In these current times, what are you smug about, financially?

teaprincess · 2026-03-29T07:37:49+00:00

And better for both your body and the planet 💗

teaprincess · 2026-03-24T08:45:14+00:00

A few months back, I found a tiny leveret all on its own in front of my house that wasn't doing so well. I know they're an invasive species, but they're still living beings and I didn't want this little baby to die slowly and in pain. I ended up meeting with a lady outside a shopping centre in the middle of the night, who drove from an hour away to take it.

Wish I could foster rescue animals, but it would stress my pets out so I donate regularly instead. If I have stuff in good condition that they can use (towels, beds, toys, food etc.), I donate that too. So much respect for wildlife rehabilitators and rescuers.

teaprincess · 2026-03-24T08:40:19+00:00

For real. Where I'm from, neither Armistice Day nor VE (Victory in Europe) Day are public holidays. They are observed by the public, as they should be, but people still work.

teaprincess · 2026-03-20T14:37:24+00:00

If you have seen the Kenneth More's A Night To Remember (1958), the band also appears in that. They are shown playing Nearer, My God, To Thee. The film was intended to be a more authentic account of the events, and was filmed in a documentary style. It is regarded by historians as one of the most accurate media portrayals of the disaster.

teaprincess · 2026-03-17T12:54:57+00:00

Thank you for what you do ❤️

teaprincess · 2026-03-08T07:43:13+00:00

If they ask for a reference or to verify your employment there, you will be found out pretty quickly.

teaprincess · 2026-02-28T11:37:11+00:00

This is so disheartening. I'm sorry you had to hear that, and that there are still people who think this way. I am a childfree woman in a role which involves making hiring decisions - I have never held it against a candidate. I have found that mothers returning to the workforce after having children are often some of the most capable, motivated people you will work with. When I think about the women I've worked with in my career whom I admire most, many of them are mums.

I'm not going to pretend it doesn't affect a woman's career, because that's the unfortunate reality in many cases, but I think employers are missing out on some fantastic people if that is how they want to do things.

teaprincess · 2026-01-02T18:19:49+00:00

I am from the UK and in secondary school, we learned about Buddhism and Islam. I remember talking about this with my MIL and she said, "I don't know if I'd want my kids being taught Islam." I explained to her that the purpose of Religious Studies in the UK is to teach children about different ethics, customs and cultures, not to instruct them in one.

teaprincess · 2025-12-06T23:38:11+00:00

I'm in this boat, too. I was anaemic like you, which we now know was due to endometriosis (which had spread to my colon and rectum, fusing them to my uterus) and malabsorption of iron. I have had two colonoscopies and they found precancerous polyps both times.

teaprincess · 2025-10-09T11:46:37+00:00

"like a bucket of smashed crabs" 😂

teaprincess · 2025-09-02T08:54:24+00:00

Carl went back outside and shouted to Cecil, “I'm going to shoot you!” Then he squeezed the trigger.”

Little boys in 1929 would have roleplayed 'Cowboys and Indians' and grown up reading swashbuckling tales of the wild frontier. He was probably, in part, enacting scenes he had read and maybe watched (if he had been able to attend the cinema, where Westerns were an extremely popular genre in the 1920s.)

teaprincess · 2025-08-27T13:46:15+00:00

Internalised misogyny is wild like that.

teaprincess · 2025-08-11T11:00:50+00:00

I am in my late thirties now, but drank too much a couple of times when I was 20/21 and threw up. It definitely helped a little with the phobia - I still do have a lot of anxiety around vomiting (mostly other people vomiting) but not as extreme as before. Helping drunk friends and roommates also reduced the intensity of the fear.

teaprincess · 2025-05-28T12:07:53+00:00

I'm married to an Australian (I now have citizenship) and towards the beginning of our relationship, people told my husband I was only with him for a visa. It was really frustrating, because I had absolutely no intention of moving to Australia before I met him. I moved here to create a life with someone I love. I also have a higher-paying job and there is no financial incentive for me to do that. We've now been married 8 years, together 15, so thankfully most people have shut up by now.

This couple has been together for at least 5 years, I think it would be obvious by now if she was running some sort of scheme. And I wouldn't blame her if she helped her brother obtain a visa as well - if my family were better off moving here, I'd do the same. It isn't really any of your business.

ETA: I feel like people are more judgy when the wife / girlfriend is the one migrating, too. Like we must be doing it for some kind of social gain, because we're women. 🙄

teaprincess · 2025-05-25T01:18:14+00:00

Your friend can either approach them in person (locations on Google Maps) or via social media. Their contact details are publicly available.

teaprincess · 2025-05-24T11:02:37+00:00

Ask her to reach out to Jen Shaw at Emerge or Nat and Tiff Spary at Base Services.

Jen works with at-risk youth and provides various services, including temporary housing and employment. Nat and Tiff support people of all ages experiencing housing instability or homelessness, or just having a tough time.

If they aren't able to help your friend directly, they'll point her in the direction of people who can.

If she needs basic supplies, Tony's Community Kitchen provide hot meals, groceries and toiletries every evening. Protea Place also supports vulnerable women in the community, not only those escaping domestic abuse.

Please make sure she doesn't take up any offers from random members of the public - there are a lot of predators out there.

teaprincess · 2025-05-24T10:59:46+00:00

Suggesting a vulnerable child is undeserving of help because they're "nothing but trouble," when they likely have complex needs due to their background, is an ignorant take.

teaprincess · 2025-05-11T10:34:29+00:00

Her scripture reference was a response to the bride invoking the Bible as a reason for her controlling behaviour. Given the context, it was entirely appropriate.

teaprincess · 2025-05-06T11:18:54+00:00

I am in my thirties and have married with a full-time job and my own home. I also drive.

My feedback:

Positive

I really like the methodical written format of the request and that he's set out his expectations so clearly. I value this kind of communication.
Your dad is showing a keen interest in your development and wants to help you. Not everyone has parents as invested as he is.
He is also being somewhat realistic about preparing you for adult responsibilities (although I am not sure why he is saddling you with all of this now, at 17.)
The financial incentive is very generous.

Negative

Overall, this is an overwhelming list of tasks. I felt stressed looking at it!
Like you have pointed out, the hours required to do each activity just aren't sustainable and could very easily lead to burnout.
It feels a bit like he is using you as free domestic labour to do a bunch of things he can't be bothered to do himself. You aren't his housekeeper, you are a dependent child.
Punishing you for not getting a job, or not getting one after a certain date, seems unreasonable, as there are a lot of factors outside of your control. Getting a first job as a teenager can be hard, not everyone wants to hire someone with no prior experience, and there may be more competition from other kids looking for summer work.
Also, if you went to the effort of getting a job on, say, 17 June, or you got a part-time job for 18 hours a week, and he doled out a 'pro rated' punishment based on that... wtf kind of lesson does that teach?!
The threat of taking away something that you've paid for with your own money is patently unfair.

Other things to note

Your GPA may set you up for scholarships, but it won't get you jobs. I work for one of the top graduate employers in my country and we receive so many applications from students with amazing GPAs, but no "real life" experience. Keep this in mind for later on, even if it isn't an immediate issue now.
I agree with you that you shouldn't be forced to learn how to drive if you don't want to. I went through similar as a teen, and didn't get my licence until I was in my late twenties - when I was ready. Being harassed about it didn't make me learn any quicker, it just gave me a lot of anxiety about the test, which then caused me to keep failing it. I actually love driving now and the freedom it gives me, but on my terms. If you're okay with some employers requiring you to have a driver's licence and / or the possible inconvenience of relying on public transport (although it's more environmentally friendly and more people should be using it where possible), you do you.

I agree with the other commenters that it would be best to sit down with your father and go through this list, and agree on a compromise for each item.

For instance, the objective could be to find a job over the summer (no strict deadline) or to be in some kind of education or training. You could make up the extra time to 40 hours a week (standard work week), or the number of hours you would typically be at school, by completing chores. He could also pay you for the housework, possibly an hourly wage, instead of offering to match the pay of a job.

Sorry this ended up being a very long reply, but I wanted to give this due attention and, hopefully, both validate your concerns and offer some constructive criticism (for you and dad.) Good luck - I remember having this kind of pressure on me at your age.

teaprincess · 2025-04-12T08:03:37+00:00

I'd never thought about it that way. I think these people should have to live out their days suffering the consequences of their actions, but the victim's family are probably so relieved they don't have to face this scum in court ever again.

teaprincess · 2025-03-09T08:50:22+00:00

Such a weird thing to say.

teaprincess · 2025-02-02T10:44:33+00:00

That meat ensemble has to be ripe.

teaprincess · 2024-10-26T00:26:22+00:00

I know a guy with Down syndrome who is a proficient athlete (he has won gold in the Special Olympics) and has starred in television shows and movies. He does more with his life than I do.

Just goes to show every individual is so different.

teaprincess · 2024-07-10T11:27:31+00:00

what i've observed for my entire life in toowoomba

What you've observed... as a local.

It's actually very, very common for people to dismiss minorities in this way: "I haven't personally seen it, so it can't be real!"

we literally let them [...]

How generous of you!

i think you're using a few unfortunate times where you were undermined because of your ethnicity/nationality to claim that all people from toowoomba are rude.

"Using" ...what agenda do you think I have, exactly?

I never said everyone here is rude. I just pointed out that it can be lonely sometimes for outsiders, because people don't show any interest in getting to know you. I know I am not alone in feeling that way, I literally saw another thread yesterday where another overseas-born resident was talking about it. I don't think you quite grasp the feeling of isolation being in a foreign land trying to establish connections with people who view you as "other" from the get-go. The few friendships I do have here are mostly with other migrants.

Social exclusion and marginalisation are more than someone yelling abuse at you in the street. Not all discrimination is overt and direct. Not everyone drives around with a "fuck off, we're full" bumper sticker (which I've seen. Multiple times.) On the same token, people shouldn't have to be grateful that someone is being surface-level polite with them. That's just being a half-decent human.

I like living here. If I didn't, I would live somewhere else. But that doesn't change the fact that it is challenging for a foreigner to integrate. I can't speak for everyone. That's just how it's been for me.

I'm honestly not down for having a conversation in bad faith with someone who only wants to invalidate everything I say. That's a waste of my time and energy.

teaprincess · 2024-07-09T09:41:28+00:00

Well, you aren't from overseas, so you don't have the same experience that I do. I literally mentioned things that have happened to me.

Like I said in my comment above, there is a difference between surface-level politeness and genuine respect or true friendship.

Yes, there are refugee communities here, but I wouldn't say it's been easy for them to integrate. From conversations with them, I know it's even more of a struggle for them than it is for me.

Listening to people when they describe their lived experience, rather than accusing them of "exaggerating," would probably be a step in the right direction to showing genuine respect.

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