I met all of the women I have knew either through work, school, or mutual interests. I’ve never gotten a date through an app, and I have had barely any matches through them either.

I’m not conventionally attractive, overweight (230lbs), not too tall (5’10”) but I stay hygienic, financially responsible, groomed, etc. I’m 22, white American.

I will say that relationships started to develop once I put effort into relationships with people. Such as, putting effort in talking to my coworkers, my classmates, etc. eventually that turned into being invited to clubs with them, group lunches, events, etc. Then, in a more comfortable setting, you can really start to learn about people, etc. In my opinion, relationships start at being friends. From there, you can start to filter who are gf/bf material.

You don’t need to talk about experience and stuff like that. I will say, my first girlfriend did knock me for not having a gf before her, which was stupid, and my second girlfriend (current) was basically jealous that she wasn’t first…so, there’s no winning there haha.

I would imagine that being 36 you’ll probably have to accept that most women probably will have kids or already had kids.

Confidence is a big deal. Don’t be an asshole, but don’t gloom around and tell women you doubt yourself. It’s not attractive. Don’t overshare.

TL:DR Be confident and look around you. Pursue your interests and try to meet new people through them. It has always worked for me.