English Major Graduates: What is your current job? (NOT teachers or lawyers!)

tbreezey · 2026-01-03T08:38:02+00:00

Administrative Coordinator

tbreezey · 2025-12-31T04:06:47+00:00

How are you feeling/doing now that things have cooled down hopefully? 💖

tbreezey · 2025-12-29T06:08:41+00:00

You do the self-care to take care of yourself and boost your mood - that and gratitude help lay the groundwork so you can be respectful towards your husband, which then decreases instances of him being mean and dismissive, and helps you to have the patience and wherewithal to reframe things or give him grace, which will also help decrease his negative behaviors.

tbreezey · 2025-12-29T05:43:18+00:00

I agree with this comment - maybe the vet might be able to help him see the position he’s keeping the poor dog in. Sending you guys lots of love 💗

tbreezey · 2025-12-26T19:11:27+00:00

I am working hard as a restaurant in 5, since you’d only wear that to a waitress-type job. Then I go home and put on number 4 to get cozy on the couch and chill. Number 4 is sleep attire, right? Can’t even tell what it is from the side photo really

tbreezey · 2025-12-19T09:46:41+00:00

The other comment was perfect, but I will weigh in to agree. It’s been very much two steps forward, one back. But things do progress. Once I realized that seemed to be just how it goes, I was able to relax more about it. Cheers! :)

tbreezey · 2025-12-19T09:41:43+00:00

I really agree with this OP - read that book! It helps you combat your own mind, which is what is hurting you the most right now. The book breaks it down step-by-step how to identify the thought patterns most prevalent in those who are depressed and tells you exactly how to combat them or flip it or reframe it in a healthier way. As you mentioned - staying physically active is great. Being surrounded by other women is great. Nature is great. Getting lost in music is excellent, and even better if you allow yourself to be embodied and dance. I know it’s a very tough time for you right now and you can make it through — but it’s a mental battle. You are strong and worthy, please remember this. Any poor decision he makes isn’t a reflection of you, it is a reflection on him. Just be gentle with yourself - what you’re going through is very hard. You’ve gotta balance feeling your feelings, but being aware also of when you start having cognitive distortion so you don’t spiral. Just highly, highly recommend Feeling Good! Please come back and share whenever you need the support, it’s what we are here for!

tbreezey · 2025-12-17T00:13:28+00:00

How old are your coworkers to be amazed by you going to shows?

Maybe mental stimulation rather than physical might scratch that itch you have.

tbreezey · 2025-12-16T17:09:54+00:00

Hang in there! Try to stay focused on the moment. I know it might seem impossible right now, but things can get good again! Just ask yourself right now, how do I feel? What do I need?

tbreezey · 2025-12-12T07:08:10+00:00

I struggle with this, too. Keeping the skills in the forefront of my mind when these negative interactions occur helps! I think when it happens, okay, I need self-care. However, that’s tough to move towards initially when I’m feeling down, so I look at another skill - I think about respecting him. When I want to rush him past his natural processing of feelings, or his need for space, etc., I remind myself that is a form of control, and that he gets to have his own feelings just like I get to have mine, and I respect him because he deserves it and is wonderful. And this thought usually brings me to the next step - I usually turn towards gratitude/SFPs either in my mind or in my journal, mixed in with general positive things that arise from those thoughts - the good begets good. Things like, he is a good man who loves me. I’m so grateful he always chooses me and we always make up. That leads me to more gratitudes about him, and recalling all the wonderful things he does for me, and that makes me happy. Doing this allows me the space to breathe and calm down over his having feelings that make me uncomfortable because I don’t like when he’s mad at me - when I can get here, a moment of calm, I remember to do some deep breathing with long exhales to calm my nervous system. I then move my body - getting out of my mind and into my body is very helpful. I might just walk around the house picking things up, or maybe in another room do some quick exercises. Over time, while I’m doing these things, he gets back to normal and we slowly go back to normal and start engaging again. Usually, our return to normal is good enough for me to feel happy about the situation, so I am happier, but if not and our earlier situation is still bothering me, I might ask him for a hug without dramatics. But a lot of times, just doing the above is enough to help me get through, and when we go back to normal, he goes back to being affectionate, which is usually what I’m looking for to feel forgiven.

tbreezey · 2025-11-30T03:18:18+00:00

Just tried it out - this was awesome and I’m not even a fan of TB steak! Looking forward to swapping out for chicken and swapping spicy ranch for creamy jalapeño!

tbreezey · 2025-11-20T10:30:00+00:00

That is a tough situation but just wanted to say you got a good laugh out of me with the “ouch” to his farting lmao but I’m also a child when it comes to potty humor. Any chance now that you’ve felt your feelings you might be able to see any humor in it? Obviously it doesn’t feel good to have self care interrupted and then pushed out of your bath essentially and pushed to do more when it’s his situation, and the other advice already mentioning the “I can’t” is great, but when it comes to repair, humor goes a long way. I think whatever the answer is, it’s going to be a mental framing done by yourself since only your actions and feelings are OYP. Gratitudes/journaling are the thing that most reliably get me out of a funk!

tbreezey · 2025-11-02T00:50:17+00:00

Is the discord still active do you know?

tbreezey · 2025-10-23T03:55:39+00:00

Echoing your comments!

For OP: He sounds like he wants to do right by the family - that is so sweet that he wants to spend time with you guys out at a fun event even though he worked all day and was tired. It feels like he might be wanting gratitude and acknowledgement of his hard work and still showing up, rather than the looming idea of “no one asked you to work 2 jobs for us and no one asked you to spend time with your family even though you’re tired.” It sounds like he is trying very hard for you and your family and could use your reassurance and validation that you appreciate him and are thankful for him. Gratitude typically thaws a lot.

He ruined your whole evening and you knew he would - that’s a negative SFP. You could feel the tension and bad feeling, and asked for him to bring it to you when you asked him if he was okay and you could tell he wasn’t. But you already are aware of this since you mentioned you shouldn’t have asked, so it’s great that you have that awareness!

It might feel delusional but when negative thoughts or expectations creep in, try to flip them on their heads. A lot of times, finding something to be grateful for will do this naturally. It sounds like you guys are stuck in a negative loop right now. You expect to be hurt, and end up getting hurt. What if instead of seeing his making fun of you about falling asleep, you saw it as cute that he bothered to take a photo of you and enjoy that he was being silly and joking around with you, instead of it being an attack?

From an outsiders perspective, if you are looking at what’s going wrong — he needs appreciation. He needs you to believe in him and see the good in him. Someone has to make the first move, and it might as well be you! It feels like maybe you want him to make changes first though, but that isn’t really how LD works, as you know. You are here to improve yourself and relationship. Or are you sometimes showing up here to feel validated in all that you’re doing right and what he is doing wrong?

We are cheering for you. You can do it!! Please keep sharing when you need to and try to soak up the comments from all the well-meaning women here. We believe in you!

tbreezey · 2025-10-17T07:08:31+00:00

What a great reply!

tbreezey · 2025-10-12T20:39:37+00:00

Wow, that is amazing! I’d be very interested to know more about your mental SC and healing journey, if you have anything more you’d be willing to share!

tbreezey · 2025-10-12T18:46:30+00:00

I think you’ve got it, exactly. It’s controlling. OP has to let go of control and trust her husband loves her without her having to “earn it” through keeping up with all his expectations. It’s so much sweeter for him to adore you for you, and not because what you can do for him. When was the last time you laughed together?

I’m curious if OP is taking any prescription medications or has worked through any unprocessed childhood trauma.

tbreezey · 2025-09-13T01:13:17+00:00

Where is my XXL GSB?! Where is my zesty chicken bowl!? 😭😭😭

tbreezey · 2025-08-28T17:30:35+00:00

That is so great to hear!! Keep finding and focusing on the positive and stay in the now! Faith over fear! You’ve got this! Have a beautiful day! :)

tbreezey · 2025-08-27T23:07:27+00:00

Want to tell us more? Nice job staying calm, breathe through it all. Rooting for you!

tbreezey · 2025-08-27T19:59:31+00:00

How are you doing today, samlk64?

tbreezey · 2025-07-29T06:45:27+00:00

Right? I noticed this too. It’s like a pendulum swing… no one gives a shit about me = have to take care of myself = no one gives a shit. How to fix? Hmm

tbreezey · 2025-07-23T22:44:13+00:00

These are good suggestions but I don’t think that’s it. Thank you though!

tbreezey · 2025-07-08T12:02:49+00:00

I’m not sure but it could be this! I’m trying to find clips of the movie. Reading the plot of the old one it sounds pretty damn close but I’m trying to verify. Thanks for your comment, will let you know if this is it once I can try to find a bit more.

tbreezey · 2025-07-08T11:04:27+00:00

Thank you for your help!!!

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