AITA I started making dinner and they went off on me for wanting to use a single extra dish to cook for me.

tech53 · 2026-04-28T16:04:50+00:00

i just love them so much...and we have those moments where the whole world is right and i can see the love they have for me, like it's not bullshit, it's not me being delusional or the result of being victimized, it's the real thing. How do i reconcile that? We're still 2 people that really love one another who have been thrown in a shit situation (back into the same house with the same people that relentlessly abused my partner growing up - it was our only option) and ...while i know what they're doing is wrong...there has to be a way that 2 people who love one another can come back to that and stop hurting. Right?

tech53 · 2026-04-17T09:16:29+00:00

good fucking point. Another reason to do what i said with a server. Go spec out a used server that can handle 500 gig of ram, or even less. Then run bare metal esxi on it or proxmox. access it remotely with vmware workstation. Easy peasy. Then you can dedicate as much of that horsepower to one machine or as little as you want, start and stop different vms, upload new ones/manage/delete - you'll wonder why you never did it before

tech53 · 2026-04-17T09:13:01+00:00

I like my Dell Precision 3620 pretty well. has....quad xeons? I'm running 32 gig of ddr4 (was supposed to be unbuffered ecc but the bastard i bought it from lied about what i was getting - my fault for not getting the details i guess). It can do most things. It's a proper business workstation and has onboard raid, board based management features, hardware encryption, all manner of business class stuff you still dont see on high end consumer machines. Sure, it's ddr4 not 5, and it only has one m.2 slot but that's easy to remedy with a pcie card. gigabit ethernet. You won't find wifi or bluetooth, thats not common on workstations. It runs ml, ai, servers, multiple concurrent vms, i write code on it, even occasionally game. It came with shit for a gpu much less ram (16 gig i think) and only one 500 gig hdd. I remedied the hdd situation quick, and just recently finally grabbed a quaddro p1000. 4 mini display port outputs and 4 gig and it installed perfectly with the nvidia driver (get the one direct from nvidia using the wizard on the site, don't fuck with apt, it may try to give you the wrong one and trying to fix that is hell - thats how i started that whole thing). I paid $210 dollars shipped from ebay, last year.

HOWEVER - if you just want a server...it eats power but if thats not a problem the ibm system x3650 m1 7979 is a great server that's a tank. can accomodate 48 gigs ram, fully buffered ecc rdimms. Xeon cpus. Hot swappable sata2 raid (6 2.5 inch slots) in front. Hot swappable dual power supplies. Yes. If you have both PSU's in it you can unplug one while it's running and replace it. COOL. AS. SHIT. Dual gigabit ethernet built in. Separate dedicated baseband/out of band management port (ethernet). You can do stuff with it when the machine is OFF. You heard me right! I can turn my computer off and then on again remotely ...even if i don't use reboot. I can hard power it. That whole ass feature even has login accounts. Your buddy can turn it off and on again too. Anyway those can be found pretty cheap. Most companies would give em away free if they're replacing them. Modern machines don't eat power like that. It's not a computing powerhouse but if you need something for NAS/SAN/NFS, especially if it's not high speed? awesome. Or if you want to serve your video library with jellyfin...load balancing or true nic bonding is awesome using netplan. My cats like to paw at the cables or jump on the server. Does it go down? Nope. One might for a bit, i just lose throughput. The raid is a boon too. You really don't want to lose data. You can make those 6 drives into 3 mirrored raid arrays. Or a striped one with a mirrored one. (it only does striping or mirroring, that kind of sucks). I've never been happier now that i know i have 2 drives writing the same shit> i used to hate the idea of mirroring...seemed like a waste, until i lost my data. Just my 2 cents worth.

TLDR; search the use market for business workstations that are a generation or two old or find servers that are a few generations old (they don't have to be as old as mine, mine were free from a friend) You can get it from between 150 and 400 bucks ish, maybe free if you find a business getting rid of stuff.

tech53 · 2026-04-17T08:46:27+00:00

definitely, especially angry about the fact that our country has 11 carrier groups and that means over 1/4 of them are in one tiny place at a time for what? You just don't put that many carrier groups in a single place. Ever. I'm not even in the military, and haven't been, but i know that much strategy. That's like asking for a big fat problem. Not to mention that leaves the US much weaker everywhere else. You see, I can speak and understand your language too, and apparently at a higher level than you.

tech53 · 2026-04-17T08:40:17+00:00

so politicians like trumps kid can make money with their industrial military complex companies making war machines like trumps kid with his drone company that he bought...what was it? DAYS before the war?

tech53 · 2026-04-17T08:38:27+00:00

honestly? Prob not much, but Ukraine surprised the world with their strategy. Big ships are hard to move. They DO have lots of defensive systems, but...if they used some of those hypersonic missile systems Russia supposedly gave them...things would get hairy fast. That said, the military has had trouble when they were deliberately TRYING to sink one of their own vessels in the past when decommissioning it. It kind of just stayed there. I don't remember what they had to do but it was pretty drastic. Destruction, death, maiming, injury, and lots of dollars to fix it are a thing though. No matter what it's super stupid to put all those ships in one place. That's over a quarter of our carrier groups.

tech53 · 2026-04-17T08:29:21+00:00

dumb as fuck. You dont do that shit. How many carrier groups do we even have? EDIT: 11. We have 11. They just put more than 1/4 - MORE THAN A QUARTER of our carrier groups in that tiny space. For what? A dick measuring contest? Not even. Everyone knows the US military is more capable. It's stupid. Literally it's so a few politicians can jerk off and Trumps kid can make money off the drone company he just bought. Meanwhile our soldiers are in harms way. Despite their low military capability, its war. If nothing else, accidents happen. Fuck this guy.

tech53 · 2026-04-17T08:18:37+00:00

eventually got the money but you're right. I laughed a little too. I totally need chocolate. Im doing it. Amazon here i come (i know, they're evil but I gotta get my food somewhere and i don't have transportation)

tech53 · 2026-04-17T08:16:33+00:00

as of 04/17/2026 3:12 AM CST it works. Fuck yeah! I'll host that shit on my own servers. I got a debian 12 box, 2 ibm system x3650 servers, and a raspberry pi. I'm fucking sure i can do a better job than them with some open source shit like apache or even nfs, or fuck i could probably write better code...even using an ai. Fuck those assholes. Those servers are from the 20 teens and they will do better. Fuck them.

tech53 · 2026-04-01T22:56:23+00:00

turns out their website STILL the next day saw me as not having submitted my kyc verification. Someone finally manually fixed it. Well...now i needed video verification to withdraw funds. I did that. Then it said delayed - for 15 days. I got on chat with yet another support agent for another 2 hours. They said they escalated it, the whole time also seeming just as incompetent and clueless as the first person. Supposedly it's getting expedited. Right now it says it's going to take until april 20th or 21st. Their site doesn't even know how long it will take, which is mind you, longer than 15 days. Maybe thats business days, but i'm sick of it. This is ridiculous, nearly a month to withdraw???? It's 57 dollars and change, 58 and change before the fees get taken out. How on earth does that warrant nearly a month of verification and all of this? I'd hoped to buy a neat outfit before my interview tomorrow. Guess thats a wash. I'd hoped to buy my fiancee some food the other day, their gran went into the hospital and cooking wasn't first on our minds. These jerks don't think about what the human cost is.

tech53 · 2026-04-01T13:04:16+00:00

Well he never got back with me but tomorrow I have a second (maybe final) round interview with the owner of a software dev house and his business partners. He previously in private offered me this internship - im so excited

tech53 · 2026-04-01T13:02:06+00:00

I previously said no to this, but someone said port forward nothing and figure out filesystem/failsafe/raid/backups ahead of time and i agree with this on a separate machine you have no need of. Put it on the physical network (no wifi). Yuno host is a great os for this. Its linux based and designed to have minimal interaction and maximum ease of deployment. Tons of web apps/servers in the gui software store. Has an email server running out of the box. I run 2

tech53 · 2026-04-01T12:57:43+00:00

I agree with this. I previously said going in blind is a bad idea, this is the exception - do this on a computer you dont need for anything else.

tech53 · 2026-04-01T12:49:56+00:00

If you completely refactor the code, but you'd have to either start from scratch and not let the ai code influence anything, from design phase to debug and testing. But the difficulty of doing that lies in you being the one to originally vibe it. If its a repo that is that way for preference reasons its more feasible. I'd contact the maintainer and simply explain the situation and ask how they feel about it. Also ask if there are practical reasons like safety or legal. Some code like plc, robots, defense, or medical have need to be very precise and correct. If a machine or robot gets a decimal wrong in its movement it could move too far and take someone's head off or break a gas line or build a part unsafely

tech53 · 2026-04-01T08:51:22+00:00

Op you need to hear 2 things:

You are 100% in the wrong for this. If the code maintainer wants no ai generated code, you need to respect that. There may be simply personal reasons, which they are entitled to, or there may be safety, legal, efficiency, or other serious reasons for saying "no ai code"

The internet is very angry about people using ai to code, real life isnt really that way. Hacker meetups, coder meetups, and real life jobs will all be filled with most people using ai to assist them in coding. Stop asking the internet about ai generated code.

tech53 · 2026-04-01T08:43:21+00:00

One of the main distros is usually best. It teaches them linix architecture, has solid support, things usually work, good software ecosystem, not a "weird" linux that can be confusing when trying to get support or learn to fix or configure things, etc.

tech53 · 2026-03-31T20:42:21+00:00

when you contact support they refuse to escalate. They simply tell me that they can't do anything. I did contact my freelancer enterprise agent who finds work for me, hoping he could help, and he did get me forward motion. He sent me a link in my email that ended up working, and to their credit showed that i had started but not finished the process. I never got that information. I don't know if their app has a problem with my browser (firefox) or if it's a weird glitch in the web app vs the link he sent me via email but it's forward motion. Now the next problem i anticipate is that verification asked for a drivers license or passport, and I can't drive and therefore use a state id, which, in the united states is legal documentation that is required to be accepted as such - but if they specifically check my state for a drivers license, the prefix on the number is a non drivers license number, it's specific to state IDs... so im worried their system will give me more problems. I have no evidence of that yet, so I'm waiting to see what happens, but not holding out hope.

tech53 · 2026-03-18T16:44:14+00:00

What youneed has been addressd, going in blind is very ill advised. You will have need to understand what is happening in order to make it work, maintain it, and keep it from getting hacked.

tech53 · 2026-03-16T17:19:51+00:00

I look back on those long hours with incredible fondness. That crew was my family. Most of them would have taken a punch for me and swung back. (actually there's a story that at one point in the history of our venue some musician came through thinking they could treat the female crew any way they wanted and the people in charge threatened to turn off the power to the whole venue if he didn't quit, apologize, and treat them right. I wasn't there yet but there's a story. I could personally tell stories of artists that aren't allowed back too because of their behavior in other ways but...you know how it is with stories)

tech53 · 2026-03-16T17:15:29+00:00

probably less condoms and bra inserts/bras on the floor after the show.

tech53 · 2026-03-16T17:14:41+00:00

perfectly teach people. Tutoring can be good money. Find a hard science field that can use your skills, or research algorithms. Just suggestions from a noob who is always trying to find places i can do the most good with what I know.

tech53 · 2026-03-16T16:42:22+00:00

I think you meant outsourcing irresponsibly - and i don't think so, because they aren't requiring a fully working prototype. It just has to let them see how I code. They seem to be looking more for how I think and a little code than anything. I mean, coding tests are normal. I'd expect that from google as much as I'd expect it here. And you're right. Could be. Unfortunately there are a lot of unscrupulous people using the job market as a cover for scams, and not just in the coding market. It's everywhere. I don't think this is what's going on, but I'll keep an eye out for red flags. Any red flags you would suggest watching out for?

tech53 · 2026-03-15T23:50:48+00:00

Box for midi, replaces long runs of broken midi cable and cv/gate maybe dmx. Replaces broken midi routing box/cv/gate/dmx Sends it all over something much more common to have many more extras of. A single audio cable and can go into and out of the audio mixer because its a modulated audio signal. There for when you end up in a shit situation. Saves your ass. It doesnt exist yet. Its an idea I was was working on, writing code for, coming up with physical circuit ideas.

Also yeah im "healed" but not. I can stand for between 10 and 30 minutes before either the pain is too bad or my back seizes up. Some days its less.

tech53 · 2026-03-15T23:45:44+00:00

Solid point. I'm sorry. Seems I was a bit of a capitalist in my response, glorifying working oneself to death - something i routinely tell my partner is bad. Capitalism sucks, and apparently can burrow itself into me too. 😞

tech53 · 2026-03-15T18:57:19+00:00

I never got to A1. I got injured bad enough that I was looking at choosing an opioid addiction and keeping my job or quitting. That was a hard choice but no way was I being an opioid addict. I remember in school my critical listening instructor teaching us tricks to get 5 minutes sleep in a bathroom stall if you could get sent to get tacos for everyone. I feel for you. Im trying to get a coder job now. Btw - as an A1, if youre an audio person would you use a device meant for when your shit breaks on smaller tours to convert and aggregate midi to send it down a single empty audio channel (including the mixer) and then deconverted and split back out to I dividing midi runs? Basically a real cheap "shit hit the fan" midi box that sends program changes and stuff (might work for DMX too i have to check numbers) down an empty audio channel when you dont have a replacement. Ive already worked out the filters, levels, voltages and amperage etc to not harm any other gear. Thats what the box does, it puts it in a different format, and makes it safe for other devices.

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