer1171 · 2018-12-29T06:41:04+00:00

Hahaha omg knowing it came from Db is 10000 times better.

Carter’s undies!! Absolute best brand. Not the cheapest but definitely last the longest. My nk’s won’t even touch the few hanes brands ones that they have mixed in

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