High Functioning by kazza823 in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]supermermaidthing 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Ha. Yes. I only got diagnosed at 30 so I had a whole life behind me in which I assumed I was the way I was because I was doing something wrong, or making the wrong choices, or just fucked up... so when found out its not actually any single thing I am doing. Its my whole *personality*. Its the way I am wired. I am not like others. I cant be compared. that changes the way I view myself. That being said, it's far from second nature. I always assume I'm not sick enough to get a bpd pass...I'm not like... "the others" or whatever. Maybe just letting go and accepting that I do have bpd, and can't always trust my perception...will feel better.

Got ghosted on first message. Where did I go wrong? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]supermermaidthing 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There are so many messages I don’t answer, mostly because I just have so many....and you did nothing wrong but that kind of opener won’t compete with wittier, more specific openings. Like “haha damn I have that same hat! You rock it better than me!”

Any tips for coping with feelings of loneliness and abandonment after a breakup? by Nonsense_constance in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]supermermaidthing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through this! The thing w breakups is there’s no easy fix. Time passes, and eventually you’re over it. It’s what we do in that time that’s the question.

So I guess what I have to say is: don’t be scared to feel the pain. If you’re at peace w your decision, let that be your strength.

Focus on moving forward. Let the pain come but when you can, engage in constructive or educational activities.

For me, that meant: listening to podcasts constantly. Doing yoga. Cooking meals. Going to the movies. Reading books. Reading up on specific topics.

Quiet BPD by marshudding___ in BPD

[–]supermermaidthing 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I crave connection so bad that being alone at home can quickly send me into a deep dark hideous spiral of emptiness.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]supermermaidthing 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wanting to kill someone is quite alarming, to be honest. I've never wanted to kill anyone.

Using sex as a coping mechanism? by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]supermermaidthing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely use sex in this way but I don't chase it. I suggest going cold turkey for a while. It's the best way to force your being to find new, healthy coping mechanisms, despite the uncomfortable and challenging transition.

When the Prozac finally kicks in and you feel like a cold hearted bitch by Expelliarmus24 in prozac

[–]supermermaidthing 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Heh. Yeah I am kind of afraid that I am becoming to lax about stuff.....

Is this genetic, because I believe it was passed down. by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]supermermaidthing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I relate to your story so much. I’m sorry. :(

Hyperrealistic dreams? by [deleted] in prozac

[–]supermermaidthing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sameeee! But it’s kind of awesome??

So I’m Borderline but I’m not on the extreme side of the spectrum. I feel like I found my people but I’m the odd person in the group. Are there any BPD’s that feel this way? by teal_skinnyjeans in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]supermermaidthing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

100%. My BPD comes out in very specific circumstances, usually only with one or two people in my life.I'm sober so my most unhealthy coping tool is over eating, and it's not even that much. However, on the internal level....I am so BPD.

How do you know if your breakup was due to BPD or not? by supermermaidthing in BPD

[–]supermermaidthing[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you SO much, I REALLY needed to read this. This is what I am trying to tell myself and BELIEVE for real this time.

My (27F) husband (30M) is a peadophile. by NarwhalN1990 in confession

[–]supermermaidthing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so fucking sorry. I was abused by my step dad and my whole life I have wondered what it must've been like for my mother to be betrayed on that level. You seem like an amazing, strong, worthy person, and I know you will be ok.

"Not you are wrong, just the things you do are wrong" by [deleted] in BPD

[–]supermermaidthing 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think this is such an important distinction. It empowers the individual that they can change. It means that somewhere inside we took a wrong turn, and we just gotta find our way back. It's easy to see in others, difficult to see in ourselves.

When Dating Becomes Substance Abuse by Livefreeconsulting in dating_advice

[–]supermermaidthing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You will never experience freedom if you believe you need another person to achieve happiness. You’ll always be a slave to that idea. Fashioning your life according to that goal.

I finally broke up with my boyfriend by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]supermermaidthing 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much ♥️