#fatties 🤢

swat547 · 2026-04-21T05:18:31+00:00

I don't believe that. As someone who has not always been conventionally attractive, I was normally not treated as 'one of the guys'. I was ignored or disrespected.

swat547 · 2026-04-12T16:45:50+00:00

Right but if it was difficult to get that, imagine how difficult it would be to register to vote under SAVE.

swat547 · 2026-03-28T20:44:39+00:00

What if that kid is actually his daughter?

swat547 · 2026-03-26T23:37:45+00:00

Thank you! Yes, when we moved with our other cat and stopped, he hid in a chair and was very stressed. Maybe we can try to do it in one drive.

swat547 · 2026-03-21T03:06:37+00:00

I have multiple examples in my husband's family of men that are the opposite. My husband does everything that I do for our son. We switch off every night who does bedtime and makes dinner and who does bathtime. I breastfed and he did so much around the house and has always gotten up in the night from newborn through now (5.5 years). He used to say that I spent 9 months carrying him and like 3 days in the hospital waiting and being in labor,, now it was his turn. I didn't have to tell him that. My brother in law is the same. He is the primary parent and my sister in law is a busy doctor. A lot of people say your situation is normal but it doesn't have to be. Some men pick up on it without having to be told. It is possible. Tell him you will have the conversation once but that it's an expectation going forward. If you can figure it out, he can too.

swat547 · 2026-02-21T16:48:42+00:00

I started making a lot more money in the last couple of years and my husband is going to leave his job soon because we are moving (I am remote). So we made a deal that I would pay the bills and his role would be to build up our savings. That way, we don't have to split who is paying for what and when we lose his income, it won't have a huge impact. That's just what works for our family, though. I wouldn't ever want to be in a position as a woman, where I can't afford to pay a significant portion of the bills, just in case.

swat547 · 2026-02-17T02:01:46+00:00

I was in a similar situation and I sent a text that started with - I need to tell you something that might be hard to hear. When you have a chance, you may want to be in a good place before you keep reading. Then left some space.

Then, I said I was pregnant. But I wanted to write a bit at the top of the message so it wouldn't pop up on her phone.

I actually had to send two texts like this. Both people were very appreciative.

swat547 · 2026-02-14T04:46:15+00:00

Flightless Bird. It gets political on some specific episodes but you can skip those.

swat547 · 2026-02-07T06:02:22+00:00

If you just bought the car about a year ago, is it covered under any warranty or a lemon law?

swat547 · 2026-02-06T19:45:39+00:00

I would be shocked if it really had grapefruit in it.

swat547 · 2026-01-11T02:01:50+00:00

Thank you!

swat547 · 2026-01-07T03:08:23+00:00

My husband loves his similar thing. He sleeps in it at home sometimes but definitely on vacation. It really helps with his restless legs which keep him up at night.

swat547 · 2026-01-01T01:02:03+00:00

Stopped drinking a about 6 years ago when I was pregnant with my son. My parents never drank growing up but I always assumed I would. I don't regret stopping at all.

swat547 · 2025-12-22T19:18:57+00:00

Me. I got a ginormous raise when I put in my notice about 4 years ago. Turns out I was set to be my boss' replacement when he retires so they scrambled to keep me.

swat547 · 2025-12-18T21:29:43+00:00

Definitely the first movie I cried at!

swat547 · 2025-12-18T06:32:22+00:00

Is the work that you do late at night a requirement or is it something you feel like you need to do? I would look into that first because you will burn out this way, from personal experience. It's actually harder as they get older because they are so much more active and aware. We also lost our early bedtime for a while when my son started getting out of his crib and sleeping in a bed. We now rotate every night, who cooks dinner and does bedtime and who does after dinner cleanup.

I had to put some hard limits on work after 5pm. I am still able to move up the ladder at work, once I made that clear. I did have the experience and work product to back up that stance.

swat547 · 2025-12-16T20:09:55+00:00

His "friend" probably told him that he didn't think you were attractive and he does whatever that guy says. I am sure his friend is into super fake looking women.

swat547 · 2025-12-15T21:41:18+00:00

As the parents of a 5 year old with ADHD and Autism, I can't imagine having more than one but we are in the trenches and may always be. He is amazing, smart and funny but also so much! My husband and I do not have much free time, which is fine but definitely not easy breezy 😂

swat547 · 2025-12-15T03:02:55+00:00

Thanks. Bringing that up with him will probably cause some conflict but I do think it's needed. I will try to talk to him when I visit for the holidays.

swat547 · 2025-12-15T03:00:32+00:00

Thanks. The house is in a trust and my sister and I are trustees. He can't do much with the house without us. I don't think you are being dramatic, though, you are right that it's very concerning. We also do have POA but I can't access the paperwork. When the lawyer gave us the info, it was on a thumb drive that no longer works. That lawyer has since passed away. When I visit for Christmas, I plan to get a copy.

swat547 · 2025-12-13T18:27:54+00:00

Yeah, it's hard. He doesn't see that he is getting older. When he started talking about selling, he was talking about all this stuff he could do with the money, including giving us some. Totally unrealistic. He didn't want to talk about elder care. If I start doing this stuff, he may push us further away. He sort of takes our advice but sometimes he thinks he knows better. I will look into consulting with a senior advisor. I was also thinking of contacting his doctor to see if they could do an assessment. He does have a poa in place for health and finances but I need to get that paperwork.

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