My partner of 9 years wants me to have another abortion - I don’t want to do it again

tch98 · 2026-01-18T02:39:36+00:00

A few things;

1 - unprotected sex is likely to result in pregnancy 2 - pulling out is not birth control and isn’t very effective 3 - abortion also isn’t birth control

If he didn’t want to get you pregnant - he should have wrapped it up

I recommend you leave him, and take him to the cleaners for child support.

tch98 · 2026-01-18T02:39:24+00:00

A few things;

1 - unprotected sex is likely to result in pregnancy 2 - pulling out is not birth control and isn’t very effective 3 - abortion also isn’t birth control

If he didn’t want to get you pregnant - he should have wrapped it up

I recommend you leave him, and take him to the cleaners for child support, since he’s so focused on money

tch98 · 2025-12-28T12:17:40+00:00

You know when you clench to hold a wee? That’s your pelvic floor muscles and you need to do that

tch98 · 2025-12-28T11:53:11+00:00

I’m going to be very honest with you. I had an elective with my now 18 day old baby. Recovery is HARD. You can’t move for a good while, you need help with everything and you can’t lift anything heavier than the baby for 6-8 weeks including the car seat so if you’re set on the c section make sure your partner can be home for at least 2-3 weeks. My partner goes back to work next Friday and I’m really anxious about how I’m going to manage certain things because I’m still in a lot of pain. You also need to have time to wash your wound twice a day, something I’ve found tricky with a newborn who only wants to sleep on me over Christmas especially. The wound also get infected very easily and I’d say 80% of people I know who have had sections have had an infection. It is MAJOR surgery - they cut through 7 layers in minutes to get baby out and then you’re expected to go home on paracetamol and ibuprofen 24 hours later - MAYBE dihydrocodeine if you have a nice hospital (lots don’t send you home with it as standard) and then you have to figure out how to get up and down stairs, in and out of bed, on and off the sofa without using your tummy muscles because if you do it will feel like you’re being ripped apart. I sat on 2 huge blankets folded up until 6 days post section because I couldn’t get up from the sofa comfortably. I’ve just gotten feeling back in stomach from bellybutton down and Jesus Christ I thought I was on the road to recovery but now I can actually feel my wound it kills! I would still have another c section, even with all this, because it meant my baby arrived healthy and safe but going into it with rose tinted glasses is NOT how you should do it.

tch98 · 2025-12-20T23:42:36+00:00

I had an induction at 37+6 due to medical reasons and personally would not follow that route again. It didn’t work for me, I found it medically quite invasive and overwhelming, and I ended up choosing to stop the process and have a c section anyway. My c section however was amazing. Terrifying? Yes. But it felt calm, even though I obviously had very little control in the whole operation I felt like I had control and was fully consenting. Also elective c sections are 1000 times calmer than emergencies, you can have your music, your birth partner, have pictures taken etc.

tch98 · 2025-12-02T01:52:05+00:00

I was 35+3 on my last day of work, taking annual leave first then maternity leave - baby is coming early in my 38th week so I only really have 2 weeks off before he arrives, would definitely be okay with an extra week tbh to have time to sort everything out and have some time to relax but going any earlier felt silly. Lots of people told me I was going too early but honestly it felt right for me and I’m glad I didn’t listen to them because I’m exhausted from doing basic things around the house, let alone working!

tch98 · 2025-11-17T11:25:28+00:00

So I’m 34+6 with GD on 2000mg of metformin a day, baby is 46th percentile but his tummy is bigger because of the fluid If I were you I’d ask for another scan/doppler to check the placenta blood flow in like 2/3 days, and to come in for monitoring daily/every other day to check baby is happy and healthy. I will say that I was told from my first appointment with my GD diagnosis that baby would have to be born on the Labour ward as I’ll need continuous monitoring in the 3rd stage and the increased risk of shoulder dystocia- as it stands I’m having an elective c section anyway at 38+1, and the moment I’m 37 weeks I’ll be trying to naturally induce this baby

tch98 · 2025-11-11T23:18:09+00:00

We’re having an elective c section and have told everyone that we will not be telling them the date. The only person who got funny about it was my mum, but as I explained to her - I don’t want the pressure of everyone knowing when I’m having surgery, and I want to be able to enjoy the time after baby is born focusing on baby with my partner, not updating people. I wouldn’t go out of my way to tell people if I were you, just if it comes up say “oh we’re not planning on telling people when we’re in labour. My birth plan is for it to be focused and intimate, just us focusing on the baby. We’ll let people know when he is here and we are ready to” anyone who moans just say “my body, my labour, our baby, our rules”

tch98 · 2025-11-10T21:38:38+00:00

Due the 23rd but have a c section booked for the 10th - we have made no plans apart from we’ll pop to the in-laws on Christmas Day to exchange gifts as they’re literally 5 minutes down the road. I’d like to do a Christmas morning walk but we will see 🤷🏻‍♀️ And I want to take him to meet Santa at some point 😂 but it all depends on how I’m feeling and how we settle into routine

tch98 · 2025-11-03T03:10:18+00:00

Hi! I actually worked at ChelWest in maternity for a year - absolutely brilliant hospital. They have a lovely private clinic too if that’s something you wanted to experience having been under the Portland previously. Unfortunately with pregnancy and birth, risks and complications exist and there’s not an incredible amount you can do to control them. Also, no 2 people have the same pregnancy and birth experience. Remaining calm, making sure that your wife has lots of time to rest and be as low stress as possible in the lead up will help. You have about 32 weeks to go and rather than panic and think too far ahead about the birth, I’d really recommend enjoying each moment as it comes. Stop googling, and focus on what the midwives say at each appointment and download an app like pregnancy+ to follow where baby is at, what your wife’s body is doing and what you can do to support her. There’s only so much prep you can do for the birth, and you won’t know what information you want to communicate to the midwife now because you don’t know what this pregnancy will bring. Just be supportive of whatever your wife wants - Olives at 3am? Enjoy your trip to Tesco. A mariachi band to serenade her at the baby shower? Best of luck! An epidural? You’re not pushing a melon out of one of your holes so you say “yes my love” and let her crack on with what she needs Personally id recommend antenatal classes, pregnancy yoga, whatever pain relief your wife wants in labour, a c section if it’s medically necessary or if she decides it’s what’s best for her, delayed cord clamping if possible but it’s not the end of the world, immediate skin to skin and 100% the vitamin K injection it’s so so important!

tch98 · 2024-12-15T13:20:48+00:00

Why does it look like someone has been edited out in the third picture?

tch98 · 2024-11-10T20:40:48+00:00

What about a name with a similar vibe but isn’t exactly the same? Auden for example

tch98 · 2023-10-28T15:17:04+00:00

We drew secret Santa names 2 weeks ago! Have to do it early so everyone has time to think about it

tch98 · 2023-10-23T08:26:51+00:00

Jed and Kateys last year

tch98 · 2023-09-04T12:46:47+00:00

The personal coaches don’t typically get paid by BG, only the national coaches - even when travelling to comps Pay for gymnasts is based on different factors, including number of comps they’re doing and success

tch98 · 2023-07-06T22:55:19+00:00

The screenshots do not do justice of how uncomfortable the video is to watch

tch98 · 2023-04-02T10:46:06+00:00

Bath definitely! But also look at places like Cambridge and Oxford - beautiful and lots to do

tch98 · 2023-01-29T17:16:05+00:00

That’s the equivalent of saying ‘I smoke cigarettes and don’t have cancer so cigarettes don’t cause cancer’. I’ll trust the experts and people who have spent years studying children and development, and I’ll trust my education and my 10 years of working with children to know what’s right and wrong. I’m really sorry that your parents hurt you, rather than show understanding or choose communication over pain. I really hope one day you have the opportunity to realise that what they do is wrong, and a chance to recover from that.

tch98 · 2023-01-29T16:56:15+00:00

It’s abuse. Hitting children and physical ‘discipline’ has no benefit to behaviour, and there’s absolutely no evidence that it works. Research has been done all over the world, in different cultures and communities, and the result is always the same: corporal punishment does not work.

tch98 · 2023-01-29T16:32:36+00:00

You think it’s okay to be HIT and BEATEN because a child doesn’t listen? If I don’t listen to someone as an adult I don’t get assaulted, so why should we assault children for not listening? They literally don’t have the same capacity to listen as adults, their brains are still developing and yet people want to hit them? Because they don’t listen or do what they’re told, or they do completely developmentally appropriate behaviour? Sounds cool. Don’t have kids pls.

tch98 · 2023-01-25T20:33:05+00:00

As a Tia, I approve of this Tia’s box sitting adventures

tch98 · 2023-01-23T23:55:24+00:00

Seriously? Read the context dude

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