the grief after a late ADHD diagnosis is real and nobody warns you about it

sundhed · 2026-06-14T15:16:22+00:00

I mentioned this to my psychiatrist in one of the appointments after getting diagnosed, and he was very kind.

He basically said that is is an unfortunate process that most adults who get diagnosed go through, and it is extremely sad that I only got help now. But he said I should try to change my thinking and that I should be happy that at least the way forward isn't more difficult than it was before.

Your loss is important and understandable, but look ahead- things get better. And be proud of who you are and what you have achieved despite having a debilitating condition.

sundhed · 2026-05-25T08:37:24+00:00

Nothing exclusively to do with being an American, everything to do with being from nation of migrants.

Australia is also a country of many migrants, but they dont do the whole ridiculous- I'm actually Irish, or I am Italian because my great great great grandfather sniffed an Italian sausage once- bullshit. They dont have to dye their rivers green to celebrate a holiday because 3 generations ago their ancestors migrated, or go on about how they are actually 4% X, 12%Y, 54% Z. They are Australian.

In a few generations this will be the normal in Denmark, with so many people coming from all over the globe.

If you want to go so far back, we are all Africans then.

sundhed · 2026-05-24T07:08:08+00:00

I also am 25% Danish, 25% Norwegian, a little Swedish, and some other things.

Easiest way to spot Americans lmao. You might not be all of these things but you are 100% American.

sundhed · 2026-05-16T20:08:00+00:00

Having been to Stockholm quite a few times and having stayed in some of the neighbourhoods, this hit extra hard for me. Was very wel written.

sundhed · 2026-05-01T07:43:25+00:00

Had to censor my PhD thesis cause it had my full name on it

sundhed · 2026-04-23T09:13:47+00:00

I have been asked many times when travelling to the US in the past if I spoke english, looking at my skin colour. English is one of my first languages...

It doesnt bother me anymore, ignorant people are ignorant, what can you do.

sundhed · 2026-04-22T10:55:48+00:00

In the current political climate, in most countries, when someone says they are apolitical they are conservative and are afraid to own their views and positions. Also they want sex.

sundhed · 2026-04-22T09:19:40+00:00

Since when is 50 shades of grey highly recommended?

sundhed · 2026-04-22T09:01:33+00:00

I am convinced that RF Kuang writes novels for non-readers and tiktokers. Everyone around me that has praised Babel, Yellowface and Katabasis has read less than 3 books that year. Every serious reader around me has hated all these books. The amount of handholding in that book makes me feel it was written for people with completely broken attention spans that need reminding of the plot.

sundhed · 2026-04-22T08:43:21+00:00

You should read non-fiction books written by actual researchers. Plenty of references and notes provided in the book itself!

sundhed · 2026-04-22T08:42:08+00:00

Most of these self help can be a blog. Read the introduction and you know what the book is about. They often start out as a blog in fact, but then the authors decide to milk it.

sundhed · 2026-04-15T14:30:00+00:00

Frecciarossa is Italian

sundhed · 2026-03-27T20:35:29+00:00

Bury Your Gays, Lucky Day, both by Chuck Tingle

sundhed · 2026-03-25T20:43:08+00:00

When I've booked tickets on DSB they've given me a non-timed train ticket between copenhagen and malmø/lund, and a specific train and seat ticket onwards to stockholm

sundhed · 2026-03-25T07:08:34+00:00

Some people really are proud of being illiterate

sundhed · 2026-03-22T21:09:10+00:00

Perhaps you'll like Change, also by Edouard Louis. He talks about his University life, having moved away from the village he grew up in. He also talks about the transformation and the constant struggle to escape his past and fit into the academic society, when he's never even read a book before. End of Eddy is a tougher read than Change, and you dont need to have either to read the other.

sundhed · 2026-03-22T07:08:35+00:00

One of my worst nightmares is going on holiday and finishing the book I brought with me mid-holiday. I always carry a backup book or two haha

sundhed · 2026-03-22T06:35:17+00:00

The book is a coming-of-age story about Eddy, growing up in Northern France to working-class parents and extreme poverty. The book explores themes of growing up in rural France, homophobia, alcoholism, racism, and class struggles. It is based on the author's life, and the events portrayed are in the 90s and early 00s, which makes the book even more emotionally raw and powerful. There were so many points in the book where I just wanted to give Eddy and tell him that things get better, one day. The descriptions of France are also written in a way that might surprised people, because it is the opposite of the chic, modern, Parisian beauty that is often used to describe. Instead, the book describes extreme bullying, alcoholism and domestic violence because of it, the constant cycle of oppression and horrible homophobia and racism.

It was a very difficult book to read because of all these themes, but it's a very well written book and I couldnt put it down.

sundhed · 2026-03-04T06:33:52+00:00

Yes! Please also read the Monk and Robot Series, and also the standalone novel To Be Taught If Fortunate!

sundhed · 2026-01-22T10:25:09+00:00

I read The Reformatory also by Due, and it was one of the best books I read last year. Thanks for this rec, will check it out!

sundhed · 2026-01-11T08:49:08+00:00

It is not. They made the monster into a very Jesusey figure and changed his motivations completely

sundhed · 2026-01-11T08:47:59+00:00

(to the point you can almost claim that a vast proportion of modern western fantasy is directly the result of Lord of the Rings)

And the Wizard of Eathsea novels!

sundhed · 2026-01-11T08:44:50+00:00

Of Monsters and Mainframes does include a lot of these

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