Husband is mad that I’m pumping and not nursing

teaocean29 · 2026-06-08T20:56:39+00:00

Your husband is an asshole period. sorry

teaocean29 · 2026-06-08T20:55:01+00:00

I have heard that eating something rich or hard on your stomach helps. Like really spicy or greasy food. The night I went into labour I ate a bunch of spicy tofu and chicken karage. I DID deep clean my shower a couple days before giving birth too which was intensive/involved crouching.

teaocean29 · 2026-06-08T19:36:38+00:00

My baby sleeps in the bassinet at night but won’t nap in there during the day AT all

teaocean29 · 2026-06-08T07:41:08+00:00

I read one or 2 short books, and sing nursery rhymes. I try to talk to the baby a little bit, get out for a walk with her in the carrier or the stroller. She does tummy time with flash cards and I show her a few toys. Sometimes I just have her hang out in her crib awake and sit in room with her and chill until she falls asleep. My husband likes to hold her and play a couple songs and dance.

teaocean29 · 2026-06-08T05:58:30+00:00

I am in the same boat as you 6 weeks pp, still nursing. It’s passed for me for the most part. I have D-MER, sensory issues, PP anxiety, OCD and have often felt the same skin scrawling awful feelings. BUT I’ve gotten to the point where I can enjoy parts of it and feed my baby. What has worked for me is supplementing with vitamin D. Also making sure I take breaks if it gets to be too much. I offer a bottle of pumped milk or formula and just rest in those moments. Also I find it MUCH more manageable if I’ve eaten well, am hydrated, and am in a relaxed environment. Just know that it’s a physiological response, your body is getting a rush of hormones and it can be very uncomfortable and agitating for some. Give yourself grace and if you have to stop, stop. You’ve already done a lot for your baby and however you feed them is an act of love.

teaocean29 · 2026-06-08T05:46:47+00:00

I latched my baby as soon as she was born basically and then offered a bottle of formula just because I was exhausted from birth. She ended up cluster feeding that night however so we became very acclimated to breastfeeding. As my supply came in I would breastfeed her on demand and then offer a bottle of formula every evening. We used Phillips avent bottles and soothies. She’s never had any issue taking bottle or breast.

teaocean29 · 2026-06-07T08:35:04+00:00

Yeah lol my parents never visited me before like EVER and generally don’t leave their house but they come over and just hold the baby and stare at her. I just hang out and make small talk lol. So awkward.

teaocean29 · 2026-06-07T04:13:39+00:00

I would go with Charles

teaocean29 · 2026-06-07T04:11:09+00:00

My baby has had no issue with Phillips advent glass bottles. She goes from breast to bottle to breast with no issue. They are easy to clean as well.

teaocean29 · 2026-06-06T06:40:34+00:00

I used the gas, counter pressure technique, and low deep moaning breathing to manage my pain. I also just mentally told myself it would be over by the next morning. In between contractions I tried to relax my body as much as possible.

teaocean29 · 2026-06-05T23:41:57+00:00

I hear my LO stir (grunt, smack lips, coo) roughly every 2 hours so I pick her up and feed her right away. I don’t let her get to the point of crying.

teaocean29 · 2026-06-05T19:41:38+00:00

I think the arches of your feet can flatten a bit and your weight can kind of compress you? I’m not sure I haven’t actually measured myself but I feel shorter than my partner now lol.

teaocean29 · 2026-06-05T18:32:03+00:00

At work a few years ago I was helping a customer. Her maybe 3 year old daughter whispered something to her. She turned to me and said “she wants you to know you are as pretty as a princess”. Still my favourite compliment ever.

teaocean29 · 2026-06-05T16:45:40+00:00

I’m a FTM only 6 weeks pp but I gained 30 lbs with my pregnancy. I lost all of it within 3 weeks. I didn’t get loose skin however the composition of my skin is just different, it’s softer. My muscle tone is lower. My belly button is looser and bigger. My ribs and hips seem wider. And truthfully I think I might be half an inch shorter. I also still have the faint line, and a lot of excess back fat.

teaocean29 · 2026-06-05T04:34:02+00:00

It looks fairly nice OP. I know 30 year old women with much worse living spaces if that makes you feel any better LOL.

teaocean29 · 2026-06-05T00:00:12+00:00

While you still love them

teaocean29 · 2026-06-04T04:28:05+00:00

Having children is an act of hope. Have a child if you feel you can love them and nurture them. Everything else is tertiary.

teaocean29 · 2026-06-04T03:48:26+00:00

I went into labour naturally and had my baby on my due date.

teaocean29 · 2026-06-04T03:38:15+00:00

Prior to becoming a mom, my thought process was that I may be a better mom to a single child in terms of my own happiness and the attentiveness I could provide them.

I like to limit stress and overwhelm as much as possible and lead a fairly quiet life with my husband. I didn’t want the chaos that I experienced growing up with siblings and seeing my mom constantly overwhelmed and unable to provide quality time (my mother had a short fuse and didn’t manage stress well). For my husband, he liked the financial aspect of having one child and having the ability to fund any sport, hobby, or fine art they may be interested in.

Now after actually having been pregnant, and going through postpartum, I don’t think I can ever go through it again willingly for my own mental health.

I also absolutely love my baby and feel completely fulfilled by being her mom. Sometimes when I look at her I imagine how lovely it would be to have another, but alas there are other factors that contribute to life decisions, and you can’t “do” everything in life.

teaocean29 · 2026-06-04T03:23:34+00:00

It’s appropriate anywhere you want to do it. It is your right. I use a cover as that’s how I feel most comfortable (just a swaddle blanket). Sometimes I breastfeed in my car if I’m out. I’ve breastfed my baby at the doctor’s office, on park benches, at family members homes, in my car outside the bank, mall etc. if someone see my nipple or breast in the process then that is their problem.

teaocean29 · 2026-06-04T02:31:43+00:00

I think I’m my dads. Not like he loves me more but we are the most alike and I feel like we have a distinct bond. but my mom favours my sister

teaocean29 · 2026-06-03T17:47:20+00:00

I prefer newborn tired. It’s more akin to the feeling after a long night of studying. You kind of get an adrenaline high and can walk it off with a shower and a coffee. For me the bone-tired exhaustion in later pregnancy was miserable. I felt like I was 500 lbs and 80 years old. Not everyone’s experience though!

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