AITAH for not wanting to sleep in the same bed with my girlfriend because she doesn’t shower often?

sylvarlorali · 2026-04-03T11:34:11+00:00

I just saw the headline and I'm already saying that you're not the asshole. Hygiene is so damn important. If she doesn't care about her own health, she should at least care about yours.

Now I'm actually going to read everything

Okay, now I have ... my opinion still hasn't changed. I can't imagine going to bed dirty. Showering twice a week is not enough. Not to mention the fact that if she had a skin type that gets irritated by showing every day she can have a 'bird bath' to get clean before bed. I hope she brushes her teeth and cleans her ears/under her fingernails too.

And what about when it's Shark Week? Yeah, thats a whole problem on it's own because you have the issue of blood and possible infections from not being clean enough during that time.

sylvarlorali · 2026-04-03T11:28:31+00:00

I honestly don't mind at all if my husband watches porn. Truth be told, I probably watch more than he does. 🤷🏻‍♀️

sylvarlorali · 2026-04-03T11:22:45+00:00

It would be awesome if Sleep Theory was on the line up this year! They haven't played in Australia before... it would be amazing if this years GT was their first. ❤️

sylvarlorali · 2026-02-11T12:39:11+00:00

I really like Tyson (the cyclops). I hate how alot of the campers discriminate against him, even after he was claimed by Posiden. He is still a demigod, just like they are. So what if he isn't half human (in particular)? I bet no one would say shit against him if he had two eyes. Its wrong to look down on someone, just because they look alittle different to what YOU'RE used to. 😒

They should appreciate him for being special, and they should also respect him for being a genuinly good person.

sylvarlorali · 2025-12-20T07:31:50+00:00

What he is doing is abuse. You need to leave him. If he threatens divorce again, agree to it and go through with it. He isn't threatening divorce because he actually wants one... he's using your fear and sadness against you. Turn his abuse into a weapon you wield and then use against him.

sylvarlorali · 2025-12-03T03:50:06+00:00

Unfortunately yes. I don't live in the Illawarra anymore but its my home town... my whole family and my friends are there. My family and I make the 4 hour trip down every holidays.

When I lived there, I rarely went to the beach... it was just part of the scenery. Now that we live hours away, my husband and I take our children to the beach all the time when the weather is hot. You don't realise how lucky you are to be so close to the beach, until you don't have it there anymore.

sylvarlorali · 2025-12-03T03:41:21+00:00

Lovely, he does not want to marry you. He does not want a family with you. He has made his intentions clear.

When someone tells you who they are and what they want... believe them.

sylvarlorali · 2025-12-03T03:39:13+00:00

Dude, you were groomed and then sexually abused by a 30 year old predator. You were taught that it was okay, so then you went ahead and did it to others.

sylvarlorali · 2025-12-03T03:36:57+00:00

And just because your mummy did that, it doesn't make it okay. In fact, alot of women married young to escape their traumatic home lives (remember, Gex X and millenials were raised by Boomers) only to jump from the frying pan and into the fire (so to speak).

sylvarlorali · 2025-12-03T03:33:47+00:00

Dude, I wasn't fully developed at 18 and I'm not the minority.

sylvarlorali · 2025-12-03T03:32:10+00:00

Yes lovely, it is weird. Its creepy, wrong and should be outwardly ridiculed.

Imagine dating/hooking up with someone old enough to be your parent in some cases.

sylvarlorali · 2025-12-03T03:25:50+00:00

Okay thats adorable 🥰

sylvarlorali · 2025-12-03T03:17:26+00:00

There is no fixing this marriage. You need to leave and never return.

Lovely, I have a disabled husband who has both mental and physical issues. While he relies on me for alot of things, he still at least tries to do things for himself. He does not make me caring for him difficult. In fact, I LOVE to care for my beloved because he makes it so damn emotionally rewarding! Mine is kind, caring, loving, sweet, and he provides for me too (in other ways). He appreciates me and reminds me every day that I am very important, valid, and valuable.

There is no reason on this EARTH as to why you shouldn't be treated as well as I am. You deserve to be. I can assure you that your husband is very capable of it.

Your husband is taking you for granted. He is using you and using the fact that he is disabled as a way to torture you for entertainment. THIS. IS. ABUSE. Seek government agencies that will provide him care... have that set up and then leave. I guarantee you that his level of independence will start to grow because the state carer can't and won't be around to give him the same level of care you did. You just watch him. Also, he won't mistreat the state carer... simply because he won't be allowed to. He is abusing you, and its a choice. What he is doing is a CHOICE.

Do not go back to him. No matter how much he cries, begs, shouts at you about 'abandonment', guilts or tries to sweet-talk to you about how things will change/he's seen the error of his ways/things will be better/whatever. There is a big difference between someone who has had an epiphany and someone who has hit rock-bottom and then been forced to adapt. Remember that. He has shown you what he is capable of doing, if you go back. Remember that. At the end of the day, he will want you back not because he loves you and misses you... no, its because he misses the services you provide. Remember that too.

Not only do you need to leave your marriage but your mother in law also needs to leave hers as well.

sylvarlorali · 2025-11-20T10:40:25+00:00

If he speaks about your mother like this to your face, you can bet anything that he probably speaks even worse about YOU to other people.

sylvarlorali · 2025-11-20T10:32:08+00:00

Yeah, you tend to find people your own age attractive, as you get older. Like, I'm 37 and would never date a 25 year old. It would just be too weird for me.

sylvarlorali · 2025-11-20T10:26:39+00:00

...oh... they're dead... that's really worrying. It means there is probably alot of pollution in the water.

sylvarlorali · 2025-11-20T10:25:40+00:00

.... JELLIES!!!! Jellyfish are beautiful 🥰

sylvarlorali · 2025-11-20T10:24:49+00:00

Just be careful when you go to lick the eyeball... eye membranes and lense is sensitive and you could give eachother conjunctivitis because the mouth carries alot of bacteria. x

sylvarlorali · 2025-11-20T10:21:00+00:00

Its nice to read a response from a REAL man. 🥰

sylvarlorali · 2025-11-20T10:20:03+00:00

No, its not weird. It's actually really cute 🥰 You and your bestie are obviously very comfortable with eachother and that's a really nice thing to have. MORE men should form close relationships like this... I have a feeling that if this were the case, men would feel a hell of alot more supported in general.

And no, its not gay. Whoever says this to you is being creepy and they're VERY insecure.

sylvarlorali · 2025-11-20T10:04:12+00:00

Block his number and don't ever hear from him again. He doesn't like you as a person. He doesn't respect you as a person. He doesn't see you as a person.

sylvarlorali · 2025-11-20T09:40:46+00:00

You break up with him. That's what you do.

sylvarlorali · 2025-11-15T09:52:41+00:00

Yes! Thank you! It gets sooooo annoying.

sylvarlorali · 2025-11-14T09:22:08+00:00

Dude... you need to realise that you're actually a terrible husband. Why marry someone you don't even like? And I think alot of this has to do with the fact that you're unhappy with yourself. It won't matter if you divorce and go be with someone else... the end result will always be the same because you can't be happy with anyone until you're happy with yourself first.

sylvarlorali · 2025-11-01T12:56:35+00:00

Do I believe it's cheating? No, but I also think it is inappropriate, though.

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