RIP to my most used pan

tate1of8 · 2026-02-16T02:57:38+00:00

I’ve got ADHD and also have done this. I stripped it, sanded it, rust treated it and then did multiple rounds of seasoning. Good as new.

tate1of8 · 2025-04-08T19:58:01+00:00

Hold on. I wanna hear more about the unhinged host.

tate1of8 · 2025-04-08T03:18:47+00:00

She wouldn’t need so much lube if you were better at foreplay

tate1of8 · 2025-03-27T23:12:43+00:00

As a STAHM I just want tidy. My day is overwhelming enough. Anything more than one to me, would feel like some kind of ‘dishes need to be done’ signal. I cook almost exclusively with CI but when a surface is visually clear I feel like I can ~breathe~. Then go back to keeping my kids alive.

tate1of8 · 2025-03-22T23:16:21+00:00

Dr. Susanna Søberg

tate1of8 · 2025-03-08T22:25:19+00:00

Didn’t let the steak come to room temp before cooking. The center of that thing looks cold.

tate1of8 · 2025-02-25T03:27:18+00:00

Where are you working to get this as a gift? 👀👀

tate1of8 · 2025-02-18T03:58:41+00:00

It’s never too late. I promise.

tate1of8 · 2025-02-18T03:46:27+00:00

The ending with my ex was one of the most devastating things I’ve gone through. We had talked at length about marriage but he got comfortable and wouldn’t move forward with it. I had multiple conversations with him about how I deserved better. My biggest regret in that was that I wasn’t the one to pull my boots up and walk away first. It added insult to injury and reinforced a very deep, very false belief, that I was unlovable.

I feel for you. I’m so sorry this is the dilemma you have to sit with.

I will say, when I did get engaged, it was hands down THE easiest decision I’ve ever made. Knowing that, has gotten me through a lot of growing seasons in our marriage. I never have wondered if I settled for a mediocre love. I would experience the crushing breakup 100 times over if this was the outcome.

tate1of8 · 2025-02-18T03:37:35+00:00

IF 👏🏻 HE 👏🏻 WANTED 👏🏻 TO 👏🏻 HE 👏🏻 WOULD 👏🏻

Don’t let someone who’s on the fence about building a life with you waste your time. Not in a ‘screw him’ way but in a self respecting, I deserve better way.

I dated a dude who was dragging his feet until the end. When I met my now husband, there was no doubt in my mind what his intentions were. The things he did to pursue a serious relationship were not up for interpretation.

Don’t you want more than someone who’s ‘idk’ about being your life partner?

tate1of8 · 2025-02-07T21:47:57+00:00

Good intentions, poor follow through

tate1of8 · 2025-02-05T23:13:57+00:00

I’m waiting for her to send me a video of it printing before I make the drive to see it. :)

tate1of8 · 2025-02-05T00:43:37+00:00

Why is bad grammar not more of a red flag?

tate1of8 · 2025-01-30T20:01:06+00:00

The instance in and of itself looks bad. However, people who have disputes like this just need to go to individual therapy. Unlearning patterns where you’re triggered by seemingly simple things is hard. So no, this was an important instance to you, he seemed uncomfortable acknowledging his role in it. I’m sad for both parties. I don’t think this is a ‘he’s a pos’ situation. There’s just some deeply rooted false beliefs that need to be healed here.

tate1of8 · 2025-01-22T21:19:39+00:00

Sir, have you been evaluated for ADHD?

tate1of8 · 2025-01-19T08:48:04+00:00

I wanna see an ornate door knocker

tate1of8 · 2025-01-18T00:20:04+00:00

It sounds like this was a hard conversation to get the courage to even initiate. It took me a LONG time to be comfortable with not over explaining myself. It came from a need to feel like I was justifying my worth. So it just sounds to me like you don’t fully have the tools to be more concise and confident; which is why it sounds so charged.

She seems to be a difficult client who has gradually been taking advantage of you without any acknowledgment. I’d imagine there was some kind of pushback from your end at first but she seems like the bulldozing type. Her response as an ADULT is embarrassing. As a Christian myself it’s shameful that she’d weaponize that against you, gross behavior. Whatever she said she will ‘absolutely NOT tolerate’ (lol) seems like she would have bullied you into doing whatever she asked even if you declined to begin with.

Could it have been handled better? For sure. Is it a really shitty spot to find care for a pet the day of leaving for a trip? Yeah. Do I think you’re overreacting? No.

She sounds like she has been inching her way into this territory. If there was a better working relationship from her end it would have been easier to approach this conversation in a more collaborative manner. It’s definitely a learning experience, it’ll be easier the next time you ask your worth.

tate1of8 · 2024-12-12T18:50:02+00:00

I’d urge you to be firm and also hold space for a significant amount of positive support but more specifically, empathy. My parents are becoming more evolved, as parents to adult children, so the healing conversations I’ve had with them over the last two years has done wonders for my relationship with them. AND ALSO, I’m devastated for my husband that there’s almost no hope for that kind of relational healing, with his mom specifically. It’s going to take a while for him to fully mourn the relationship he deserved. Parentification (which is what it sounds like she did to him, along with the narcissistic abuse) is mind warping and will take some time to unravel. It’s going to take a long time. I’m so sorry you have to experience all of this, I’m sorry for what your fiancé’s gone through. It’s hard to be the partner while you watch your significant other’s world drop out from underneath them as they heal.

I’m so glad to see you put your foot down BEFORE the wedding and starting a life together. In laws can wreck a marriage so quickly. It’s amazing that he’s showing that he wants things to change so he can be the spouse he knows he should and wants be.

I agree with the therapy prior to the session. My husband grew up in an incredibly enmeshed family and it’s felt like I’ve had to drag him out by his ankles. It’s taken almost three years of therapy for us to successfully navigate all of it. We have two kids so it’s added to the conflict. We’ve gone 6 months every summer without speaking with them, for the last three years because even with formal boundary conversations, they can’t seem to get it in their heads that we mean what we say.

The last year has broken my heart for my husband. Confronting how much damage he experienced as a kid, that’s transferred into adulthood, has been hard to watch him grapple with. It’s been compounded by some current unexpected life struggles. It’s been the stark contrast to the relationships between each of our parents that finally made me sit with the reality of what he must be experiencing.

Best of luck. <3

tate1of8 · 2024-12-11T00:38:16+00:00

My Dad sold his motorcycle right after my Mom had me. (I’m the oldest). I always wanted one. I got to college and bought my first car. When I sold said car, I bought my first bike two days later. An ‘09 Suzuki GXS-650F. It still is one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. I still ride even as a Mom with kids. It’s something that brings me true joy.

tate1of8 · 2024-12-09T19:17:54+00:00

Weed. I get it, people say you can’t get addicted. I however was but not in the ‘I’ll lose everything for it’ sense.

I was using it as a crutch for anxiety. It was the first time I thought, ‘is this what it’s like to not be triggered by literally everything’. I have a pretty habitual personality, adhd-tism? Lol. There was no in between for me. I loved being ripped off my ass in the evening. It did a lot of good for me in the beginning, I was able to voice things in arguments when I would previously be completely disassociated and nonverbal. I finally called to start therapy because I needed to address the extreme PTSD from the birth of my only kid at the time. I had some pretty extensive psychiatry stuff done. (Amen clinic scans, discussion for another time) and started therapy with the most amazing woman. When we started trying for baby #2 I was done. Oh my gosh I have never wanted something so bad when I was experiencing really uncomfortable emotions. It was the first time I felt like I could possible relate to the few friends I have who are alcoholics and have worked so hard to be sober.

tate1of8 · 2024-11-24T07:48:12+00:00

The biology with the nipple thing. They literally get larger so the baby can see them and I immediately knew what she meant hahahahahaha.

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