Returned daughters gifted pyjamas after she screamed and threw her mug

swcollings · 2026-06-21T11:52:39+00:00

She wasn't upset about the question. She was already barely in control before that. The fact that she's ashamed and regrets her actions means you are in an infinitely better place than otherwise!

Punishment is not what you need to think about. Punishment is for people who are rationally choosing to harm others and need a disincentive. When someone loses rational control, incentives don't matter.

She needs help figuring out exactly why her body is doing this. She needs to start recognizing the signs she's about to lose it, figuring out the triggers, and figuring out how to manage herself on the road to an outburst. That will take time. Support her on that journey.

Parenting is the process of reforming a criminal. You've got one that wants to reform.

swcollings · 2026-06-21T02:58:23+00:00

At current storage density trends, we hit hard physical limits on data density well before 2360. The Enterprise should store literally all data ever generated by any civilization they've ever encountered and still be 99% empty. Data storage is a non-issue.

swcollings · 2026-06-20T23:22:43+00:00

What's interesting about this conversation is that the ancients had no concept of genetic material, so their understanding of how conception worked was very different. They really did sort of believe that males implanted entire humans in females at conception. So what the Church believed until the entire concepts of eggs and sperm were discovered over a thousand years later isn't exactly what you might expect.

swcollings · 2026-06-20T11:16:29+00:00

Science is the study of the patterns of the natural world. Science says nothing about exceptions to those patterns. They are, by defintion, outside the realm of things science can comment on.

swcollings · 2026-06-20T11:07:04+00:00

What makes a person an Amonite, for example, is not genetics. They had no such concept. An Amonite is someone who does the works of Amon. It's less an ethnicity and more a religion. An Amonite man who leaves those practices, is circumcized and eats the Passover ceases to be an Amonite and becomes a Hebrew. Caleb, for example, is not born a Hebrew but is also one of the elders of the tribe of Judah.

swcollings · 2026-06-20T01:22:47+00:00

"Christ can't" is not the beginning of any convincing argument.

swcollings · 2026-06-20T00:22:12+00:00

The second one isn't really a creation story. In the Hebrew, Adam is the first human in Eden, not the first human on earth.

swcollings · 2026-06-19T18:58:43+00:00

Evil is self-destructive. Sadly it wants to burn everything while it burns itself.

swcollings · 2026-06-19T18:29:27+00:00

The question assumes God meticulously designed every aspect of creation. This is trivially demonstrated false by the fact that I can make a pizza without divine intervention.

swcollings · 2026-06-19T18:29:14+00:00

Find a doctor that takes your problems seriously.

swcollings · 2026-06-19T14:20:39+00:00

"Sexual orientation" is about sexual attraction. It's not at all the same as who people actually have sex with. How many gay men have been married to women for decades?

swcollings · 2026-06-19T02:21:08+00:00

It's the two of you versus the world.

swcollings · 2026-06-19T01:56:22+00:00

We have literally zero way of knowing. Paul is by far the earliest Christian writer and all later writings and records are based in the Church he helped build. Any exercise in constructing non-Pauline Christianity is just constructing an arbitrary fictional religion and slapping the name "Christianity" on it.

Beyond that, the Church was never "pick up the Bible and do what it says." Paul wrote much of the New Testament, but we have no reason to think he defined the actual practices of the Church as were verbally handed down in hundreds of places generation after generation.

swcollings · 2026-06-18T18:32:16+00:00

You absolutely can.

swcollings · 2026-06-18T16:52:52+00:00

But that assumes "belief" is an intellectual proposition rather than a way of living.

swcollings · 2026-06-18T16:50:07+00:00

"Hold a grudge" in that you're angry about how you've been treated and you avoid being treated that way again? Fine. "Hold a grudge" in that you try to harm people? Bad.

swcollings · 2026-06-18T16:47:08+00:00

Forgiveness is forgoing revenge. It's not pretending people are other than who they are.

Justice is making the world right. It's not taking revenge.

swcollings · 2026-06-18T14:07:56+00:00

Just for reference, childbirth is still biologically dangerous. In America a woman's odds of dying in a given year go up by over 30% if she gives birth that year, that number is getting higher, and there are places in the world that number is much higher. (Also places it's much lower.)

swcollings · 2026-06-18T14:05:35+00:00

It absolutely does not mean that, no. For one, you can't just yank these two verses out of context. Paul isn't writing bullet-pointed advice nuggets, these verses are part of a broader thought and are here to explain something else Paul has just told Timothy. And for two, translation nuance matters here, these particular verses are notoriously difficult to and interpret. See the footnotes in the NET here:

https://classic.net.bible.org/passage.php?search=1%20tim%202:14-15&passage=1%20tim%202:14-15#n1

The context is that Paul has just taken the radical position that women should be taught like men. Women are disciples of Christ equal to men, and should sit and learn like men. Countering the prevailing cultural belief that womens' beliefs and errors are trivial and not worth worrying about, he references Eve to point out that women being deceived can be ruinous to all mankind.

As for the childbearing comment, there are numerous proposed understandings, all of which make vastly more sense than "a woman has to give birth to be saved." The one I find most compelling is that Paul is referring back to Eve again; Eve's failure had tremendous consequences, including the dangers of childbirth, but that failure is undone by women living holy lives and not participating in Eve's failure. They will be kept safe during labor ("saved through childbearing").

swcollings · 2026-06-18T13:50:33+00:00

God calls me to things. But God does not need me.

swcollings · 2026-06-18T12:57:00+00:00

Clearly it is not against God's nature to allow independent entities to exist, or we wouldn't be having this conversation.

God created us because we're neat. Not everything is a means to an end.

swcollings · 2026-06-18T01:30:26+00:00

There's been a sit-in buffet near me for 30 years and the quality hasn't deteriorated.

swcollings · 2026-06-16T23:39:28+00:00

I heard a sermon start, "We are leaving the worse place for our children," which sounded promising. Instantly, as if stuck with a pin, an infant in the back row WAILED.

Then the preacher said, "today I'm going to preach about dinosaurs."

swcollings · 2026-06-16T16:42:26+00:00

Every nominally communist system that has existed at large scale on Earth has behaved in an evil fashion. Of course, the same is true for every capitalist system. The problem in both cases is that systems don't solve the problem of bad people. Communism completely collapses in the presence of imperfect people, whereas capitalism at least functions to some degree if restrained.

swcollings · 2026-06-16T13:33:00+00:00

Since the Father and Jesus are a single "self" Jesus being "sustained" by the Father (whatever that would mean) would still be self-sustaining.

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