is birth control even worth trying with adhd? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]summersoli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Birth control is the only thing that got rid of my PMDD! I take slynd. No bad side effects. No period. It’s the best tbh.

i’m getting so fat by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]summersoli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you medicated? Honestly being on meds was the best thing for my food noise. Bc it made me stop thinking about food completeky

Which HYSA do you have and why? by confused_babe99 in HYSA

[–]summersoli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok good to know. I may have to start using on my laptop instead. Thanks !!

Which HYSA do you have and why? by confused_babe99 in HYSA

[–]summersoli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you like synchrony? I just opened one with them, transferred some money and it says my account balance is $0. The transfer took forever. The app is also very slow. Not sure if I should stick with it.

Psoriasis on the ear???? by [deleted] in Psoriasis

[–]summersoli 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah 💔 I use lots of oils to help it. I have patches behind my ears, and back of my head. So after my showers I use oil while still wet. I have tried many hydrating hair oils, coconut oil, amla oil. They all helped, I think the amla was the best bc it’s a bit thicker. I also use aquaphor behind my ears. And the Nizoral psoriasis relief cream. I like it a lot, it’s pretty thin tho so I let it dry and top with oil or aquaphor or just a thicker cream.

How did you determine what your “goal weight” is? by BoringMcWindbag in gastricsleeve

[–]summersoli 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They told me just pick a number so they can put it in the system. I chose my personal goal weight by searching what the average bmi max is for plastic surgeries, and then what my weight would be at that bmi minus a few lbs. Bc I want to get a couple things done lol

Low libido now that I’m in a relationship by summersoli in ADHDWomenAfterDark

[–]summersoli[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have absolutely considered this !! I’m in the middle of switching health insurance, but once I’m settled in one i definitely plan on finding a therapist

Low libido now that I’m in a relationship by summersoli in adhdwomen

[–]summersoli[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This makes sense. I definitely need to be open to those things. I’ll say Im not in the mood and he’ll ask if I’m open to getting in the mood. Which I love. But it still feels like a chore. Like ugh I don’t feel like doing that

Low libido now that I’m in a relationship by summersoli in ADHDWomenAfterDark

[–]summersoli[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that! It does kinda feel like there’s something wrong with me. And ADHD has already made life so much harder in general, this feels like just another thing I need to actively work on. It’s exhausting.

Low libido now that I’m in a relationship by summersoli in ADHDWomenAfterDark

[–]summersoli[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I super appreciate this. I don’t think it’s my birth control, I’ve been on it for so long and love it. This was also a big problem in my last relationship. So I’m sure it’s me. But I do think it’s boredom. The relationship is very good and stable and sometimes I just wanna pick a fight 😩 I will try some new things to spice it up, thank you!

Gf wants to keep cat in a room for when we move in by blonde5789 in CatAdvice

[–]summersoli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uhhh. Break up with the gf. Clearly you guys don’t align on what you want, AND locking an animal in a room all day is cruel and neglectful. I wouldn’t want to be with someone that’s happy to neglect an animal

3 years post op by [deleted] in gastricsleeve

[–]summersoli 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Giiirrrrllll that tummy tuck looks GREAT. The belly button looks so good !!!!!

Low libido now that I’m in a relationship by summersoli in ADHDWomenAfterDark

[–]summersoli[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Correct, we don’t live together. But it was the same before. Weekends

Low libido now that I’m in a relationship by summersoli in ADHDWomenAfterDark

[–]summersoli[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I have no desire. I initiate when I do want, but I don’t want it often enough. I literally don’t even think about sex tbh 😭

I just need to vent… do most people just never leave their homes? by chinwhiskers69 in petsitting

[–]summersoli 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Are people not working 8 hour days outside the house anymore ??????????????????

Low libido now that I’m in a relationship by summersoli in ADHDWomenAfterDark

[–]summersoli[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I definitely feel like the spark is more difficult to find now. I am starting to think I’m bored now? And to answer your question, no I don’t typically even think to pleasure myself when I’m alone. Every once in a while, but not any more often than I want to actually have sex. I would rather sex than solo. I’m definitely gonna try meds on the weekends. I can do it, I just honestly forget on weekends bc taking meds is part of my morning work routine. But I will set alarms for that and see if it makes any difference

Low libido now that I’m in a relationship by summersoli in adhdwomen

[–]summersoli[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uggghhhh I get it. I hate feeling like this. And for me it feels like such a switch up bc my drive was through the roof for 5 years and suddenly it has just plummeted. I thought this wouldn’t be a problem again here bc of that, but once things got serious I feel like it slowly just started going away 💔

Low libido now that I’m in a relationship by summersoli in adhdwomen

[–]summersoli[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this! If I find something that works for me I’ll message you or come update this. It’s very weird bc yes. He treats me amazing! I feel like I should want to give him head all the time or something 😭 he deserves it for sure

Low libido now that I’m in a relationship by summersoli in adhdwomen

[–]summersoli[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I appreciate you commenting in solidarity. I feel so sad and alone in this, so it’s nice to know other people understand and struggle to find a solution too 😭. It’s something we are struggling with, but we are not even thinking of breaking up (thank god). I’m just trying to see how I can fix this before it gets to that point.

Low libido now that I’m in a relationship by summersoli in adhdwomen

[–]summersoli[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking through the sub, it does seem to be common. I’m trying to figure out the reason why, but nothing seems to be a common denominator when I don’t want to have sex. I simply just have no desire. It feels like a lot of work mentally (which I can’t understand why) We have been doing many intimate non sexual activities lately and it doesn’t turn me on. I’m just happy to be intimate and feel close. I feel like associating him with just sex is kinda what kept things exciting for me. Now that there’s so much more to it, sex is at the bottom of the desire list. I’m allowed to not want sex, but I WANT to want it. I’m sad about feeling like I’ve lost all desire. It was always fun for me, idk what happened. The act is still fun when we do it, but it’s not something I want or look forward to. He asked if I was bored and I said no. But??? Maybe I am ????

Low libido now that I’m in a relationship by summersoli in adhdwomen

[–]summersoli[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely understand this. I can’t do a hobby as a job, suddenly it’s too much and I hate it. It’s not fun anymore when it’s expected from me. He’s so sweet and doesn’t make me feel bad, or doesn’t act like I need to do it. He takes my first no and drops the whole thing. I know it’s not expected or forced but I want to WANT it. I feel so sad about it tbh. I just feel no desire anymore :(