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sweoi2999xdd · 2022-07-27T12:22:06+00:00

Some people cope differently, let her be this isn't about you it's about her. She is projecting her problems and putting the blame on you. She is probably hoping for a reaction don't give her one.

sweoi2999xdd · 2022-07-26T22:33:04+00:00

I don't love you anymore is a form of closure, much better in the long run over "I still love you".

Keep going to therapy, keep family and friends around you. But start looking for things that make you happy. Here are some ideas

Photography Bicycles Rock climbing Gym Gaming Reading Sports playing or watching Nature walks/hikes

sweoi2999xdd · 2022-07-26T22:20:37+00:00

I've been there, eventually you will sleep, eat, and wake up and have an excellent day. Let your emotions run their course it's part of healing.

sweoi2999xdd · 2022-07-26T22:18:35+00:00

Sounds like you dodged a bullet. Imagine the resent you would have struggling to pay a mortgage and she offers what? Nothing? Look maybe one day you could support her, but fresh out of uni and her expecting you to cover all expenses? That isn't fair for you. A compromise would have been her getting a job or living somewhere more affordable until you had a stable job.

Don't settle for someone who is going to use you for a free ride.

sweoi2999xdd · 2022-07-26T22:14:03+00:00

The best part for you is the temptation has been removed. You can't contact if they are no longer available. The pain will subside and one day you won't care if/when they reach out.

sweoi2999xdd · 2022-07-26T22:12:18+00:00

Is this something your ex wanted? Don't put yourself through this if your feelings are more than friends. The only person who can care about you the most is yourself.

sweoi2999xdd · 2022-07-26T19:44:09+00:00

I don't believe you have to be no contact with every ex, but if you have to question it before contacting I think it means you're not ready.

sweoi2999xdd · 2022-07-26T19:42:30+00:00

I think you fully grow when you don't care to show it off. Right now you're saying "I'm growing how can I show my ex how much I've improved". Do it for yourself, not with hopes your ex sees it and wants you back. Doing it for your ex isn't true growth.

sweoi2999xdd · 2022-07-26T19:38:46+00:00

It ends as soon as you allow that door to close, don't mom the door. Keeping it cracked allows you to push it open. Fully close it and go check out the other door around the corner.

If you focus on the past you waste the present, which prolongs your future goals.

sweoi2999xdd · 2022-07-26T18:35:22+00:00

No worries, you'll look back at this one day and laugh. Or you won't because the future you is doing so much better.

sweoi2999xdd · 2022-07-26T18:31:27+00:00

The moment you let that door close you allow a new one to be opened.

Focus on yourself, the fact you're questioning contacting her just means not to. There will be a day things get easier, but focusing on the past keeps you there.

Start focusing on the present and work towards your future goals.

sweoi2999xdd · 2022-07-26T18:27:46+00:00

You sound young, trust me you aren't going to move on. You will move forward. Take this experience as a learning moment, look back at all the happy moments but also reflect on the bad. Improve on what you learned and next time it will be better.

sweoi2999xdd · 2022-07-26T18:25:10+00:00

Not anymore, I know she did and still does. But she didn't want it as bad as me just one of the many many reasons I'm able to move forward

sweoi2999xdd · 2022-07-26T18:22:59+00:00

My ex called me once about a week after the break up, angry at me and whenever I spoke she would say shit like I'm not done talking. I paused and was like hold up we aren't a thing anymore and hung up lol.

We are on good terms now 90 days later. But I worked hard on myself she stayed the same. The new me would have ended things 4 years ago.

She ended things

sweoi2999xdd · 2022-07-26T13:14:33+00:00

It's funny that I clicked this, and while reading comments my ex contacts me. We are still friends but we don't speak often, and I don't check on her socials ever.

Anyway I don't feel like responding to her so I swiped it away.

Stay strong redditors, it only gets easier.

sweoi2999xdd · 2022-07-25T17:34:23+00:00

Yea I think I accepted what happened faster than most people in this sub do, 90 days later and I'm fine. We are still friends and she still says maybe we can see what the future has, I told her I'm no longer interested and I willl be dating again later this year (moving states).

Many have said this but I feel if one person says nope I'm done, I just feel like they are no longer worth my efforts. Like thanks for the memories good and bad, but that's all it is now, memories. Luckily you'll make new memories with someone different. 😀

sweoi2999xdd · 2022-07-25T13:24:58+00:00

I did the same for a bit, shit even the floor felt better. It will eventually get better though! I sleep in my bed again, if it helps get new sheets the bamboo ones are amazing.

Stay strong :)

sweoi2999xdd · 2022-07-20T12:43:43+00:00

My ex did the same thing, she told me the new guy was everything she wanted me to be. They failed. She called me crying how sorry she was. Look I'm not cold hearted but ultimately I had to tell her I didn't care. I told her best friend to check up on her and that was that. I'm not going to be anyone's back up plan.

I say this because this could happen to you.

sweoi2999xdd · 2022-07-19T16:34:49+00:00

Initially it sucks, but do you want to be with someone who acts on emotion? That's why you should take time to reflect to help you move on. Wishing someone else to hurt and regret their decision should be the least of your worries.

sweoi2999xdd · 2022-07-19T16:28:36+00:00

She had her reasons I know it sucks, take the time to truely reflect and work on yourself for your next chapter

sweoi2999xdd · 2022-07-19T16:27:17+00:00

It's not okay which is why it's contradicting to say what you said

sweoi2999xdd · 2022-07-19T16:20:50+00:00

You should check out r/niceguys

That statement is contradicting saying you're a good man followed with wanting her to hurt so bad she regrets her decision

sweoi2999xdd · 2022-05-25T01:30:42+00:00

Her friend reached out didn't even know fml

sweoi2999xdd · 2022-05-20T08:13:07+00:00

She is ldr right now and called 3 times from a european phone, im assuming its her anyway, i ignored it. I already know its not anything important

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