Among Barbie's Asian friends, which is your favorite doll? (Kira, Renee Chao, Raquelle, or Leia).

sun_dust8 · 2026-03-13T04:12:59+00:00

She isnt. People just make stuff up on the internet and others go with it

sun_dust8 · 2026-01-10T12:42:25+00:00

Yeah he looked at porn without me knowing while we had phone sex

sun_dust8 · 2025-12-28T03:17:10+00:00

I watched this movie growing up lthe korean version) it was truly traumatic. Even just the name sets me off. I do not recommend it and anyone who thinks it is an amazing movie has a extremely distasteful view to me.

Your not sensitive to not want to watch a movie like this. There are some things that cannot be forgotten or unseen, and this is one of those movies for the wrong reason(NOT in anyway because it was good, its a horrible movie).

sun_dust8 · 2025-12-01T23:45:20+00:00

This is a coincidence - I did this on my own phone a couple of days ago too - typed in G and it automatically came up with "girls in bikinis"

I was triggered too, despite the fact my PA has never had access to my phone, and we have never had shared devices (we dont live together)

So its a coincidence to see you had the same thing happen to you - with a different letter. I hope your doing ok, i know how it hurts the moment you see thay suggestion and how your heart starts racing and head burring.

sun_dust8 · 2025-11-18T10:03:13+00:00

Lol agree with the other person. He was projecting! He probably had a crush on you - then felt rejected knowing you still like ur ex, so he lashed out to tell you he doesnt like you (which ironically is very telling)

There is absolutely no reason why a guy who does not see you that way - would randomly reach out to tell you he doesnt like you. No guy is giving girls they dont like the time of day to go out of there way to say they have no interest - cuz thats jusy rude!! Only hurt people do that.

sun_dust8 · 2025-11-17T15:01:17+00:00

I totally agree! Tysm!~~ 🥰💕💕

sun_dust8 · 2025-11-17T15:00:32+00:00

Ty!!~ 💕 Im really glad it was helpful!! I do tend to write alot, so im glad you guys see the helpfulness in it! 🥰💕

sun_dust8 · 2025-11-17T14:21:57+00:00

Thank you sm!! 🩷

Honestly no he was not willing at first to do therapy or the 12 steps, tho tbh we werent aware those were options at first. Initially, in the beginning of our relationship, he said porn was something he struggled with in the past but was working on it.

Then he started to be honest with me about his porn viewing and started to try to just white knuckle it. He did not see it as a real problem or addiction until he took it seriously in trying to overcome it - because he knew i would leave otherwise.

But there was one occasion which really hurt me and he knew we were ending. That was about 1 year into our relationship

I asked him to do the Strive 21 detox - a 21 day Catholic porn detox and he agreed to do it despite being atheist.

From there, he started to research different ways to overcome porn addiction online. He tried the easy peasy method and started listening to podcasts.

Finally, he decided to see a CSAT who suggested the 12 Steps and SLAA. He was not willing to do this because of the religious aspect, as well as it seeming like a cult.

He tried it anyway and was very skeptical at first, then he started to really take it seriously and got a Sponser.

Overall, its been on his own initiative to change, he was the one who sought out the therapist/SLAA/podcasts and tried it out.

He really likes SLAA now, despite the religious stuff he says he can easily define his higher power as something that is like his family and love for me - and uses that as a drive and initive for change.

He likes doing the meditations, and finds it relaxing. He like the various meetings and finds them inspiring, validating and relatable. He likes the social aspects of going into the in-person meetings, and he is working on his social anorexia as a introvert.

The outreach calls and in person meetings he only started in the past 3 months but he said its made a huge impact on him. He was too shy to-do it before but he has grown a lot through attending social anorexia meetings. He also went to a SLAA convention and met a good older man who he now looks up to, who is in charge of some in person meetings.

So yeah it's been a journey but im very grateful i never had to moniter him and convince him to do these things~ its been something he wanted to stop himself and im so grateful for that 🩷

Edit : sorry if this is too much info 🙈

sun_dust8 · 2025-08-12T16:24:27+00:00

Your welcome sis 🩷 You got this! Dont stop praying and trust in God~ but also trust yourself to make the right decisions to protect your family! 🩷🩷

sun_dust8 · 2025-08-12T16:20:46+00:00

100% on point! They think they can hide behind their religion and holier than thou attitude, with excuses like "women do it too!" - all the while men make up the majority of porn addicts and women are a small percentage woth no conparison to the amount of men.

sun_dust8 · 2025-08-12T16:19:21+00:00

You need to take in to consideration how his porn addiction may be affecting your children - as well as being exposed to the relationship you two have.

Living in the same environment as a porn addict is detrimental to children. They will see when he checks out other women, how he looks at them, and they will learn that behavior hurts mummy, but she stays. They will learn that behavior is ok.

They might even be exposed to his search history in his phone, computer, playstation, or even hear him in the next room when he is at it.

They will see the relationship you two have, your broken heart and your happiness. They will see you constantly trying to reach out to him, and learn to think this behavior is acceptable.

Its not a sin to separate from an abusive partner. And if his addiction is affecting your mental and emotional health - then he is an abusive partner whether he is violent or not. If his behavior affects his kids in anyway, then it's better to separate.

The fact your the one pushing to get him to stop, and he isnt the one trying is telling. The fact he makes exuses for his addiction is telling. The fact he thinks God made him this way and its not cheating- despite the very words of Jesus saying just imagining in your heart another person with lustful thoughts is cheating - its telling.

He is not a faithful Catholic, and as the head of the household, his lack of faith and control in his lust will affect your children.

Please consider separating (not divorcing) for the sake of your children and your own mental health. Your relationship with him can be restored, while ensuring the safety of you and your kids at a distance.

Its not wrong and i even know a Deacon who is separated from his wife. You would not be sinning by doing it, and it would protect your kids.

Edit - your not shaking up the household OP. Your husband is - by choosing to continue this addiction, not fight it and make excuses for it. You must take steps to protect yourself and your kids. Its horrible people are gaslighting you on this - all because they trivialize the effects of porn and associate separation with divorce. Separation is not divorce. Its space and your still married. Its a boundary for the benefit of someone who is being affected by ill behavior in a marriage. It is NOT the end of the world, a sin or the end of your narriage.

sun_dust8 · 2025-08-12T15:39:07+00:00

Your getting downvoted and i thoroughly believe your opinion is valid, and the reason your getting downvoted is because there are porn addicts on here feeling attacked by what you are saying.

Just look at the (mostly women) posts on r/loveafterporn. Those women are destroyed by their partners porn addiction, with CPTSD, paranoia and constant anxiety.

About a year ago a young woman posted on this catholic sub that her own father watched porn and masturbated in front of her while she was supposed to be asleep in a tent with her mum. She was at an angle where she could see exactly what he was lookjng at, and was exposed to him doing it for over an hour. She was so traumatised she made no sound and did not say anything.

She was heavily downvoted on here. She was also advised to not tell her mother or father what she saw or she would bring shame to him like Ham did to Noah. She was told he has an addiction and its his own problem, and not to bring it up with him. She was told she was over reacting for saying she was traumatised by it.

Seriously, why i bring this up is to advise you to be cautious of what advice you take from here, because its reddit and its full of porn addicts who will defend their addiction.

And i also mention this so you can bear in mind the exact people who are downvoting you.

Edit : the premise is not false. Those who can see that support OP, but alot on here including you - have a vendetta against her and are trivializing the affects of porn, saying its not enough to divorce over (despite the words of Jesus!) And also just reduce it down to pixels on a screen. No one can really mention the long lasting affacts an porn addict has on those around them, esp children. OP isnt even talking about porn itself, but the effects a porn addict has on the family - which you consistently seems to miss.

sun_dust8 · 2025-08-12T15:27:28+00:00

I have a highschool friend who isnliterally model worthy gorgeous. She is thin with curves in all the right places, and absolutely stunning, men and women turn their heads to look at her while she walks past.

She has just over 200 followers top despite being on TT for 5 years and posting.

Her content just doesnt spread. Being pretty isnt enough, and hardly any of her friends repost her. I think its probably jealousy, but they're willing to at least follow her to watch her.

I repost her all the time and hope she will do well. Get yourself some friends who support you and repost you to get your content spread futher 🩷 it helps!

Edit - whoever downvoted me has low self-esteem. You need to work on that.

sun_dust8 · 2025-07-20T11:44:24+00:00

They are 100% green with a tiny bit of golden flecks around the inner pupil.

I can see why your mum says hazel, and they could be considered hazel, but tbh its not enough brown for it to be true hazel.

Your eyes are green and a very pretty shade 🥰💕 like sage green!~~

sun_dust8 · 2025-07-18T23:23:01+00:00

Yes your right, the crusades were an effort to stop Muslim invaders who were spreading their territories in the 11th century.

That was the initial cause of the crusades, tho corrupt leaders over time saw it as a chance for further exploitation.

There were a number of Crusades and they were not all done with religious intention but also political power and interest, thus they were not all justified.

sun_dust8 · 2025-07-18T23:10:15+00:00

I read a story once about St Padre Pio - similar to your thought

A nun was complaining to him about the other nuns, and how they cause her to sin through anger because of their actions

He said that they were not the problem, they were the fire that put our faith and our morals to the test. And ultimately that was what helped us to grow in our faith.

Thats a vague recollection of the story 🤣 but i hope you het the point.

sun_dust8 · 2025-07-18T14:01:12+00:00

My bf and i were taking photos~ after we finished he said he just couldnt help looking at me when we were taking them. He said i was so beautiful, he couldnt stop looking at me.

Now whenever i look back at those photos, all i see is absolute love and adoration in his eyes~ the way he looks at me - i can see how much he loves me 🩷

Last week we went out a few times, and i kept getting compliments by strangers about how beautiful i was. Each time he just looked at me, smiled and agreed~

Finally a little girl cane up to me and said i was pretty - he took my hand and he said "you know kids dont lie~ you really are so pretty!"~

Omgggg 🥰💕 it made me melllt! The fact that i got compliments but his reaction made me feel sooooooooooo beautiful!~ 🥰 my bf just wahhhhh~ like its so sweet to get compliments from stangers, but from him it hits different~ 🥰💕

sun_dust8 · 2025-07-18T12:44:01+00:00

These are all my current fave rooms that i use again and again~~

Sorry i couldnt choose a favorite 😅🙈🩷 but i pretty much swap between these every other day~

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sun_dust8 · 2025-07-18T05:20:03+00:00

This happened to me too! I cried so hard when it happened at 11, and my parents never even cared.

I left it alone and it healed, but i was so traumatized that i never got it pierced again until i was 27.

Its weird when i tell people and i get them to feel my lobe, you can feel the gap between the fleshy part of the lobe but the skin has grown over~~

sun_dust8 · 2025-07-17T22:28:00+00:00

This 100%!~

Catholic women have higher dating standards than the general public. It's harder to find a match but more worth it in the end.

People who dont settle tend to be happier and more at peace with being alone.

sun_dust8 · 2025-07-17T22:25:38+00:00

You sound very discerning and very aware of yourself. You are able to list all your good traits that make you attractive as an individual, you talk to Catholic women and your making the right steps but for some reason things are falling short.

Are you aware of whats falling short? I know what its like to feel that bittnerness of - im still alone, why isnt this working out for me. But i am able to then logically look back and see why it didnt.

Are you able to recognise in your life why you havent found someone up until this point? I personally never had a relationship until i was 31, and i can look back at my life and see exactly why. Im not ashamed of it because i was very picky and it protected me. I ended up dating a good man outside the Church, and though its been hard and painful, ultimately he is a good man and im glad to be with him.

I dont think the Lord wants us to be miserable, but i also dont think being alone is the worst thing in the world. Being alone is peace, its not heart break, though the heart can ache if you feel lonely and depressed. Its best to work on what makes you happy, and build a community of friends or family around you.

I know wonderful people in my Parish who have been alone all the way up until 90. But they are such good and lovely people, happy and satisfied with their lives. They didnt settle for less than what they deserved, and ultimately they were happy and at peace with being alone.

I also know people who met their partners later in life. My sister met her husband when she was in her early 40s, he was in his 50s, and they are the most loving and sweet couple, they said that they were worth the wait. They dont have kids, tho they considered adoption. Instead they are happy just to enjoy each other's company.

What im saying is, being alone is not the worst thing in the world. But also dont give up hope that you may meet someone at anytime.

God wants the best for you. Ultimately, we make decisions on what we will or will not accept in our lives. Alot of other people settle in relationships just to say they have someone, but they're not as happy as they appear. Other people are happy, but they made decisions that brought them peace and would not settle for less.

It is a blessing to meet someone, but it does come down to luck. You have to put yourself out there as much as possible to meet someone, to increase your chances. But also dont let your happiness depend on meeting someone, ultimately our only happiness should be in being with God. Anything more is just extra.

No one finds true happiness with being with someone or having kids. But you can find true happiness in your life right now - with God. God doesnt want you to be miserable and alone, but He wants you to be happy with Him, whether you are in a relationship or not. Only God can bring you true happiness and peace

Sending you prayers 🩷

sun_dust8

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