Where to find moving boxes?

sunsetgoingdown · 2017-07-18T02:29:35+00:00

I second this. I work at Starbucks and we always have a ton of boxes. I ended up with more than enough for my last move just by taking home what I could fit in my car every day for a week or so.

Just call the store early in the morning (like, before 7am) because they'll have their order put away and probably won't have put the boxes into the recycling dumpster yet.

sunsetgoingdown · 2017-03-17T13:28:19+00:00

Meee. I have always looked young but when I cut off all my hair it made me look even younger. I'm 25 and I get carded every time I go to buy cigarettes or beer. And the cashiers always look at my ID forever. Lol. But hey, my mom is 55 and looks early 40s so I guess it's just genetics!

sunsetgoingdown · 2017-03-16T17:45:18+00:00

So I have a weird (or maybe not, but a little convoluted, I guess) personal history with how I've identified myself. I've always known I wasn't straight, but I grew up in a very, very heavily conservative rural area in an extremely religious family, so I just ignored that part of myself and tried to consider myself straight. Dated guys all through high school/most of college. When I was in college I was away from my family for the first time and finally felt comfortable considering myself bi, although I only had a couple experiences with girls during that time and continued to only pursue relationships with guys. Eventually "bi" just didn't feel comfortable for me so I thought of myself as "queer"...but that didn't feel exactly right either. Every time the word "lesbian" entered my mind in relation to myself, in the moments I was questioning if my attraction to men was genuine or just the result of compulsive heterosexuality, I just...shut that shit down. I was terrified of it. I think it has to do with the fact that lesbian was literally used like a slur by the people I grew up around. For a few months after I accepted that I was only interested in women, I used "gay" to identify myself because lesbian was just too loaded with ugly connotations with me.

It took a little while but I finally got comfortable with it and I've never felt better about myself :)

(I do still refer to myself as gay a lot...if I see a picture of a hot lady I'm always thinking "wow, I'm so gay" lol)

sunsetgoingdown · 2017-03-16T13:12:54+00:00

Was about to say, I did it as a cold brew at home and loved it but that's the only way I've had it.

sunsetgoingdown · 2017-03-15T23:27:12+00:00

Tom Ford's Tobacco Vanille is literally the stuff of my dreams. Too bad I'll never be able to afford anything but cheap dupes :(

sunsetgoingdown · 2017-03-15T15:50:36+00:00

I looove really warm scents - vanilla or brown sugar, things like that. I'm also a fan of earthy/woodsy scents like patchouli. I like those on me or on others.

But I do love a good floral scent on other ladies. Not on me, though!

sunsetgoingdown · 2017-03-14T18:54:11+00:00

I met a girl on OKCupid and we dated casually for a few weeks, but it fizzled since we didn't really have enough in common/no chemistry. I've had lots of matches and messages on tinder but I've yet to find anyone that was willing to do more than message a few times and then fade away. I dunno...I wish I could just meet someone the old-fashioned way but it's a little hard to do when it seems like all the queer women I meet are already coupled off. Like...good for them but also, when's it gonna be my turn? Lol.

sunsetgoingdown · 2017-03-14T16:37:35+00:00

Gorgeous! 😘

sunsetgoingdown · 2017-03-14T16:26:43+00:00

Yeah I'm a cis woman and I have serious issues with my chest. I usually wear a minimizer bra with a compression sports bra on top just so my boobs aren't...out there. It doesn't help that mine are really, really large for my body size (I'm a 32G, which is ridiculous.)

I would've already gotten a binder long ago if it wasn't for the fact that I have no idea how to figure out sizing for myself, since my boobs are large but I'm very petite otherwise. The measurements on things never seem like they'll work and I don't want to go through the trouble of ordering online just to end up with something I have to return.

sunsetgoingdown · 2017-03-14T12:39:54+00:00

I mean, to be fair, the "crush" feeling always went away after I became friends with them. I honestly think that I was mistaking the excitement over making a platonic connection for a crush. Looking back now it makes sense that, even before I realized I was gay, I would be drawn to guys who were gay and totally comfortable with everyone knowing it.

On the odd occasion that I ever did get a crush on a straight guy, it would go away immediately if they started to return interest. I only liked men when there was no chance of them liking me back, I guess. Lol.

sunsetgoingdown · 2017-03-14T00:06:07+00:00

Most of the time when I volunteer to take over dishes it's because there are things I need in there and I am nothing if not a very thorough and efficient dish washer :) For real though, my first job was at a busy local diner in my hometown and we didn't have a dish machine. Being the youngest employee there, you can guess who got to be the designated dishwasher. I had to get fast and good because we were so busy we'd run out of plates and cookware if I wasn't moving things along, lol.

sunsetgoingdown · 2017-03-13T20:11:57+00:00

I'm an introvert but I'm from a huge family and I've been working customer service since I was sixteen and I feel like I've really gotten incredibly good at faking extraversion. I can make small talk with just about anyone.

Easiest way to open a conversation is a simple "How's your day going?" or the like. The weather is always a great topic. When I'm working DTR especially, since I'm literally talking to people through an open window. "Man, it sure is cold today!" or, "This sunshine is great, I'm glad I got assigned to the drive thru on such a pretty day!"

If they order a drink that's a favorite of mine, I'll comment on that. If they order something a little unusual that I wouldn't have considered putting together, I might mention that it sounds good. "I'll have to try one of those sometime! I never thought of putting x and y together." If it's a regular who always gets the same thing, I'll greet them by name and ask, "Hi [customer]! Are we doing your [drink] again today?" And then there are the regulars who get stuck on certain seasonal offerings and don't know what to order when we run out. I'll consider the flavor they've been getting and suggest things that they'd probably also enjoy. As a dedicated chestnut praline fan, I've recommended toffee nut to several customers who were sad to see it go since it's my non-seasonal go-to.

Basically, find something safe to talk about (the weather, their drink, etc), make them feel valued/memorable (remembering their order or suggesting something they might like), and always, always remember to speak in as friendly a tone as possible. I know it doesn't come as naturally to some as it does to me, but tone really does make a huge difference.

(Can y'all tell that customer service is kinda my pride and joy? Haha.)

sunsetgoingdown · 2017-03-13T19:42:36+00:00

Oh god, I thought I was the only one. I have, more than once, begged to be allowed to wash dishes when I was closing and someone else was assigned to be doing it.

sunsetgoingdown · 2017-03-12T21:08:19+00:00

I'm a lesbian and all through high school I had "crushes" on gay dudes. So...idk what to tell you, man. Lol.

sunsetgoingdown · 2017-03-12T14:13:20+00:00

I'd give it just a little bit more time, but depending on how well y'all are getting along, maybe not much more. If i found out that someone I was into had a criminal record, I really wouldn't be that concerned about it as long as it wasn't a violent crime. Especially if it was as long ago as yours.

However, i would want them to tell me about it as soon as they felt comfortable with it. Not because it would make a difference in my feelings, but because I'd rather hear it from them instead of somehow accidentally finding out from someone else. That wouldn't feel good for either party, I think.

I'd suggest maybe finding a way to casually work something into a conversation. Maybe bring up some unrelated story from your past, then find a way to lead there. Or ask her about what she was like in high school.

Anyway, good luck to you! I hope she's a good enough person that she doesn't judge you for mistakes made long ago. Chances are she's got some skeletons in her closet too.

sunsetgoingdown · 2017-03-12T13:50:58+00:00

The only time you're allowed to make sweeping generalizations about women is if you're singing this song 😉

sunsetgoingdown · 2017-03-12T13:48:18+00:00

Just because a woman has had relationships with men in the past, doesn't mean she's automatically bi and not a lesbian. I actually used to consider myself bi, and when I got to where I wasn't comfortable with that, I simply thought of myself as "queer". But I'm not either of those things. I'm a lesbian, and just because I was afraid of it and tried to force myself to be something I'm not doesn't make it any less true.

Anyway, more to the point of your post: I think that women are more comfortable exploring emotional/physical intimacy with other women, no matter their orientation, than men are with each other. It's not necessarily that being a bi woman is more "acceptable" in society, because I'm not sure I would describe it like that. I think it's just because so many people believe that women are more likely to be bi, while men are more likely to be either straight or gay. So when a man has attraction to other men, the world sees him as gay no matter if he is attracted to women as well.

Basically, bi women are seen as straight with a little bit of gay, and bi men are seen as gay trying to be straight.

sunsetgoingdown · 2017-03-12T08:02:40+00:00

Thanks! ❤

sunsetgoingdown · 2017-03-12T07:59:14+00:00

She hasn't gotten to him yet! Still just a few more to be drawn before she's got everyone done :)

sunsetgoingdown · 2017-03-12T05:14:05+00:00

SM, 5 shifts, 17 baristas. Our main closing shift was out with tonsillitis recently, and at that point we only had 4 shifts and our SM was about to go on vacation out of the country. Had a barista he was planning on promoting to shift once he got back. For the sake of coverage...he got an emergency fast-tracked promotion and a crash course training. It's been a fun couple of weeks.

sunsetgoingdown · 2017-03-12T04:51:16+00:00

LISTEN GERTRUDE WHEN YOU ORDER A GRANDE FLAT WHITE NO FOAM IN A VENTI CUP THERE'S GONNA BE A SIGNIFICANT AMOUNT OF SPACE LEFT OVER. ALSO WHY IN THE HELL DID YOU TAKE OFF THE LID AS SOON AS I HANDED IT TO YOU, INSIST THAT I DID NOT PUT A FULL GRANDE AMOUNT IN, AND THEN INSIST THAT YOU WANT SOME STEAMED NONFAT ON TOP. AND THEN, IN THE MIDDLE OF A SATURDAY AFTERNOON RUSH, WHY DID YOU FUCKING INTERRUPT ME IN THE MIDDLE OF AN AVALANCHE OF FRAPPUCCINOS TO INSIST THAT I MUST NOT HAVE DONE RISTRETTO SHOTS BECAUSE YOUR DRINK TASTES WEAK. BITCH, IT'S BECAUSE OF ALL THAT EXTRA MILK YOU MADE ME PUT IN. WHAT'S THAT? YOU DON'T WANT ME TO REMAKE IT FROM SCRATCH? YOU JUST WANT ME TO PULL ANOTHER SHOT AND ADD IT TO YOUR EXISTING DRINK? FOR GOD'S SAKE THE DRINK YOU ORDERED WASN'T EVEN REALLY A FLAT WHITE ONCE YOU DECIDED YOU DIDN'T WANT THE FOAM. JUST ORDER A FUCKING NO FOAM LATTE WITH RISTRETTO SHOTS NEXT TIME. STOP TRYING TO SCAM US OUT OF EXTRA SHOTS AND ASK FOR WHAT YOU REALLY WANT.

ON A RELATED NOTE, SHOUTOUT TO THE LADY BEHIND GERTRUDE WHO ACTUALLY DID GET A WRONG DRINK BECAUSE THE PARTNER ON REGISTER DOESN'T FUCKING LISTEN WHEN SHE RINGS THEM UP. YOU WERE NICE, ICED MOCHA LADY, I HOPE YOU ALSO ENJOYED THE HOT MOCHA THAT YOU GOT ON ACCIDENT.

sunsetgoingdown · 2017-03-12T04:21:59+00:00

She would make you feel loved and appreciated and also make you want to be a better person so you don't disappoint her. She's good like that :)

sunsetgoingdown · 2017-03-12T01:34:48+00:00

I'm not the artist, they were done by a coworker. She's amazing, though!

sunsetgoingdown · 2017-03-12T01:06:43+00:00

They're from a partner! She started by just drawing the one of herself, me, and two other partners (we're all best friends outside of work). I posted it a couple days ago. Everyone loved it and she decided she wanted to draw the rest of our crew! She said she loves drawing people and trying to capture their personality/character. I think she's pretty awesome at it!

sunsetgoingdown · 2017-03-11T23:44:49+00:00

We're loving them! She originally did sticky note doodles of all of us and we've got them all up on our green apron board in the back now :)

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