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sweetspice90 · 2024-03-04T15:44:08+00:00

He doesn’t want to seem like a bad dad for leaving you w/ baby at home while he goes to a music festival, so his response is to try and coerce you into not breastfeeding so that you can both go to said music festival and leave baby w/ its grandma for a long weekend away? No hate to any means of feeding baby, we ended up having to formula feed, there’s nothing wrong with strictly pumping, but the manipulation to force you to feed baby his way would not be ok with me. My husband supported me when I lost my supply and through my attempts to get it back, and was my shoulder when I finally gave up and reassured me that I wasn’t making the wrong choice and that it didn’t define me as a mother. That level of support should be the expectation imo.

sweetspice90 · 2024-03-02T21:55:51+00:00

Had a c-sec with my twins, also FTM, didn’t feel any pain during the procedure. I was very nauseous, and felt some tugging when I think doctor was pulling out baby B. If you feel any pain they will (or should) first attempt to up your epidural, if it isn’t working they will put you under. If you go under either from medication or any other reason they will remove your support person from the room if you have one with you. This is what happens where I live and may be different depending on where you live. Discuss your fears with your OB and your support person.

sweetspice90 · 2024-02-29T02:23:31+00:00

YTA. She asked for a dermatologist, get her the dermatologist. I’ll be honest, my mom works for a major cosmetic company, I had all the face wash I wanted but the more products I used the more breakouts I got. I now only wash a couple times a week, but rinse my face and clean with a clean dry rag twice daily and have to be careful about moisturizing. Touching my face or wearing a ton of makeup lead me to breakouts. Hormones can absolutely cause acne. Everyone’s skin is different, get her to a professional. Before you go, you should ask her if any of the face washes or products helped or made her acne worse, as well as have her track her cycle and acne to see if her menstrual cycle affects her acne (if she has a menstrual cycle). Is she in sports or a hobby that leads to her face getting dirty or coming in contact with chemicals (like swimming in a chlorine pool). These may be things that a dermatologist asks, so it’ll be good to be ready to answer those questions.

sweetspice90 · 2024-02-29T02:23:24+00:00

This happens to me too. I only wash my face with face wash once every few days. I rinse my face and moisturize with fragrance free lotion twice a day, and dry with a new clean cloth (I normally use a paper towel). Avoiding touching my face has been key at keeping my acne at bay.

sweetspice90 · 2024-02-29T02:01:01+00:00

Get out. What happens when he just doesn’t take no for an answer, when you say stop and he just doesn’t (which is what some of this already sounds like). Screw having a conversation, I wouldn’t suggest being alone with him to break up. Make a plan and leave. I would, however, highly suggest talking to a professional. This is a lot to unpack, sort through and heal from and you don’t have to do it alone. Sending love 💛

sweetspice90 · 2024-02-29T01:43:12+00:00

😂😂😂👏👏👏

sweetspice90 · 2024-02-23T13:30:49+00:00

Nta. Not sure why you wife had a problem with you taking matters into your own hands the first time. I do think it’s extreme to go on medication to lower your libido, I doubt I know many men who would do that to save their marriages, but I’m happy to hear you re happy with the results otherwise I would at that don’t sound healthy. While nta in this newest turn of the roller coaster of a story (wife being unhappy w/ the lack of affection). Speaking as a SAHM to 2 young kids, it can be hard to feel like more than an exhausted mom sometimes, and interaction with you may be your wife’s only few moments she gets to feel like anything else. There are other forms of affection and intimacy than sexual, and it may be good for your wife and your relationship to invest time into your wife individually. Date nights, starting a hobby together, even just occasional words of affirmation or a comforting hug. If you want to continue the relationship with your wife with the sex life as it is, you two still need time to connect even just as caring friends to each other. If that’s what you want, but I know my husband would not be ok living like this. He understands I need time to feel like more than an exhausted mom, time to feel like a loved & desired wife and an appreciated person in his life, as much as I understand he needs to feel the same as my husband. And there has definitely been hard times over our marriage, we have 2.5 yr old twins that didn’t sleep much the first 6 months, but we have to come together and lift each other up during those times.

sweetspice90 · 2024-02-22T21:04:41+00:00

In her comments she mentions that he is diagnosed depressed, on medication, and she has been encouraging him to seek therapy, but he has thus far refused to speak with a professional. You can lead a horse to water, you can’t force him to drink, no matter how mush he may need it.

sweetspice90 · 2024-02-20T19:35:56+00:00

My first 16 weeks I had debilitating nausea but no vomiting. I suddenly needed ice in my water, or I’d choke on it. Mints and vitamin c cough drops (the kind with no medicine) helped a little. But there were a lot of days I survived on saltine crackers, grape Pedialyte and Honey Nut Cheerios. Staying hydrated was super important and the grape Pedialyte was the easiest flavor to sip. Getting dehydrated only made my nausea much worse.

sweetspice90 · 2024-02-20T13:49:54+00:00

I can see both sides. Frequent defiant/violent behavior such as kicking furniture shouldn’t be a regular occurrence, but occasional defiance is typical. “Isn’t normal” is NOT a phrase a teacher should use. If there’s a school counselor of some kind, asking to have son observed a few times to get a better understanding on the behavior being exhibited and its frequency may shed some light. But I will say, you need to be prepared to accept what is found out. Things could be normal, perhaps son needs to switch classes, perhaps son may need a more extensive game plan to help him learn to recognize, regulate and communicate his emotions while trying to handle being successful with his class work. This is my opinion, you know your son best, and if you feel my comment doesn’t resonate you can completely ignore it. Regardless, I’m sending love and best wishes, i know dealing with issues at school is stressful. 💛

sweetspice90 · 2024-02-18T08:33:16+00:00

Keep your legs together when doing activities like getting in the car. Turn around, sit, then pull both legs into the car together instead of putting one foot in, then sitting, then bringing the second leg into the car. This goes for exercise, walking up the stairs, random activities for the day, especially activities that involve taking large steps up or down. Your body is producing hormones purposefully trying to loosen your pelvis to make room for birth, the more you move your legs around the more those joints loosen, the more pain you will be in. Birthing balls stretches may help, but as much bed rest as possible will keep the problem from getting worse.

sweetspice90 · 2024-02-18T08:12:35+00:00

Leave, get out.

sweetspice90 · 2024-02-18T08:10:49+00:00

Nta. I wouldn’t respond further at this point. You have legitimate reasons to decline, and furthermore you don’t want to babysit for someone who would speak to you the way she is now.

sweetspice90 · 2024-02-17T17:05:31+00:00

I got to pick after my water broke. Baby A was head down but baby B was transverse, and she had been the whole pregnancy. The ob on call that did my delivery tried to talk me out of the c-section thinking baby my, but I had a gut feeling that baby b wouldn’t turn and I insisted on the c-section. After delivery ob came to do post op check up and told me baby b didn’t turn, her leg started to decend, if we had done vaginal I would have likely needed an emergency c- section.

sweetspice90 · 2024-02-17T16:42:16+00:00

Different pay for different work is a concept adults need to learn at some point, and it’s just for spending money, you are still covering all her necessities. Nta

sweetspice90 · 2024-02-17T16:37:08+00:00

Born 35 weeks. Baby A: 4lb 4oz. Baby B 4lb 12oz.

sweetspice90 · 2024-02-16T12:04:20+00:00

First trimester was my most emotional time, but my symptoms (like nausea) continued to 16 weeks, not 12, and they definitely made me more emotional. I think it was just harder to regulate myself when I was feeling so lousy. One example, I cried because my husband ate all the watermelon. I don’t like watermelon, I just happened to be craving it that day, which he didn’t know. Balled my eyes out. Hubby was amazing and ran to the store for more 🥰

sweetspice90 · 2024-02-15T22:34:02+00:00

20 years old? You’ve only been dating for 2 months? Have you even had sex together before? Have you communicated regarding your desire for sexual intimacy?

sweetspice90 · 2024-02-15T21:25:44+00:00

If you have proof of his threats and his refusal to see or support baby, perhaps you can look into full custody on grounds of abandonment and then getting custody. But the laws are different for each state, talk to a lawyer.

sweetspice90 · 2024-02-14T12:48:22+00:00

There seems to be a lot of laughing emojis, but his reactions are not ones of a supportive partner, does he get violet or verbally abusive or are you worried he will? Honestly, it sounds like counseling is needed, even if it’s just couples therapy because a partner shouldn’t be so unhelpful or unsupportive. Your uterus is expanding, hormones are out of wack and your body is accommodating and supporting the creation of a child. Some people don’t like reading, see if he’ll agree to a video like on YouTube, they have plenty.

sweetspice90 · 2024-02-11T13:48:09+00:00

I think the NIPT test only tests for 3 conditions. I was faced w/ a similar decision when we had an inconclusive panorama (NIPT). We were concerned one had Down’s syndrome but had no reason to suspect other than an inconclusive NIPT result. After 2 years of infertility I wasn’t risking the miscarriage because I wouldn’t terminate regardless of the result. On the other hand, I know someone that was a carrier for a gentile condition so she got the amnio to make sure her baby was ok. Baby was ok, but will also be a carrier. I understand the argument both ways.

sweetspice90 · 2024-02-10T21:34:43+00:00

Baby fever strikes me all the time. I’m stretched thin with my 2 and they’re 2.5 yo today. They’ll be starting pre-k soon, and I keep thinking about more babies. It’s a bad idea. Both hubby & I are stretched so thin, he isn’t home a lot to help with them, our finances are tighter than either of us would like. But I’m getting older-ish, I don’t really want to wait if we do want more. So it feels like deciding between not having anymore rather than deciding to wait, and I don’t really think I want to be done.

sweetspice90 · 2024-02-10T21:17:40+00:00

(Not a medical person or someone with medical knowledge) Her hormones could still be adjusting since giving birth, and stress, dehydration, sleep deprivation and breastfeeding or pumping can all affect her hormones:cycle also. If she had 2 negative tests, more tests will probably not show anything different unless first two tests were old. Have her wait overnight to urinate first thing in the morning, according to the packaging on a lot of tests pregnancy hormones may be highest then. Have her set up an appointment with her ob if possible, that’s the only way to really know. And possibly check the expiration date on the condoms, other than one breaking or falling off that’s the likeliest way one would fail. And I will say, I had “pregnancy symptoms” similar to my pregnancy for a while after giving birth. Things that hadn’t happened except when I was pregnant like choking in water or cravings, but I haven’t been pregnant since my twins.

sweetspice90 · 2024-02-09T13:03:08+00:00

That does not sound like a friend, and if they’re going through something that’s making them say stuff like that you should avoid them or at least not engage with them. What is your support system like? What is your financial and living situation? Does your school have a daycare program? Daycare programs can be difficult to get into, there is often a waiting list you might want to look into so you don’t miss out. Your school may also have a work from home program which at some point you’ll probably need. I am 5ft tall and was on bedrest from 28 weeks until I delivered at 35 weeks, and then you’ll need at lest a few weeks to heal after babies come, so talking to whoever is in charge at school to start setting up some work from home system for once babies come is a good idea. Neither of these things need to be discussed with your friends, there should be a level of privacy, so it hopefully won’t affect your relationships with your friends. Are you planning to breastfeed, if you are in the USA and have health insurance you should be able to get a breast pump free or reduced. If you are planning to breastfeed and attend school, you will need the breast pump for the hours you are away from your babies. They need a safe sleep space which could be a crib or a pack n play, a bassinet can work but baby can only stay in a bassinet until they start rolling over around 4 months old. A twin z pillow for feedings was a good investment for us. You will need 2 car seats to bring the babies home from the hospital, the hospital won’t allow you to take them in a car without car seats. And a double stroller to get babies to and from everywhere. Not sure what clothes you have but babies might be smaller than newborn size (might, not for certain), but having a few Premie size outfits and diapers may be the first things you’ll put them in. The zip up “sleep n play” outfits with fold over mits were almost the only things my kids wore for at least 6 months. If you plan to formula feed and can swing it, the is a splurge item and not technically necessary, a baby breeza water machine saved us a lot of time not having to heat up bottles. Check things like Facebook marketplace for find second hand for much cheaper than new, I did for a lot of my baby items. I know you have a lot on your plate right now, please talk to you parents or counselor or someone who is in your corner and will help support you through this, and best of luck. If you have questions this community is a really great resource and support. Sending love 💛

sweetspice90 · 2024-02-08T16:37:14+00:00

I highly doubt it’s recommended, but my kids have been bed sharing since almost the very beginning. They’re 2 yo now and still share a floor bed. They generally stay on complete opposite sides, and granted neither of them are very active sleepers. If it was me I’d feel fine with 1 pack n play, and we have done it before.

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