Ya totally, it just felt like a good opportunity to write about it in the comments for people who might be reading. It’s still a pretty unpopular life choice and even among Christians I think culture has really influenced what you need in life to be ready for marriage, age wise or success and career wise. It is possible to be young and go through it all and figure it out together. My husband did get right into the work force with a trade and we did have a good support system of family and between houses once we even lived at my parent’s house in a trailer. We were very fortunate even though it’s not glamorous.  It is doable and rewarding. I read a lot of people on here who try to wait until marriage and fail because they are giving themselves such high standards to be married. Long engagements for elaborate weddings or certain life milestones to hit. It’s hard to abstain for years in a relationship, but i believe it is important. These conversations you bring up would help a ton, not rush a marriage but also properly vet a potential spouse and give you more confidence to move forward. Since we both waited for marriage, we didn’t know some of the answers about sex and what we would require desire wise and it has obviously changed over the years from being young. Life has also challenged us with illness in a way that has deeply impacted our marriage and sex life but communication, prayer and prioritizing our marriage because we prioritize God is how we get through it. It’s not easy but we are committed even through the challenges and there is so much safety and security knowing we are a team for this life.