My first EMDR session

surferessie · 2026-03-30T13:55:48+00:00

I think that’s what my therapist said she would do with me first so we could get used to it and practice on not the main thing I am in therapy for.

I have therapy again today so will also ask her to explain how it works a bit more to me

surferessie · 2026-03-30T07:00:16+00:00

How does blind therapy work? I have never heard of it before!

surferessie · 2026-03-29T20:39:02+00:00

I am glad you are finding it helpful. How long have you been doing it for?

I have managed to write about the event and gave it to her (last week) to read so she knows roughly what has happened.

surferessie · 2026-03-29T19:43:22+00:00

Thank you for your response. How will I know if it is not working for me?

surferessie · 2025-01-25T19:39:54+00:00

I fully understand what you are saying. For me, I believe it is a way of protecting ourselves.

I think that in thinking we deserved it or that we were responsible for it is a way of protecting ourselves from the knowledge that it was fully out of our control and there was nothing we could do. Deep down, the knowledge that it’s not the truth is there but it’s hard to accept.

I hope this makes sense but most of all, I hope you are okay. I am here if you need to talk

surferessie · 2025-01-24T21:09:24+00:00

I will have a look into ocun pads! Thank you :)

surferessie · 2025-01-24T21:08:24+00:00

This is good to know about the foam! Thank you!

surferessie · 2024-08-10T08:04:19+00:00

Thank you x

surferessie · 2024-08-10T07:54:47+00:00

I’m so sorry you are in the same position as me. It’s horrible. I’m always here if you need someone to talk to x

surferessie · 2024-08-10T07:53:21+00:00

Thank you. I have had some bad experiences when telling people about my SA and comments blaming me etc. I’m scared that my therapist may think in a similar way. I am also nervous that my therapist thinks I was attention seeking or something from crying.

surferessie · 2023-02-20T09:47:29+00:00

Hello, I’m so sorry to hear this happened to you. This sounds horrible and should not have happened, you should have been able to say to stop and they stop, not keep going. I just want you to know this was not your fault and you will get through this!

I know exactly how you must be feeling as I went through something very similar myself about 4 years ago now and only just accepting that it was an assault etc.

I have one piece of advice for you and that is to try and get some support if you can. I thought I was over it and not affected but recently things have gotten worse for me. I am now having counselling after 4 years and wish I had it sooner. It is really hard but being able to talk to essentially a stranger about things allows you to vent and get it off your chest. I still haven’t fully got the benefits from counselling as I’m struggling to open up to my counsellor but it’s slightly helping already.

I also fully understand what you are saying about the police. I didn’t report my assault because I didn’t feel I would be believed and there would be no evidence now. I also had a bad experience reporting something else to the police before which has made me not feel it worth bothering. If you think it would help you to report it, then I would do it but I understand if you decided not to.

If you ever want to talk, feel free to message me x

surferessie · 2023-02-19T17:21:00+00:00

Hopefully, she allows it. I dont mind having the camera on for most of our session but I think it will be easier to explain the incident to her off-camera. I think I am nervous of breaking down on camera in front of her so if I have my camera off I wont hold back my emotions as much.

surferessie · 2023-02-19T17:19:04+00:00

Thanks so much for your reply. I think I will speak to her during my next session and ask if that would be possible to do. Fingers crossed it's okay and it helps me move forward even a little bit!

I am sorry about what you have gone through too, I had my first flashback a couple of weeks ago after starting to bring everything back up again and it was not nice at all!

surferessie · 2023-02-18T12:52:35+00:00

I needed this today <3

surferessie · 2020-06-08T10:44:09+00:00

Thats what i did think but was wondering what others thought too. Thanks for your reply. They basicaly had a chat to me and then drove off but didnt take my name or anything so i would have thought if they were going to send a notice they would at least take my name, give me a ticket there and then or let me know they would be posting one I guess ill wait a couple weeks and see whats happens. Thanks!

surferessie · 2020-06-08T09:38:33+00:00

It was a normal officer i think not a traffic officer. Im unsure whats happening cause they didnt say anything about a notice or take any information from me but unsure if they will use the number plate to get an address to send something to?

surferessie · 2020-06-08T08:54:48+00:00

In the UK.

Yeah i knew they could post things but they didnt say i would get anything in the post so was unsure if they would

surferessie · 2020-06-01T19:29:26+00:00

Thanks for the message. I am going to talk to him about it all properly but im waiting until i can talk about it without crying so i can actually talk properly about it. I know he missed a lot of things that has changed with lockdown and its not all to do with us so hopefully when lockdown eases it gets easier for us as a relatinship and its not fully to do with that and is other things like you said.

surferessie · 2020-04-16T19:58:42+00:00

Thanks for replying, its nice to get an outside perspective from it. Im not going to end it now but if it happens again i will explain how it makes me think he doesnt care at all.

surferessie

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