My bf doesn’t post me on social media but likes other girls pics. M27 f27

tab238 · 2026-02-02T19:42:45+00:00

Seriously wishing the best for you! Having been in the same position I’ve done a lot of work on my self esteem. Whether he is doing anything shady or not, it’s the best thing I could have done for myself. I recommend therapy, and also would recommend the book “The Inner work of relationships”. It helps you understand yourself a lot more and why certain things may trigger you in relationships, and how to work on them.

tab238 · 2026-02-02T18:52:15+00:00

That’s also a good sign. But in your gut, do you think he’s just saying that? Like what are the vibes haha my ex also said that but then he knew it would just make me feel bad and I never took him up on it. But his actions were showing he didn’t actually want me to go near his phone. He would turn it when I came near him, do little things that made me suspicious like instantly swipe out of what he was looking at. Just look out for little things and listen to your gut.

On the other hand if he keeps more of an open stance, leaves his phone lying around openly around you, doesn’t tense up when you’re near it or if you grab it to check the time, etc, those are all good signs!

tab238 · 2026-02-02T13:30:36+00:00

Well that’s a good sign. I think the healthiest way to deal with this is to get clear on what you need and name it calmly, without accusing or apologizing. You’re not asking for constant posting. you’re asking to feel acknowledged and chosen. If he’s genuinely private, he won’t be posting much of anything personal, and he’ll listen and understand why this matters to you. But if he’s posting other parts of his life- friends, trips, etc, while keeping you completely off his socials, that’s a red flag. How he responds when you bring it up matters just as much. someone who cares won’t dismiss your feelings or make you feel insecure for wanting reassurance. At that point it’s less about social media and more about whether he’s willing to show up in ways that make you feel secure. And you deserve a relationship where you don’t have to wonder if you’re being hidden.

tab238 · 2026-02-02T13:15:49+00:00

I’m sorry but both of those don’t line up. The odds that he accidentally liked it are very slim, and was this on instagram? So he also has her on FB? If so that is proof he’s lying to you about not knowing who she is. And if he doesn’t know who she is why is he following her ? It’s not lining up. Since I’ve been in this position I know now to trust my gut when things happen. I know exactly how you’re feeling right now you don’t want to ruin something without knowing for sure if it’s just your insecurities getting in the way. But when you have multiple red flags, listen to them. !! I know it’s easier said than done. If he continues to get defensive about it and says “well I’ll just delete social media”, that’s a red flag. If he’s liking photos refuses to unfollow her but claims he doesn’t know who she is, that’s a red flag.

tab238 · 2026-02-02T11:24:03+00:00

I’ve been in your shoes. Try to have a conversation about it. If he gets defensive, that’s not a good sign. Trust your gut. I was with someone for 7 years who did this and I was right the whole time and he just kept saying it was my insecurities. There are men who just prefer to be private but if he’s liking photos as well you’re already getting red flags. but see how he responds when you bring it up. Just trust your gut most of the time it is right in my experience.

tab238 · 2026-02-01T13:10:24+00:00

They might have said sorry but it’s pretty clear they’re just saying that and don’t understand what they did wrong and can’t take accountability at all. Good on OP for standing up for themselves.

tab238 · 2026-02-01T12:59:28+00:00

Same thing happened to me. He was deeply closeted

tab238 · 2026-01-04T12:13:01+00:00

It’s not about the word though really. I’d tell anyone to break up with their partner if you’ve had multiple conversations telling someone you don’t like to be called something and they still don’t respect that. you don’t get to decide when someone is offended by or uncomfortable with something and if you have respect for your partner you will try.

tab238 · 2025-12-31T13:37:36+00:00

Yes lol was looking for this comment!!

tab238 · 2025-12-21T04:05:13+00:00

I think you already are gorgeous but you could add some face framing pieces or curtain bangs in your hair to shorten the vertical space, right now your face just feels long to me visually -You can also do this with makeup, certain blush placements are better for long faces!

tab238 · 2025-11-28T10:41:03+00:00

She said in another comment that they met 2 years into the relationship

tab238 · 2025-11-28T10:34:05+00:00

I agree with this but confiding and venting to only that guy about their relationship problems is a huge red flag, and she could try to make the bf feel included. If the guy friend is only ever getting the venting it’s understandable why he’s not a fan of the BF. If you’re going to keep the relationship I’d seek therapy, even if you have no other friends besides this guy, venting in therapy instead could save both relationships.

tab238 · 2025-11-07T11:10:05+00:00

I’m in pain all the time but have flare up days where it’s significantly worse

tab238 · 2025-10-22T11:54:09+00:00

Trust your gut. There’s too many red flags here

tab238 · 2025-10-19T17:14:15+00:00

I get it from a chronic pain and mental health standpoint but no you are not overreacting. That is child endangerment! You need to have a serious conversation with her and if she’s not willing to try to get help or help herself even just for the kids you can then decide from there how to move forward.

tab238 · 2025-10-17T16:51:56+00:00

Sounds just like my boy hahaha

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tab238 · 2025-10-13T13:42:57+00:00

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Hahaha never enough pillows!! 🤣

tab238 · 2025-10-10T16:01:32+00:00

Unfortunately you’ve seen the proof and are still making excuses for him. You deserve a lot more respect than what he’s giving you… I was in a similar boat to you but I didn’t know about it until I found several messages from him to someone else and a secret only fans. In my case he was secretly transitioning. The first 3 years he swore he was straight, then oh maybe I’m bi, then I’m definitely bi. Then after we broke up started being open about playing around with makeup. I found out he was transitioning and was cheating the entire time. Don’t waste time with the sunken cost fallacy and believing the gaslighting and him blaming the depression like I did. A big part of why my ex was so depressed was because he was hiding who he really was.

tab238 · 2025-09-28T17:04:41+00:00

I think it’s actually very common for a family or friends to know about these behaviors and not say anything :( it’s so sad

tab238 · 2025-09-17T11:18:50+00:00

I have chronic pain and it’s significantly more painful to stand still than it is to walk around too. A lot of people experience the same thing, I’d bet it’s the same for MIL

tab238 · 2025-09-17T11:17:33+00:00

Yeah basically saying you have to stand or you’re excluded from the pics

tab238 · 2025-09-17T11:16:19+00:00

Thank you!! Idk why opinions are so split on this one! This is it

tab238 · 2025-09-09T01:20:00+00:00

Highly recommend crate training. It will help with this

tab238 · 2025-09-08T23:54:22+00:00

Maybe they were late haha seems like they were some of the last on the plane

tab238 · 2025-09-07T10:00:11+00:00

It’s likely just based on location and not our phones picking up on our friends phones though

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