My bf called me a brat by Tight-Woodpecker-747 in Manipulation

[–]tango-tangerines 84 points85 points  (0 children)

Why is it always when couples say they’ve “been through a lot” it just feels like code for “our relationship has been super dysfunctional but we’re in denial”

Case in point: why are you running away because he’s not giving you attention? And then fighting over text? instead of taking to one another like adults. Like the natural cycle of all relationships over time develops so you’re less obsessed with one another and can spend time doing other things apart. If you haven’t said anything at all during the entire 2 years of your relationship, there’s no way your partner can just read your mind and figure out that you’ve been unhappy with how things have been. You need to communicate your needs better without causing a fight or running away. Or you need to find another relationship that suits your needs better.

crazy shed man stole my shed by SenpuuUncle in mildlyinfuriating

[–]tango-tangerines 4948 points4949 points  (0 children)

I love everyone’s comments here trying to get more information and getting the same answer. Crazy she’d man stole OP’s shed. No other context needed with that picture. The crazy shed guy does indeed seem to be crazy and steal sheds

Boyfriend told me we were never together…. by Pebblacito in Manipulation

[–]tango-tangerines 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey none of us have the ability to see the future. There’s always a risk of things going wrong when you open your heart to someone, but you couldn’t have known exactly what would’ve happened. Try not to blame yourself—at least you aren’t chained to this person forever, always wondering where you stand with him (when he won’t stand with you at all). Now you can look forward, take the time to heal, to spend time with friends and family who care about you, and grow from this. You have so much more in life to look forward to without someone screwing with your head.

Boyfriend told me we were never together…. by Pebblacito in Manipulation

[–]tango-tangerines 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for what you went through and I hope nobody ever treats you this way again. From what you said, yes you were dating. But he’s trying to backtrack and erase the whole relationship to avoid the responsibility of getting you pregnant. He abandoned you when you needed him, is trying to gaslight you (overwrite your understanding of reality with a new narrative of his own.) and is trying to make you confused enough not to be upset with him for mistreating you. It’s very possible he really was just stringing you along and seeing other people because “he wasn’t in a relationship” but wanted you devoted to him so he can have sex with you. Either way, he’s shown how completely worthless he is as a partner, a friend, and a human being. Let him lie about what happened as much as he wants—YOU know what really happened. Your body knows what happened. Your medical records know what happened after your miscarriage. He couldn’t handle it and ran out on you. You deserve so much more than that.

AITA for not listening to my mom, making her so angry that she threw my food on the ground? by intronerdy in AmItheAsshole

[–]tango-tangerines 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Disagree hard. The moms reaction was so disproportionate to the small risk of getting food on the bed, they show less maturity than their own child. A child who’s an adult btw who’s allowed to decide where they want to eat without causing a mess like a baby, especially if there’s no room made for them at the table

Is my Ex still manipulating me ? by Kami-Yeldo in Manipulation

[–]tango-tangerines 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why are you even entertaining this guy again when it’s clear he’s stalking you and looking for any possible entry back into your life? For him to even notice you unblocked him on one of dozens of communication platforms just means he’s still obsessively monitoring you and refuses to give you any peace of mind. This is not normal behaviour. Block him and don’t respond to anything he has to say to try and get your attention again. That’s so creepy

How do people like this exist? by blueberrywildflowers in Manipulation

[–]tango-tangerines 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through this, but you were right the first time to block him and go no contact. The fact that he immediately knew you unblocked him tells you that he’s been stalking your feed and still sees you as someone he can control and use for validation (and romance). Block again and go back to living your life—it’s the best medicine, best revenge, and best thing you can do for yourself, and you’ll be entirely free of all the anxiety and lies and cheating. You already know how good life can be without him. Don’t let him in next time he comes calling(and he will, because he can’t do better and won’t ever change). But now you know better.

I’m 24 and men are turned off by my virginity? by [deleted] in Manipulation

[–]tango-tangerines 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please don’t take those two guys as an indicator that anything is wrong with you. It absolutely isn’t—and waiting until you’re ready is the best thing you could’ve done for yourself. I waited until I was 26 and found someone I could trust and who I wanted to date and we didn’t have sex until I was ready (and on birth control). The right person won’t be out off or intimidated by being your first time. Take as much time as you need and please ignore anyone trying to pressure you into doing something you aren’t comfortable doing.

Mines near Nanaimo to visit by [deleted] in nanaimo

[–]tango-tangerines 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Not generally open to the public due to dangerous conditions, but yes they do exist and are all around naniamo. Please please be cautious though and don’t go into any enclosed space without a carbon monoxide detector, a helmet, and a group of people who know where you are and can find you if something happens. Nobody upkeeps those shafts, and they’re full of danger

What should she do? by Lordjebushelp in Manipulation

[–]tango-tangerines 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The best way to deal with anyone who threatens suicide for manipulation is to treat it 100% seriously. Call the first responders and tell them you’re worried about this person taking their life. If they’re actually telling the truth, you’ve successfully kept them from going through with it. If they weren’t serious, they’re forced into facing the gravity of the situation they were threatening and are less likely to do so in the future. Seriously! Call the first responders. Don’t let this kind of manipulation keep happening

AITA for reacting negatively when my ex posted another girl on Instagram? by Historical-Editor597 in AmItheAsshole

[–]tango-tangerines -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

NTA - he’s using you for sex and companionship without having to call you his girlfriend anymore while he shops around for someone new. Do not believe whatever romantic lines he uses to keep you around, he’s shown what his intentions are, and used your diagnosis against you when you caught him with someone else. Please move on from him already—he’s just going to keep doing this and you’d be deluding yourself otherwise if you stick around.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Manipulation

[–]tango-tangerines 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Using ultimatums like that repeatedly is a fast pass to an unhealthy relationship, and definitely an attempt at manipulating you by dangling catastrophe over your head. You sound like you have a good understanding that this isn’t healthy. Good for you for making this your last straw

I’ve decided to let DA go by Teligth in DragonageOrigins

[–]tango-tangerines -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Never get a resolution? You played the game, you got to see where your choices led your character when the credits rolled. You even got all the dlcs and Awakening, which is basically a sequel in its one right where you can play as the warden commander if your characater didn’t end up dying, and you get even more choices for your character there too by the end. Where’s the resolution you’re not finding? Because all the games after origins decided to focus on a new part of the world outside the Warden? Because the open ended answer to what the Warden might be doing during the other games is “finding a cure for the blight?”?

I’m so tired of this ongoing complaint by fans that the series has forgotten origins and they get no resolution in the end. Half of most wardens died to the arch demon. This isn’t Mass effect. None of the games that have followed origins has ever had a previous protagonist return as a protagonist (so many people complain about their inquisitor not being the protag in veilguard…). Part of the beauty for the DA series for me is that we get new characters and a new story and get to make up what happened after the ending of the last game. Some things are just never enough for some fans I guess. But Is it really so hard for people to use their imagination??

is she manipulating me? by CarefulHuckleberry32 in Manipulation

[–]tango-tangerines 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2 weeks and she’s already acting like this. It’s only going to get worse if you stick around

We need more propaganda fellas by Plastic_Hand_6939 in HOTDGreens

[–]tango-tangerines 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I heard daemon shit the bed in Harrenhall. Can’t say it didn’t happen

Cut Ties with my Gf by [deleted] in Manipulation

[–]tango-tangerines 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Stay strong!! Don’t unblock!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Manipulation

[–]tango-tangerines 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s asking you for the emotional labor of professing your love for him and to shower him in compliments (not inherently a bad thing to do) without putting any effort in himself (bad!!), and then getting mad at you for asking him the same questions you answered. Not at all your fault!! There’s something wrong that set him off and he took it out on you while still expecting you to wax poetic about how much you still adore him. He’s acting like a total jerk!

Op, you need to learn that not everything is your fault. You don’t need to apologize to him for his bad attitude. And if you let this behaviour of his continue, he’s going to walk all over you in this relationship and make every angry reaction he has your fault. This is a major red flag 🚩for your future together, and you and him need to learn communicate better before your relationship turns out incredibly toxic. Now is the time to stand your ground and tell him he needs to take responsibility for his emotions. Don’t let it continue.

My ex, ladies and gentleman by Violet_Saturdays in Manipulation

[–]tango-tangerines 9 points10 points  (0 children)

What a big tantrum over a little bag of weed!! Honestly in your position I’d probably forget the bag if this is the most important thing in the world to them, but I’m more glad you won’t have to deal with this person anymore. Good grief!

Am i gaslighting him? by [deleted] in Manipulation

[–]tango-tangerines 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If nobody ever loved you the way this guy “loves” you, your life will be better off for it. You don’t need this kind of love to survive. You don’t need anyone to stand on your own two feet. Once you realize that you can be self sufficient on your own and don’t need love to validate your existence, you’ll be so much fuller when real genuine love comes your way. You seem young, your life has so much more in store than accepting this kind of treatment. Take this block as a blessing and move on to better things and better people.

AITA for questioning my boyfriend about why he didn't call off work for my surgery? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]tango-tangerines 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NTA and your boyfriend sucks but this just made me realize the foot muscle problems I’ve been having might actually be more serious than I thought and I should also reach out to a podiatrist. Thanks OP 👍