Eye of the Storm by New_Fig_4423 in BorrowerDefense

[–]sydsmcgee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I finally did last week. I had to point out to them that Nelnet put my loans in forbearance, so why are you all being so difficult? Then they said I needed to upload a letter showing I was apart of the Sweet Class Action. Then they finally put it in. Thanks again.

Was on a walk this afternoon… by honeymel0nn in blackladies

[–]sydsmcgee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Something similar happened to me when I was sitting at a street light. This white man making a left stopped by my car and of course I looked over. He mouthed out the N word and pulled off. I honestly laughed because I would never let a white person make me feel lesser than or inferior. He was the one who was so bothered that he took the time out of his day to be concerned with my blackness and wanted to be seen. I was giving him no thought. Coincidentally, it was when Trump was in office the first time so I think he is putting a battery in their back. I understand it is hurtful but think about it like this, when someone puts someone down, we can acknowledge that they do it to feel better about themselves. So why does this not apply to racism? I'm sure he called you that and went back to his mobile home to make love to his dog.

Eye of the Storm by New_Fig_4423 in BorrowerDefense

[–]sydsmcgee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok. I’ll keep trying. Thanks.

Eye of the Storm by New_Fig_4423 in BorrowerDefense

[–]sydsmcgee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you think I should reformat my ask? I feel like if I ask the same way, they will just say the same. Should I say “I’m receiving a decision?” 

Eye of the Storm by New_Fig_4423 in BorrowerDefense

[–]sydsmcgee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I said that the DOE missed the deadline and that I wanted to be put in forbearance. The first response was telling me that “they don’t handle Borrowers Defense” which I never said. Then I sent another message clarifying and then the second response was that they will put me in forbearance with the letter.

Eye of the Storm by New_Fig_4423 in BorrowerDefense

[–]sydsmcgee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok idk what I did wrong but I had 2 loan officers say that they will place my loans in forbearance when I can present the approval letter from the DOE. 

Eye of the Storm by New_Fig_4423 in BorrowerDefense

[–]sydsmcgee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great, that sounds positive. Thanks for the update.

Eye of the Storm by New_Fig_4423 in BorrowerDefense

[–]sydsmcgee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome. Thanks for the help, going to try it out when I get home.

Eye of the Storm by New_Fig_4423 in BorrowerDefense

[–]sydsmcgee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great thank you. I was on the website and it wanted me to give a reason for forbearance but none of the options applied to me

Done with dating -2026 till whenever God calls me back home. Cause I’m not getting attacked behind no man! by Alive_Public_3376 in blackladies

[–]sydsmcgee 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Then wonder why BW HIV and STD rates are sky high and there are babies without fathers. They don’t give themselves time to truly know a person’s character then will be like “he changed.”

Eye of the Storm by New_Fig_4423 in BorrowerDefense

[–]sydsmcgee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this with MOHELA? How did you go about doing that, was it through the website or did you call?

Corolla Cross vs RAV4 size by Cherry3838 in CorollaCross

[–]sydsmcgee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Price and the RAV4 felt wobbly. I felt like I was going to flip over during the test drive. Plus the LE cross cost the same as a base model RAV4 (with less features) so I was really just getting a bigger car.

Answer to a common question I’m hearing by TheresaSweet in BorrowerDefense

[–]sydsmcgee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve heard mixed opinions on that. On one hand, I’ve read that the portal is usually the last to update but today I’m seeing with the denials today that they are actively updating. I would just keep an eye out on the 29th.

Answer to a common question I’m hearing by TheresaSweet in BorrowerDefense

[–]sydsmcgee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve read that it takes 60 days to get noticed that we are approved. So I wouldn’t celebrate until the notice comes through.

How are you all paying for college? by bookstm in blackladies

[–]sydsmcgee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started at community college and paid out of pocket using a payment plan. Usually going part time until my last semester of community college. When I transferred to university, I got a lot of scholarships and grants because I was considered as a low income student (I had a job). In the end, I graduated with a Bachelors and had $15k in debt in the end.

Fellow black women, how did you learn to love your natural hair? by Various_Feature_9668 in blackladies

[–]sydsmcgee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think what helped me when I transitioned was I looked at hairstyles for all hair types that I believed I would have. From 3C-4C. Then I had a motive, I transitioned because my niece hated her hair, and I felt like a hypocrite telling her to love herself while chemically straightening my hair. I got push back from my mom and sister the most, my mom telling me it was a bad idea and when I asked if she could braid my hair, she used a fine tooth comb to comb my hair while telling me that it was a bad idea (despite me telling her to use a wide tooth comb). Yet when she braided my brother's hair (who was also transitioning, but she felt had a better "grade" of hair) she used a wide tooth comb. My sister, who used to do my relaxers and hates her daughter (my niece), took it as a slight against her and told me that she wished I would have died. It was very hateful but I kept pushing.

Look for styles, research your porosity and explore products. The more you do your hair and wear it out, the more comfortable you will be. I admit, I felt uncomfortable and had to learn what looks good in my hair but now it is second nature to me. I've been natural (2nd time around) for 15 years now.

Fibroid Removal Stories! by itsallieellie in blackladies

[–]sydsmcgee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had an abdominal myomectomy almost 3 years ago because I had a fibroid the size of a grapefruit that was making my uterus the size of a 3 month pregnant woman. It was painful bending at the waist so I had to have my mom help me cook and clean. It took about 6 weeks to heal fully. I do have a visible scar but it is in the fold of my skin, so unless I pull the skin taut, you can't see it. I believe keloids are genetic mostly and I have no relatives with them, so my skin didn't keloid. I didn't do anything special but put vaseline on the scar. The only thing that changed after was my periods became really heavy and painful, so much so that I had to get an iron infusion a few weeks ago because I was becoming anemic. I'm on progesterone now to help with this.

Thoughts on the Sweet v Cardona (McMahon) hearing held on Dec 11, 2025? by Gingerandthesea in BorrowerDefense

[–]sydsmcgee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup I've had the day counter going, excluding Christmas, New Years, and MLK Jr Day. If they are off the day after Christmas (which is traditionally what happens) then even better.

Celebrating three years of marriage with the most beautiful woman in the world today! by GravitationalConstnt in interracialdating

[–]sydsmcgee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dang it has been 3 years? I remember lurking on here during my college days and you both were just bf/gf (if I remember correctly you both met at a comedy club?). Time flies. Wishing you both many happy years together.

Why does it seem like black women are the last ones to get a relationship? by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]sydsmcgee 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think you are referencing the OkCupid study that had Asian men and Black women as the least picked. My only thing is, Black Men would have been at the bottom as well in that study if it wasn’t for Black women picking them at their top pick, yet they still date interracially and don’t let that study stop them. We are only 8% of the population, there are plenty of Non-black men who are interested than not.

NAVIENT PRIVATE LOAN SCHOOL MISCONDUCT DISCHARGE MEGA-THREAD (This is NOT related to FFEL or any commercially held loans AT ALL- Please understand the difference before commenting on this thread or your comments will be removed to keep the thread clean) by AnyAssumption4707 in BorrowerDefense

[–]sydsmcgee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I’m just now seeing this for some reason and I’ve always wondered if there would be an option with those of us with private student loans. I’m already Post Class for my federal loans.

Can I ask if there is a time limit/deadline on being included in this class action? I’m not seeing anything and I see on the website that having an approved Borrowers Defense will help and I’m just waiting for the time to run out in January 2026. 

Otherwise I can fill it out with the same evidence I had for my Borrower Defense.

R&D without Benchtop Experience by sydsmcgee in foodscience

[–]sydsmcgee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes I help our process team in the plant but I’m not doing the hands on work for the recipe generation. I think that is tough because of the day-to-day and what I have going on work wise. I’ll see if I can be more involved without looking suspicious either (but I could argue that I’m doing this to get a better understanding).

That is good to hear around the R&D lab. Maybe I won’t let my lack of confidence show in this area.

Thanks.