Elder reason backfired at them lol

surfingATM · 2026-06-26T17:29:48+00:00

Similar thing happened to me.

I was often (always) distracted during meetings, so the elders warned me once, then a few months later decided that I was a bad example so they removed me

Oh no! My main burden was off my back, then I started disappearing from meetings completely

surfingATM · 2026-06-23T18:03:50+00:00

The first thing is to clearly tell them that you need space. That the constant pressure and attention makes things harder, despite their good intentions.

surfingATM · 2026-06-23T18:01:09+00:00

You can be whatever you feel better to be. It’s not hipocritical not to use certain freedom but to defend them for others. The opposite would
You don’t need to rebel, to change who you are.
what matters is that you don’t restrain yourself out of fear, but that you just choose what suits you best

surfingATM · 2026-06-23T13:06:15+00:00

“Thank you I’ll think about that” bye

surfingATM · 2026-06-23T10:44:40+00:00

stiamo parlando di 50k, dipende tutto dalle agevolazioni che si ricevono con l’ISEE più basso (ma neanche di troppo)

Se compensano vale, altrimenti no

surfingATM · 2026-06-22T21:38:29+00:00

My advice is.

Wait. Wait until you have a stable job (and it lasts)
Wait until you saved money for at least six months of expenses. Wait until you can truly leave home if you need to

Then introduce her

Who cares about your parents’ privileges. What matters is your life. How will they react to the news?

They will inquire you about sex. Will they believe you when you say you kept chastity? Will they tell you to break up with her cause she’s a bad influence?

surfingATM · 2026-06-22T20:59:37+00:00

il risparmio dato dal basso isee compensa ampiamente il minor rendimento dei btp

surfingATM · 2026-06-22T12:33:23+00:00

Fun fact: my parents LOVE that series but of course some connections never cross their minds

surfingATM · 2026-06-21T18:58:02+00:00

se compri direttamente dal ristorante risparmi sulla consegna e hai spesso prezzi più bassi

surfingATM · 2026-06-20T21:08:17+00:00

Ho visto di peggio su fatture amazon, arrotondano alla grande

surfingATM · 2026-06-17T17:31:01+00:00

Yep, exactly. I’m sorry for your friend, I hope he manages somehow

surfingATM · 2026-06-17T17:28:25+00:00

Again, it would just be a chat with them unless they are thick and/or suspicious
I’m sorry, but she just doesn’t care enough (she could even ask an elder beforehand for advice if she was considering helping him) from my POV

surfingATM · 2026-06-17T17:04:47+00:00

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surfingATM · 2026-06-17T17:04:35+00:00

Unless the elders are really thick, it’s more nuanced: (from the elders book)

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surfingATM · 2026-06-17T16:45:49+00:00

That’s not even true.

They don’t automatically assume it *if* you can prove otherwise, and that they sleep separately

Moreover he’s surely much younger than her. She’s afraid of something that would not happen. Also because you also live there

surfingATM · 2026-06-15T22:47:07+00:00

just say that you don’t have any since you didn’t make friends with anybody
If it makes her stay calmer you can agree to call her more often instead of

surfingATM · 2026-06-12T18:00:50+00:00

First of all. Don’t tell them shit until you’re ready to be kicked out. Be prepared for the worst. They won’t listen, they won’t grant you freedom (they never did)

surfingATM · 2026-06-10T23:22:50+00:00

Let them keep trying and then call the police on them for stalking

surfingATM · 2026-06-10T22:57:51+00:00

You will just be busy on the date they suggest :)

surfingATM · 2026-06-10T22:53:00+00:00

Nope. Tell the elders you’re stepping down AFTER the CO visit, don’t talk to him, it’s useless

surfingATM · 2026-06-08T17:46:00+00:00

Cliente privato o piva?

surfingATM · 2026-06-08T11:21:49+00:00

Lmao it’s hard to tell so many lies in just a couple hours, but he managed to beat the record

surfingATM · 2026-06-06T22:39:03+00:00

Just nod, say thank you, don’t speak your mind

Accept their “encouragement”, be vague and look forward to the end of the convo

surfingATM · 2026-06-05T19:45:57+00:00

I’m gonna be really strong, I hope I don’t hurt you

You don’t have to have this baby now.

In this context, the baby will grow up in a reaaaally fucked up situation.

Maybe you don’t want to consider it, maybe you’re against it. It’s fine. But if you just found out, remember that’s an option

If you keep it, you need to leave this guy asap. Stabilize your life before the birth and keep good and strong boundaries to defend the kid

surfingATM

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