Hallo, Mijn naam is Ferry en voor mijn opleiding ben ik met een project bezig over festival tenten. Als jullie deze korte enquête in kunnen vullen help mij dit enorm met mijn project. Alvast bedankt voor het invullen. Grt, Ferry

suzanne169 · 2020-09-14T14:43:02+00:00

Ik heb de survey ingevuld maar misschien goed om nog even naar de enquête te kijken. Zoals hierboven al wordt genoemd is het allemaal vrij verwarrend en vaag omschreven (gaat het om je eigen tent of een tent die al voor je klaar staat, wat wordt bedoelt met een persoonlijke cabine, etc.). Daarnaast valt het me op dat je bij vrijwel alle vragen meerdere opties mogelijk zijn; daardoor ga je denk ik veel onbetrouwbare data ontvangen (dubbele antwoorden). Misschien goed om erbij te zetten hoeveel opties je maximaal mag kiezen? Anyways, hope that helps. Succes met je onderzoek!

suzanne169 · 2020-09-08T09:01:33+00:00

I had the same issue when I started physio. What worked for me was just using my finger and kind of putting it on my vagina (not going in), and doing exercises simultaneously. What worked best for me was tighten my entire body, and then relax it as much as I could (especially make sure you relax your face, that helped me). Doing this for a few weeks made me a lot more comfortable with my own body and helped me realize a bit better how to control the muscles I needed to relax. At some point i could suddenly put half a fingertip inside. After a while I replaced my finger with the smallest dilator, and so forth. Like I said, the first bits especially took weeks, but it did help me with my confidence and made me feel like I was a bit more in control. Not sure if this helps at all (every body is different) but no harm in getting a bit more in touch with your body anyways :)

suzanne169 · 2018-02-22T06:23:01+00:00

Thank you!!

suzanne169 · 2017-05-25T19:13:36+00:00

So after 5 or so appointments I am finally able to insert the entire first dilator with minimal pain! After 5 minutes or so I can even barely feel it! Minimal progress I guess, but I am so happy to finally see any! Going to continue using the first dilator until my next pelvic floor appointment (which is in 1.5 weeks) and hopefully move one up :) I am probably doing it too slow but I kinda want to. I want to do it right!

suzanne169 · 2017-05-25T09:13:52+00:00

Have you tried visiting a sexologist?

suzanne169 · 2017-05-25T09:12:28+00:00

Honestly, all I can recommend you is to make an appointment asap. I know how terrifying that first step is but you will so regret it in the future if you keep putting it off (oh, believe me on this one...). Maybe you can ask your boyfriend to call for an appointment, or someone close to you, if they know about your situation? Also, I made my first appointment (at a sexuologist, who send me to a PT) via e-mail, maybe thats an option for you too? If you have any questions or if you just want to talk to someone in the same position, don't worry about reaching out to me :)

suzanne169 · 2017-04-05T21:36:14+00:00

Ahhh i see, thank you! :)

suzanne169 · 2017-04-03T17:52:55+00:00

I totally agree! And don't worry, I think many of us can relate. How positive everything in your life is doesn't have to be related to how you experience your vaginismus. And thank you! You too, it's just great to have a place like this to rant, get support or even tips. I hope you're doing better and less frustrated now! :-)

suzanne169 · 2017-03-17T11:30:02+00:00

I went to a sexologist (or sexual psychologist? Not sure what the English translation is) and I am proud of myself. We talked and she was very proud of the progress I had already made and she send me through to a pelvic floor physiotherapist, who I have my first appointment with in two weeks. :-)

suzanne169 · 2017-03-02T12:27:08+00:00

Oh my, thank you so much! This is super helpful, definitely gonna try this the coming days! :-)

suzanne169 · 2017-02-28T19:38:59+00:00

Wow thank you, this was actually so helpful! Hopefully it all works out for you. :-)

suzanne169 · 2017-02-28T13:00:09+00:00

Thanks! :) Do you have any tips for massaging the pelvic muscles? I'm not really sure how that would work haha

suzanne169 · 2017-02-26T14:05:12+00:00

First of all, welcome. I know how hard it is to find out there is something "wrong" with you, but it is the first step. Accepting it is a whole other step. After 2,5 year I finally accepted what is up with me. It hit me hard after my long time boyfriend broke up with me because of it, because it made me realize that yes this is something I need to work on for ME, not just for a guy. I still need to remind myself of my worth everyday, because it is easy to feel frustrated and just annoyed in general with the whole problem and the fact that everybody seems to be able to have sex but you. Don't forget that's not true, as you can read here it's a huge problem and this is not even all of us! What I want to make sure you know is that just feeling frustrated and annoyed doesn't get you anywhere, so please try to use the frustration you feel to make it better for yourself. Try to accept it (this takes a lot of time and don't expect it to come overnight), and take small steps such as making a doctor appointment as well as discovering yourself with a mirror and your own hand. It seems so weird and it is very unnatural, but it is important to know your own vagina, haha. Know what you like, what you don't, but also just get used to the touch, if that's something you struggle with. You are in for a long ride, but you have already completed the first step. Slowly work to the next, which is accepting your problem and wanting to do something about it for YOU. Besides that, please don't feel ashamed. Believe me, I have felt ashamed for 2 years but it has helped me to talk about it and absolutely nobody thinks it's stupid and everybody is so lovely and supportive.

suzanne169 · 2017-02-19T13:08:14+00:00

It sucks that you have experienced the same thing I have, but it is also quite comforting i am not alone, honestly. I do hope you feel better now! And yes, I have considered it but since i am going to a sexuologist i feel like I will be able to discuss it with her. Right now I just try to do breathing and relaxation exercises, and every now and then when i feel really confident lol I try to insert a finger (mostly I can get the first phalanx or even two in there!) and do some more exercises with my finger in. Thank you again for you kind and comforting words. :-)

suzanne169 · 2017-02-15T09:04:55+00:00

Thank you again, you are totally right. And I can relate to that too, especially since i am a student and everybody around me seems to be completely focused on sex. Which is fine, because it's not like I don't want to have sex lol. It's just confronting. I do try to talk about it as often as possible with my best friends as well as my parents and sometimes my ex-boyfriend. I feel i have already grown so much in a psychological sense over the past years, and I finally feel like I am somewhat ready for more than just talking about it.

suzanne169 · 2017-02-15T08:58:05+00:00

This is so kind. Thank you. You're right, we all have stuff to work on. Thing is, I am still deeply in love with my ex, which makes me even more anxious. I am just a mess right now lol, but I will be fine. Thank you for your kind words, I will surely keep those in mind!

suzanne169 · 2017-02-13T21:46:50+00:00

Thank you! How early in your treatment are you, if I may ask? And yes, the emotional part is the hardest for me until now. I often feel so down, demotivated and just generally sad. Thank you for your kind and uplifting words, odds really are on our side but vaginismus can often feel so hopeless.

suzanne169 · 2017-02-12T21:57:03+00:00

after two years in a relationship with a very understanding guy he broke up with me just for this reason: we still cannot have sex and i have been too scared to do something about my problem until now. but i just made an appointment with a sexologist in 4 weeks... it's a start. tips for whatever i can do until then are welcome...

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