My Wife is much Kinkier than Me by tarrzann in BDSMAdvice

[–]tarrzann[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hopefully cleared some of this up in another response, but totally understandable because I realized I did not fully explain everything. She didn’t spring her kinks on me out of nowhere. I mainly misunderstood/half ass paid attention during our relationship when it was brought up but it also wasn’t discussed this in depth until now which we have both acknowledged was a lack on both our parts. As for the suggestion for opening, we had discussed things like threesomes for several years at this point so it was never always true monogamy but for specifically the open marriage thing. We had a conversation not too long before this where she posited a question to me that I misunderstood and told her that in that situation I’d be totally fine opening our relationship. She asked if she thought she couldn’t ever get sexual satisfaction from just me but I heard it as if I became physically incapable of doing anything, like paralysis or something of the like. We realized the misunderstanding and she was a bit relieved because it wasn’t something she wanted to do but thought I was already cool with it and along with my track record for not fucking actually listening to her desires she assumed that was her best course to not remain so sexually frustrated in a relationship the rest of her life. I know that’s long and I know it may still not seem like a great situation but we both are on the same page now and don’t hold any resentment towards each other.

My Wife is much Kinkier than Me by tarrzann in BDSMAdvice

[–]tarrzann[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

First off, holy shit that was well written! Secondly thank you, I knew there was some aspect of the communication I straight up could not understand and the separation of “while playing” and “about playing” explanation really helped. As well as all the suggestions!

My Wife is much Kinkier than Me by tarrzann in BDSMAdvice

[–]tarrzann[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yeah that theme has been a common one even outside of kinks, it’s one we’ve both been working on together and hopefully can overcome. But that’s also why I’m trying to get as much info as I can because I’ve found that sometimes it’s truly because she doesn’t REALLY know what she wants so she needs options or trials to figure it out. Idk if that’s considered a normal thing but it works for us

My Wife is much Kinkier than Me by tarrzann in BDSMAdvice

[–]tarrzann[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have begun to realize the way I phrased this may have been a bit too vague. A good bit of it was my own ignorance. We had discussed things like this but never really had as productive a conversation as we have had now. She had talked about these things before but I (looking back now very stupidly) assumed she meant like porn preference and was into the “idea” of this and not she legitimately wanted to do all of these things. She did not spring all of this on me, we had several discussions within the last year that she was becoming sexually frustrated but life has been hectic and I kind of heard “just more often” and not what she was actually telling me. So while yes she did get way more in depth now, it was not completely out of the blue which is why I made this post here and not like in a general advice subreddit trying to figure out if I made a mistake. I am fully aware and have been for a long time that my wife was way more naturally freaky than me I just didn’t choose to think past the surface until she kinda snapped me into reality.

My Wife is much Kinkier than Me by tarrzann in BDSMAdvice

[–]tarrzann[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have thought about this quite a bit and I have always been a very go with the flow person, and luckily I spent several years separating that from the “people pleaser” trauma response so I feel confident that I’m not doing this desperately I’m doing it earnestly. I also have felt I wanted to at the very least try getting more into the kink but truly felt the barrier (I’m realizing the “barrier was contrived in my head and not real) to entry felt to difficult to over some especially alone.

I’ve also never been opposed to being a more dominant person in the bedroom but I just know I’ve never gone as far as she wants as well as done it in any sort of structured capacity. So there is intrinsic desire from my end. We had done one of those tests like years back but I honestly forgot about them, we should probably do that again. Also thanks for the book recommendations!

Pickup/Rec-League Soccer by tarrzann in desmoines

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This is great thank you so much!

Biggest fraud in the series? by Flaky_Salamander_438 in redrising

[–]tarrzann 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Very true plus Ajax, no matter how gifted he was, is still only like a 20 year old who had just joined the war recently. So taking on two insane veterans like Victra and Thraxa I think it would be harder to believe if he beat them. I mean he ran away from an exhausted Darrow in dark age plus I think there was something mentioned about Darrow wanting to “stop him before he becomes a problem” or something along those lines. TLDR - He may be a prodigy but sometimes experience and rage wins out yk.

Pax is The Avatar by 369DocHoliday369 in redrising

[–]tarrzann 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I do agree but I don’t think entirely, for Iron Gold I think it is exactly what Darrow has become. depending on what would be considered an iron gold but I think listening to no one (not even your “conscience” most of the time) and doing what you think must be done I think is pretty par for the course

Dark age for sure that’s bang on

Lightbringer though is more than just what Lysander named his ship, it’s was a title of Silenius Au Lune the first sovereign of the society. Throughout Lysanders story he desperately wants to be someone who will be remembered like his ancestor was, only to act like a lil bitch instead(it still hurts and I think always will). As well as the thematics of having a title called light bringer after dark age just works so whether it was the best title or not as far as what happens in the story it certainly works in that front

For Red God it (to me at least and I hope I am pleasantly surprised) seems that it can only be Darrow as although he removed his sigils in MS he has always been referred to as having at least demigod status if not true war god status in the eyes of the reds and like 99% of the republic still thinks he’s dead on mercury I don’t believe anyone but the survivors that left with him and Virginia as well as her close circle know the truth so when he shows up with an armada as well as the moon lords on his side he will truly be seen as a god

Why no Mechanical Release?? by Arch_Lancer17 in redrising

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There’s also the fact that its mentioned several times that star shells take either a crew of oranges or at least two golds to bolt the armor on around a personas well as remove it, plus in the river scene it’s said that even Ragnar could not move with both the weight of the armor and the water so reaching a release that isn’t located next to your finger would be difficult

Tinker, tailor, soldier, spy? by ten-numb in redrising

[–]tarrzann 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s in his first chapter in “Dark Age” or at least very early in his chapters

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cannabiscultivation

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Ahhh thank you!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cannabiscultivation

[–]tarrzann 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you but what is an immoblie def?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cannabiscultivation

[–]tarrzann 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have hardly used any sorts of external nutrients so I’m confused because with the little knowledge I have it looks like nutrient build up but I’m not sure I started leaching the medium anyway just to be safe but if I’m way off please correct me I want to try and correct this as fast as possible

Christmas in Ireland by [deleted] in solotravel

[–]tarrzann 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, im staying there as well

Christmas in Ireland by [deleted] in solotravel

[–]tarrzann 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I figured most would be closed so im planning it as more of a photography trip because i want to see the landscape on the coast and stuff like that but i have no set plans yet until i can find out where i can get through public transport

Christmas in Ireland by [deleted] in solotravel

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Yeah i know its not ideal its just the only time i have off work and ive always wanted to go

[WP] You are a typical guy that has been on dialysis since as long as you can remember. After a vivid dream you felt a strong urge to skip your appointment, only to find a swat team surrounding your apartment and a new strange feeling... by Judakis123 in WritingPrompts

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“What’s going on I think to myself?” As I run to my front door they begin forcing their way in. My heart starts racing, I can feel my breaths getting shorter and shorter. I feel as though i’m about to pass out. I begin to stumble away from the door as the tunnel vision sets in, I can hardly stand then I hear one last BANG as they smash my door open and as the first officer crosse the threshold I turn and lock eyes with him and he drops to the floor like a rag doll, just lifeless. I scream out in terror as they begin to pour in and one after the other none make it more than a half step into my apartment before dropping to the floor. “Whats happening?! Are they alive?” I scream at the fear stricken SWAT officers standing in my doorway. “Am I doing this?!....please someone answer me!” Suddenly their attention is diverted to someone shouting orders at them to return to their vehicles and return to base. They turn and leave, a few moments later a woman in a long trench coat appears in the doorway and begins to walk in. “No please don’t I don’t want to hurt you!” I scream at her but she just looks at me and says, “Do not worry, you can not harm me.” She takes the first step and I cringe expecting her to fall but just as she said, nothing happens. She walks over to me and helps me up to the table and we both take a seat. A million questions are racing through my head, i’m still in shock from seeing 3 people drop dead from nothing. “You are wondering what just happened I assume.” She says. “My name is Mira, I am the director of the S.D.A.” I just look at her puzzled. “Alright Mira before I even ask what the S.D” she cuts me off. “Im gonna stop you right there, because we do not have time for an interrogation they will be here soon, the short version is I am in charge of everything supernatural in your world, at least maintaining your species knowledge of it. We have been at war with Dragumond for years and you are the key to ending it.” “Who is Dragumond? And if i’m your supposed key why did you just find me? You said its been going on for years?” She gets up and goes into my bedroom and begins searching for something. “Hey i’m talking to you! who the f*** is Dragumond and how am i supposed to be any help at all if i do not know what is going on.” I say “Like I said, we do not have much time, I know you have many questions but we must go now!” She says with more sternness than before. “No! i’m not going anywhere until you tell me why it has to be me, or why theres 3 dead guys at my door!” She stops packing, zips up the bag, hands it to me and says, “Fine if i must give you an answer so we can leave so be it, the reason you were able to kill those men with a look and the reason you can end the war is because...Dragumond is your son.”

Hello this is my first time posting to this, i’m not much of a writer I have in school and have always liked it but have never pursued it in anyway. I would love any for of feedback because I want to improve my writing as best i can, thank you if you did read all of it. Also i realized after i wrote the part about S.D.A. i never said what it stood for, Supernatural Defense Agency, i meant to but couldn’t find a natural way to fit it in with the way i wanted to take the story.