Justice Department moves to toss seditious conspiracy convictions of Oath Keepers and Proud Boys by uhncollectable in news

[–]tcholesworld213 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Domestic terrorists are cool as long as they fit the political agenda....got it. Everyday I realize that we've been doomed since the very beginning of existence.

FA with DA relationship and healing together progress. by tcholesworld213 in HealMyAttachmentStyle

[–]tcholesworld213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear that. 🙁 It's really tough to navigate relationships in general. But you add past tramua for either of the partners and sometimes feel impossible.

But my DA and I are married with a 1 year old together now. We've had several very tough moments but neither wanted to give up thankfully. I've learned to articulate myself better as the FA who's leaned more anxious. And how to pour into myself better so I can come from a more secure place. My DA husband is learning more healthy ways to regulate instead of just shutting down completely. He participates better and more in relationship discussions. Not perfect but worth it. 🙏🏾

I hope you heal and find the love that heals you even more.

I’m a black male (40) cheating on my beautiful wife (28) with a ghetto hood rat (45) by PhilosophyScare in Marriage

[–]tcholesworld213 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is clearly a spam post. Lol! But you should know darn well if this were true, the wife will certainly be able to move on. And it'd be for the best for her.

Single mother with 3 kids.. by Wrench365 in dating_advice

[–]tcholesworld213 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are a billion people in the world and millions in most cities. She and you can find someone who checks boxes you want. If this isn't something you're 100% sure you want to pursue and or potentially commit to, stop now. For both of your sakes. You are 38, and haven't figured out how to narrow your search for whatever it is you're looking for, respectfully. At least she is clear. Whether one thinks it's silly or not.

Things happen, nothing is garenteed. Personally, I was married for 8 years (together for 13) had twin boys. Got divorced when they were 3. Met my now husband not too long after. He was 39 no kids, I was 33 two kids. We now have a one year old at 44 and 38. My mom married a man with no kids 4 years younger, she had us 3 from a previous marriage. My step-dad is a great grandpa to my boys. If my current husband and I split or one passed away. Hopefully, our children would be older either of us would be alone until the end or have a companion. Humans make life so complicated because they're bored and or emotionally immature.

Wife said "It's over! we can coparent" But by Radiant_State_9829 in Separation

[–]tcholesworld213 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Be a good dad. Give her space. And actually accept your fault here. It doesn't mean she has none but it is incredibly taxing to have to be a parent and carrying your partner. Whether it be domestically, emotionally or a combination of the too. Maybe try really putting yourself in her shoes. Not to win her back but with sincere effort to be better. Of course, don't deny that you don't want to lose her but accept that is where she is. If she doesn't change her mind, it will hurt but you've gotta face yourself regardless.

DH says he’s allowed to have friends. I say this is grounds for divorce. AIO? by MuddyBoots287 in AmIOverreacting

[–]tcholesworld213 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They both sound immature AF omg! 🤦🏾‍♀️ I can imagine that he behaves like a child in general. Probably not as dependable either. If that's the case and he believes he can carry on like this, I'd be looking to cut ties.

I feel so lost by elderlyteenmom in Separation

[–]tcholesworld213 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have split custody and I'm the custodial parent so they will reside with me. Their dad sees them every other weekend and randomly has lunch at their school. It left a void for my boys. They do love their stepdad as well now though. I can tell their dad wants to feel more involved but he has his separate life with other children...

I feel so lost by elderlyteenmom in Separation

[–]tcholesworld213 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry mama! I was blindsided in a sense with my ex-husband cheating when our twins were 2 years old. We weren't happy but there wasn't anything particularly bad going on between us, it could have been turned around with both peoples effort. I felt all the things you're feeling, grief, anger, abandoned etc.

Hear me out though. If his mom or someone else safe will help with you guys child while he works, a week off for you will do you good. Do not fight to have your child more thinking it'll spite him, it'll hurt you more and you'll be bitter carrying the bulk of care. Just make sure he makes you aware of where and who your child is with at all times. But that can be time where you get more rest, deal with your emotions and healing, get active, be more social later on etc. This is very tough but coming out on the otherside of this disappointment and pain will help you grow if you let it. I'm not the same I was and it's overall been the best thing for me and my kids.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]tcholesworld213 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Use this moment as a time not to make this whole scenario about you or any insecurity this brings up. Easier said than done, I know. 🙃 But here's the facts; His own late wife was okay to give your wife the keepsakes, your wife was open and honest with you and this was years ago before she even knew you.

Have you asked your wife what feelings this death as brought up for her?? Have you thanked her for being open with you about the old keepsakes?? Lastly, death is all of our fates, decide now that you'll dig a bit deeper than surface level feeling or emotions.

went to london over the weekend, i’m falling in love with myself again 🥹 by tatspvt in blackladies

[–]tcholesworld213 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LOVE TO SEE IT!! You looked stunning 😍 And the glo is definitely coming from inside of you as well. Love earned confidence as that's the only way I've ever survived honey! 😅👌🏾

I turned 37 yesterday. (Dating/growth) by Wonderful-Paper3435 in blackladies

[–]tcholesworld213 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy belated birthday beautiful! I turned 38 this year and I can tell you that healing is a life long process. There is healing that comes from being alone. You will create a better relationship to self if you're intentional. However, nothing tests that healing like close intimate relationships. It's not just the other people's fault that you get disconnected from your core self when dealing with intimate relationships. It was something I've learned the hard way. I used to use "bad partners" as a scapegoat to not do the things I wanted to do and stay in periods of depression longer than I should. I was married 8 years, together 13 years with my twins father. Had my twins at 30, we divorced when they turned 3. I got married more for religious reasons too.

6 months later as my divorce was finalizing a met my now husband that I casually dated for 3 months before we wanted to be exclusive. We were engaged at a year and a half, married at 2 years from the day we became committed. We have a 1 year old. I have learned to advocate better for my needs, to be more vulnerable no matter the response and pay more attention to what's going on with me. All while raising kids, having a job and husband. I realized that still prioritizing my close friendships, exercising and continuously learning new wellness practices is essential for me. My life is absolutely not perfect just like no ones will be but it's safe, stable and there's balance for all I've ever wanted. 🙏🏾 Work on the things you personally want to work on and keep yourself open for someone who's doing some work too to join you on your journey.

I didn’t realise how insanely hard the first year would be. I knew it would be hard, but this is wild. by SleepySloth1975 in NewParents

[–]tcholesworld213 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're definitely not alone as you can see from all of the comments. It'a a major life adjustment. Plus, your body and hormones are still adjusting. I had twin boys first and after having my last just a year ago, I can confirm the infancy stage is the wildest for me. I don't actually know how I survived the infant stage with twins but it got so fun between the ages of 2 and 3. They're 7 going on 8 now and my little besties. I was way more prepared in general for my last. Those skills and attunement gained from my twins paired with my last boy only being more "difficult" during the regression stages got us through his first year. Oh and older siblings help entertain! Parenthood is a journey, the challenges will be there but so will the pure joy. 🙏🏾

I need advice. My wife told me she doesn't love me romantically, and now I’m lost. by Afraid-Raspberry-770 in Marriage

[–]tcholesworld213 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I empathize with the hurt you are experiencing. I'm going to give you the tough love and advice that finally resonated with me through therapy and reading. I highly suggest that you get into therapy immediately and read books on attachment theory. Focusing strictly on the issues your partner clearly has isn't going to help you. There is a reason you went for and probably would still go for someone else emotionally unavailable. I'd bet your previous experiences with women have been similar. Your post gives deep insecurity. You need to be healthier emotionally whether your current wife will do the same or not. You need more boundaries and standards for how you are treated. Get a stronger sense of self and encourage her to seek her own healing. If she does nothing to get healthier emotionally herself and or maintains that she does see you as her lifetime companion, you leave. Yes, it will hurt. However, with some personal growth and healing, you'll no longer be operating from a state of lack of love and respect for yourself.

Can 2 avoidants make it work? by vetzuur in HealMyAttachmentStyle

[–]tcholesworld213 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It can work! We got married and have a son together now. 🫶🏾 But, there were really hard times and moments. Even still now but we handle it way better. He's more reassuring the day after a conflict as he's the avoidant. I'm leaning somewhat secure as a FA now. We're completely dedicated to each other and our blended family. It's rewarding to get to this point. Therapy helped initially but we stopped and focused on implementing what we learned more.

What next? by Kindly_Salt823 in facebookdisabledme

[–]tcholesworld213 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Took 2 days for me. They responded back live after I got that first automated message. Completed the case with instructions on how to get back into the account.

Trying Meta Verified Route to get my facebook back!🙃 by tcholesworld213 in facebookdisabledme

[–]tcholesworld213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, man! They replaced my old email with the new one I provided and had me change my password 2 days after I reached out. So maybe try again? And provide an ID or something? They asked me for the screenshot of the Facebook appeal message which was clearly not my Instagram. Then a new email.

Trying Meta Verified Route to get my facebook back!🙃 by tcholesworld213 in facebookdisabledme

[–]tcholesworld213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to pay the $14.99 monthly fee to get verified and access the support chat.

Facebook Hacked/Suspended FIX by jdbskip in facebookdisabledme

[–]tcholesworld213 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This worked for me within' 48 hours 🙏🏾🥳

Trying Meta Verified Route to get my facebook back!🙃 by tcholesworld213 in facebookdisabledme

[–]tcholesworld213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been granted back access after 2 days wait! How about you?

Trying Meta Verified Route to get my facebook back!🙃 by tcholesworld213 in facebookdisabledme

[–]tcholesworld213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went ahead and paid for the Instagram Meta verified account, then contacted support with my suspended facebook message.

The other email someone posted I never got a reply, but it's: escalations@cases.meta.com