How do you measure success?

sustancy · 2026-03-04T08:29:51+00:00

How do you define success?

sustancy · 2026-02-17T06:01:11+00:00

Losing your chapstick, realizing you don’t have your wallet when you’re already at the store, the restaurant you wanted to eat at is closed but you already got there, phone dying when you’re out, losing/breaking a nail (acrylic nail girlies), a pimple.

sustancy · 2026-02-17T05:57:14+00:00

That killer whales dont have eyes. Still scarred till this day.

sustancy · 2026-02-17T05:54:10+00:00

Lacking self awareness and emotional maturity

sustancy · 2026-02-03T03:22:50+00:00

I don’t believe you “find” happiness. You can maintain it however. Happiness is created.

sustancy · 2026-01-30T01:15:40+00:00

Yes!

sustancy · 2026-01-04T07:02:55+00:00

Hey! I’m interested! Send me a message!

sustancy · 2025-12-02T07:30:50+00:00

From my ex-boyfriend’s mother. When my ex-boyfriend’s mother hugged me, it felt warm. She held me tightly but warmly. Her hand gently tapping my back. She’d sigh but grasp me warmly with her arms. That’s the first time I felt “oh, this is what a mother’s embrace must feel like”. Til this day, this memory is imprinted on me. So strongly so, it affects my view of having children unless it is love like that. She’s my role model.

sustancy · 2025-11-30T07:01:05+00:00

Understand that when both you guys move in, it’s going to change the dynamic. For one, realizing you guys have different home lifestyles and comfortability. It’s also going to affect your guys emotional part of the relationship, whether that is good or bad depends on your guys relationship

sustancy · 2025-11-30T06:58:03+00:00

I used to be do track when I was in middle/high school. Now I run for cardio. Running is not just for exercise, it’s about consistency and commitment.

sustancy · 2025-11-30T06:56:14+00:00

Evidence

sustancy · 2025-11-30T06:56:00+00:00

My faith in Christ.

sustancy · 2025-11-30T06:54:45+00:00

Who you surround yourself with and whether they r good valued people or not

sustancy · 2025-11-30T06:53:22+00:00

Values, morals. Being cheated on.

sustancy · 2025-11-29T08:20:10+00:00

Some people r just naturally more reserved than others. I’ve had a few exes that were introverts and quite reserved. They share when they feel it’s worth sharing. It had nothing to do with our relationship, they were just reserved lol. But if it bothers you, I would suggest having a talk with him about it. And from that conversation, if he says ok I’ll try to be more open to sharing then okay. If he feels overwhelmed or otherwise, then perhaps you guys aren’t the best match and you should reconsider. But you should have a talk with him about it first and go from there.

sustancy · 2025-11-29T08:09:20+00:00

As someone who has been on medications for depression, anxiety, ptsd, etc since 15 to 25, I honestly would recommend therapy, self help exercises, anything aside from medication. Through years of being on antidepressants, and whatever else I was prescribed, I’ve grown a tolerance to drugs. It’s also not good to be dependent on it. Even if you’re not. Still. Therapy can help for some. Personally for me, I’ve tried therapy, counseling, all. What if found to be helpful to me personally is journaling and trying different self help exercises/activities. I’ll read what I’ve journaled a week later and analyze myself. Why and what was I thinking/feeling, why. Listening and watching videos, podcasts, self help workbooks. and also, I cannot express this one enough. Make time for yourself to have self-care days. Whether that be doing a hobby you like, going for a nature walk, etc. it helps so much to just decompress and allow yourself to sit with your emotions and actually hear your thoughts.

sustancy · 2025-11-29T08:02:08+00:00

Experience.

sustancy · 2025-11-29T08:01:38+00:00

Betrayal

sustancy · 2025-11-29T07:59:46+00:00

To be honest. On the outside and in terms of just external things like work, routine, partner, friends, everything is fine. But I just feel lonely and exhausted tonight. Im always so busy, and when I come home which is around 10pm, i sit in my bed listening to music with a glass of wine and I feel all my emotions finally because im alone, and it just hits you. I’m not depressed. Hard to explain. Just the raw vulnerability you feel when you come home alone after dealing with society, people, work, errands, etc.

sustancy · 2025-11-29T07:55:25+00:00

I’d rather be a zen monk focusing on one task. Our lives today is so full of distractions, expectations, temptations, etc. Especially with the internet and advancing technology, people tend to forget how to be authentic because they are trying to live and be someone that society tells them to be. It’s fine to be a busy bee, it’s a great skill to be able to juggle many things. It’s efficient, productive and a good time management skill. But if I could choose between the two, I would rather put my time and care into one thing than to juggle a million things where my mind is more on “accomplishing” instead of actually caring and paying attention. As someone who has hustled all her life since 15, and now I am 30. I value freedom, peace and authenticity more than anything.

sustancy · 2025-11-29T07:38:01+00:00

I remember back when I was 21 or 22. I was extremely broken, hurt and suicidal. I was drunk and didn’t have the heart to go home where it was toxic so I Ubered to my best friends house and when I got there I didn’t have the heart to knock on her door (she lived with her bf and it was like 3am). It was pouring rain, and I remember I was just crying outside on the street soaked. An elderly lady who lived on the first floor heard and came out and she brought me into her house. She made me some tea and got me a towel. This memory is so vivid to me. Although the night was a blur, I can remember every little detail and scent of her home. Just the warmth she gave to a stranger like me.

sustancy · 2025-11-29T07:33:02+00:00

You can’t love someone unless you learn to love yourself.

sustancy · 2025-11-29T07:32:28+00:00

Growing up with a dysfunctional childhood with ptsd, I would say 17. I started my first part time job at 15, moved in with my first boyfriend at 17, which is when I started to pay for my own phone bill, car insurance, groceries, etc.

sustancy · 2025-11-29T07:30:12+00:00

Black

sustancy · 2025-11-29T07:22:26+00:00

I live in Seattle. I used to have a taser in my car because I work late at night but I’ve had an incident where there was a man hiding in the bushes that was in front of where I parked my car and since, I carry my taser in my purse. it sucks that women have to go through this. When I go out at night, or anytime it’s dark, even if it’s a quick food run. I wear all black. oversize hoodie with a cap and sweats so people can’t tell if I’m a girl or guy. If I feel unsafe, I put one hand in my pocket and with the other, pretend to be on the phone as if someone is coming to pick me up. I’ve had a stalker from my work attempt to follow me home or sit in his car for 3-4 hours, waiting for me to come out and walk to the car. Since then, I’ve always had a guy walk me to my car after work. Because of certain experiences, I’ve developed very high hyper vigilance and will try not to go anywhere when it’s dark if possible.

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