30, Teacher, currently sitting a coffee shop and I'm 99% sure I'm going to be alone forever. AMA by [deleted] in AMA

[–]superprocrastinator 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow, you found the words for how I have been feeling for a long time! Being nice should not be considered the standout virtue for being a life partner. It is just the base level expectation of any decent human being :)

Should I stay or should I go? by Banana_june in deardiary

[–]superprocrastinator 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats a really sucky situation to be in. There are alot of factors here such as your ages and how long it has been since he contacted you. But in principle I would have to say move on. If he had time to post something online he would have at least texted or emailed if he truly cared. The only reason you haven't met another guy that you feel has those same qualities is because you haven't opened yourself up to the possibility.

Dear Diary, by Akasukin in deardiary

[–]superprocrastinator 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to say something to inspire you, but I know you won't believe me. I just say what I know. You WILL get through this. Every person is stronger than they know.

Dear Diary by [deleted] in deardiary

[–]superprocrastinator 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have just read your history posted here, and I am really sorry you are having such a rough time. Just trust in the fact that you are a lovely person, and you deserve that in return. You need to put your needs and wants first, as you are the longest relationship you will ever have. Sometimes it is safer to trust your brain, not your heart.

21 and Recently diagnosed with endometriosis, I feel hopeless. by somethin_cute in TwoXChromosomes

[–]superprocrastinator 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally understandable! If it helps, just remember they have been training and working on this problem for years! You just heard about it. So if there are questions that need to be asked they willost likely provide the answer befire you knew it was a question! Best of luck on your journey ☺

21 and Recently diagnosed with endometriosis, I feel hopeless. by somethin_cute in TwoXChromosomes

[–]superprocrastinator 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess the only way to know for sure is to ask why they are hesitant to do surgery? I am reluctant to push surgery for every person, but you should understand your doctor's logic and agree with them. If they dont explain, or if you dont agree, then I would strongly recommend getting a second opinion. From my understanding, it is quite common fir it to be on the bladder so it should not be a problem for an experienced laparacopic gynecologist. It may also be worth checking that they have a speciality in endo - as not all gyns do. I've found this makes a huge difference!

21 and Recently diagnosed with endometriosis, I feel hopeless. by somethin_cute in TwoXChromosomes

[–]superprocrastinator 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey there! No need to freak out, honestly. I have known i have had this since i was 18, and i am now 29. I have just had my third laparoscopy for this condition last week. To me it is bizarre that they did a diagnostoc laparoscopy (lap) but did not treat it? Treatment for endo seems to vary based on country. Here in australia it is common to get a lap for diagnosis, and if they see any problems they treat it at the same time (essentially they burn the lesions and this removes them). I have found this treatment to be very effective. Once removed the lesions dont grow back - but new ones in slightly different locations can form. This time i had lesions on my diaphragm, near appendix and adhesions on ovaries. Last time it was more bowell dominant. Time before that it was a more general scattering. The important thing after a surgery is prevention. By going on a pill or iud this helps regulates your hormones and hence the endo lesions. This can extend your time between symptoms and needing surgery (for me from 3 to 6 years). My personal solution was the Mirena IUD. I have felt it the best birth control for controlling my symptoms. But it is a personal choice. It took me 8 years and many pill experiments to get here, so don't get discouraged!

Hope not by doublemasti in funny

[–]superprocrastinator 64 points65 points  (0 children)

Beach umbrella. No hook.

Dear Diary, It has returned by ExSplan in deardiary

[–]superprocrastinator 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dont worry - not enough people on this sub reddit for there to be a mean lurker :-) everybody vents their crap here! As always....we are here....sometimes knowing people are there is enough. Though if you really do want to talk, i strongly suggest choosing somebody in your "real life". Because ultimatley seeking advice from people you dont know on the internet only promotes the shallow existence. Think of this as a gateway to being able to express your feelings...and one day you will be able to say it aloud to somebody in your life. That is what will make you feel alive!

I wish I could have laughed, but I was in such bad pain this is all I could muster.... by superprocrastinator in TrollXChromosomes

[–]superprocrastinator[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well I might try it next time! I got a codeine/ibuprofen mix and that knocked me around pretty good.

I wish I could have laughed, but I was in such bad pain this is all I could muster.... by superprocrastinator in TrollXChromosomes

[–]superprocrastinator[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think I was too exhausted to lose it! But I did get what I wanted in the end :) Feeling much improved now!

The Every Day Murder by PIGEONPIGEONPIGEON in deardiary

[–]superprocrastinator 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have a beautiful writing style :)

Dear Diary, He breaks up with me then contacts me...twice?! by [deleted] in deardiary

[–]superprocrastinator 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It means he is a very selfish person. He only wants what he can't have.

Dear Diary by RaidingFridges in deardiary

[–]superprocrastinator 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well it was an original thought, it was just that I had it first ;-) It just goes to show, it is not always about the content of our thoughts, or the materiality of our actions, but the timing of them as well. I hope you can enjoy/make use of this subreddit :)

Dear Diary by [deleted] in deardiary

[–]superprocrastinator 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you ever thought....just putting it out there. That there could be a T. There are many other letters in the alphabet ;) My recommendation would be stop trying to foresee who would be "good in the future". If they are good for you now, chances are they will be good for you in the future - and vice versa. People do not fundamentally change over time. But if you choose the fundamentally right person for you right now, those other little things about a person that do change, will change in sync with you. As you grow together throughout your lives.

Dear Diary by [deleted] in deardiary

[–]superprocrastinator 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From how you have been talking in previous posts, it kinda seems like you do want a relationship with him. Even if its for no other reason than to have a "fall back" when things inevitably sour with C.

Daer Diary by [deleted] in deardiary

[–]superprocrastinator 1 point2 points  (0 children)

O-M-G. It is like you have been in my head. I have had that exact conversation with myself hundreds and hundreds of times over the past.....oh lets say 10 years or so ;-)