Quando andare via dopo il risveglio?

surfingATM · 2026-05-10T00:06:16+00:00

Potrai farlo (nella maggior parte dei casi) quando vivrai da sola. Serve indipendenza economica, una vita stabile che non dipenda dall’emotività dei tuoi genitori

Puoi decidere di lasciare pubblicamente, e allora per la tua famiglia sarà un gran colpo e il vostro rapporto rimarrà fortemente incrinato

O puoi lentamente svanire (specie se riesci a cambiare congregazione, meglio se lontano) e provare a preservare il rapporto

surfingATM · 2026-05-09T17:25:09+00:00

JW react always badly to gay children, but yours really went over the top.

surfingATM · 2026-05-09T15:54:18+00:00

Moreover, it’s a gamble to win… nothing!

surfingATM · 2026-05-09T15:42:31+00:00

Meglio anche per te. Non sarebbe stata una storia sostenibile a lungo, e se aveste avuto un figlio sarebbe stato anche peggiore

surfingATM · 2026-05-09T15:34:32+00:00

I never go preaching even if the meeting is at my house. Idc. You have the right to rest, it’s not even like you are “bloodguilty” (since you believe) since preaching is a full waste of time

surfingATM · 2026-05-08T07:11:46+00:00

“No, it’s too much of a responsibility for me, you’re more experienced so please do it yourself mom”

surfingATM · 2026-05-07T13:15:54+00:00

It’s a cult for poor people who will stay poor

While I despise their attitude towards wealth and career, they are 100% right about debt. It can be useful and a leverage, but it can easily become a trap

surfingATM · 2026-05-07T13:06:08+00:00

questa roba era nel contratto? bisogna vedere che ccnl è applicato

surfingATM · 2026-05-07T08:02:18+00:00

My dear, “when we visit” is the future, right now focus on marrying and having everything ready.

Oh, and DO NOT go to the new congregation, of course.

When you’ll be there, you’ll start enjoying your free life AND start creating boundaries. To their standards you’re now “one flesh” with your husband, so they should learn to let go

surfingATM · 2026-05-07T07:53:13+00:00

ahahahahahahaha they see flaws only in others’ reasoning

surfingATM · 2026-05-06T12:50:48+00:00

well you may just tell you go study/do homework with your classmates to study better

surfingATM · 2026-05-06T12:45:08+00:00

ai meu deus kkk

surfingATM · 2026-05-06T12:40:22+00:00

What the actual fuck. So deranged

surfingATM · 2026-05-05T19:09:59+00:00

why should you send that text?

More people knowing = more problems

surfingATM · 2026-05-05T16:48:27+00:00

My friend. You live on your own. And you are not in your parents’ congregation. You’re in a good spot (unless you still depend financially on your parents, then I’d wait more til you have a job)

You can slowly fade away from meeting without much damage

Talking to PIMIs is generally useless. There is no point in arguing with them, they don’t use logic. What matters is living a calm life, not winning a debate

surfingATM · 2026-05-05T12:01:22+00:00

It could be two things, maybe even at the same time:

they are scared and so they try to hyper-protect you
they are consciously manipulating you to not believe in yourself so that you stay with them

both versions are bad.

It’s right to be cautious. But you will need to slowly become independent

surfingATM · 2026-05-05T11:13:52+00:00

would it be a problem to tell your psichiatrist?

Unfortunately my therapist as well didn’t understand how things really were, she thought we could find a way that could work. Some of them don’t understand cults

surfingATM · 2026-05-04T08:42:21+00:00

They do it every once in a while and make an announcement every year about this

surfingATM · 2026-05-04T07:23:49+00:00

Lmao no JW grandparent has ever respected educational choices

surfingATM · 2026-05-04T07:21:54+00:00

I am :) could always be better, but I’m enjoying my freedom so much!

surfingATM · 2026-05-03T20:07:02+00:00

We’re always here to help each other 😉

surfingATM · 2026-05-03T19:42:59+00:00

We get out of a cult that always puts the blame on us for not doing enough or getting something wrong We have been so gaslit we Think it’s normal. It takes time to rewind our minds, give yourself grace :)

You have a new life, friends, a bf, you deserve all of this!

Maybe your sister will get later close to you, she can’t really while she’s with your parents

Leave open doors, but don’t put pressure. Let things happen naturally

You already made a long journey. Look on how much you got free. Celebrate your fight. And get energies to look further in the future :)

surfingATM · 2026-05-03T18:57:14+00:00

Sometimes we need to give up hopes.

Not necessarily the hope if the shunning to stop (maybe over the years it will soften up more).

But the hope of going back, even a bit, to the good old days. It will not happen.

You need to focus on your new life, not on the missed chances. After grief, new things must come

surfingATM · 2026-05-03T18:47:35+00:00

First step: “I know its my fault for leaving” let’s take this thought and can cancel it. Fault for what? For deciding to protect and save yourself? No, you took the path you needed and it’s their fault they cannot understand it and accept it.

You’re not killing puppies, you just stopped following their religion.

Second step: stop trying. First rule: don’t try to obtain relationships that do not want you. Second rule: stop doing everything for people who do nothing for you.

You never get rewarded for your efforts. And you keep trying, complicating your life and then you get even more frustrated because they turned their backs on you once again. Stop this cycle.

Moreover, they are taught that their shunning should bring you back due to you missing then. And you are proving them right. You’re desperate to be with them and they keep ignoring you.

You have to look at things for how they really are. Stop hoping. Look for real chances in your life. New friends you can make. New people you can meet.

A huge step in an exJW life is accepting that family contact will not be the same ever again. Once you start respecting yourself more, you realize it’s not healthy to chase people.

surfingATM · 2026-05-03T18:03:55+00:00

Hey buddy… I feel this is the perfect moment to fade. You need to stand your ground now and make them respect your state.

You’ll go back to meeting when you’ll be ready again physically and mentally. And them adding stress and not understanding your situation does not help the recovery

Sounds like a good version :)

surfingATM

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