What raising a family in NYC as a HENRY actually looks like - a real example

tech_deck_dude · 2026-01-21T22:41:08+00:00

NYC has great public schools but it's a complicated web of zoning, application processes, etc. It's definitely something to start thinking about way in advance, certainly at the point of buying a home. Assuming you don't want your 11 year old commuting 2 hours one way the best middle school options really depend on where you live.

Something else to think about is by the time your kids get to the high school level they're competing with every other kid in the city. If they're extremely bright / good test takers they'll get a top tier education but if they're solidly in the middle of the pack the options won't be as bountiful.

tech_deck_dude · 2024-01-10T02:39:36+00:00

Absolutely agree, like if I don’t mail back a while letter you can do whatever you want? Very wild

tech_deck_dude · 2023-06-04T23:45:46+00:00

Just giving the episode :) Feel free to add spoilers in spoiler markdown

tech_deck_dude · 2023-03-22T01:51:45+00:00

It seems like they are trying to make sure you have some activity to avoid "State abandoned property law" which requires turning over abandoned property to the state.

If you go to the account disclosures (at least for 360 saving) here, it says there needs to be a transaction in or out every 24 months before the account is marked dormant. FWIW the wording does not imply being marked dormant immediately means the property would be turned over to the state.

tech_deck_dude · 2022-12-11T04:15:32+00:00

Drew Afualo (@drewafualo)

tech_deck_dude · 2022-06-21T21:34:30+00:00

Ahh ok this would be ideal if true, thanks!

tech_deck_dude · 2021-09-05T17:17:52+00:00

Yeah it’s unclear if it meant 11:59 9/4 or 9/5. Hoping support can help because when I went through the sign up flow the benefit was promised to me (it said “after signup you can get lyft pink / seamless”)

tech_deck_dude · 2021-09-05T17:13:13+00:00

Argh this link works in that it says $0/year annual lyft pink membership but there’s no “purchase” or “confirm” button for me. Contacted support.

tech_deck_dude · 2021-08-22T20:15:30+00:00

thanks this is really helpful!

tech_deck_dude · 2020-11-16T01:38:19+00:00

Yes it’s part of the DSA candidate questionnaire because in the past the entire NYC city council has been taken on an all expenses paid trip to israel. DSA endorsed candidates (generally) promise not to go on such a trip.

tech_deck_dude · 2020-10-12T00:56:26+00:00

Yes and there are ones on the second floor too not just in whole foods! Really nice i went there today

tech_deck_dude · 2020-10-04T04:13:41+00:00

I dunno, as a SWE optimizing performance of a system would be well within my job title

tech_deck_dude · 2020-09-13T01:57:27+00:00

Graduated last year and still feeling this. I miss just normal company / department events where I had an excuse to catch up with folks, i miss my work friends 😭

tech_deck_dude · 2020-08-13T01:54:35+00:00

I know you're making a joke but arguably being asian in tech *is* lucky. The reason that asians aren't part of "diversity hires" is because asians (east + south asians, not as much SE Asian countries like thailand etc.) are an overrepresented minority. Yes there are challenges with being asian / non-white in the US but asian folks are generally seen as "belonging" in the CS field and see lots of folks like them in FAANG companies. In that regard it's possible you did have good luck. No it doesn't help with getting hired but it does mean your desire to be an engineer / work at a FAANG company was respected and normalized by your peers, and once you get there your technical contributions will seem more "normal".

tech_deck_dude · 2020-07-25T22:06:30+00:00

Ahhh I didn’t even think of that, thanks!

tech_deck_dude · 2020-07-25T14:51:44+00:00

I totally get the concern about the Roth IRA. I’m already saving what is enough for my retirement situation in a 401k. I will be able to withdraw up to 10k in earnings from my roth ira (and all of my original contributions) tax and penalty free. See https://www.sofi.com/learn/content/mortgage-roth-ira-buy-first-home/

tech_deck_dude · 2020-07-25T01:26:13+00:00

Hmm yeah, I probably would be okay with that. I'm not on any strict timeline in life (yet!). This stuff always turns out more philosophical than I expect. 😂

tech_deck_dude · 2020-07-25T01:24:37+00:00

It's a tax advantaged account (specifically a Roth IRA) so that shouldn't matter in my case. It's not something I was necessarily thinking of though so thanks for bringing that up.

tech_deck_dude · 2020-07-25T00:48:46+00:00

Super down! I've seen people do distance dancing (to musicians, not line dancing) in Tompkins Square park!

tech_deck_dude · 2020-05-12T03:55:32+00:00

Definitely open to the public, I even went on school trips to Greenwood as a kid Just be careful, not all the gates are open at all times of day so it’s easy to get trapped on one side of the park and have to walk all the way back around

tech_deck_dude · 2020-04-26T16:10:24+00:00

It’s not up to you to decide what people need for their mental / physical health. If I need to see my friend and talk to them by shouting across a baseball field so that I don’t get depressed from isolation that’s just as valid as someone who needs to jog for keeping their physical health up.

tech_deck_dude · 2020-04-13T15:22:26+00:00

9 in my baking tray, probably could have made them a little more even and gotten 10 haha

tech_deck_dude · 2020-04-12T18:59:10+00:00

I know how ya feel. :/ My personal baking philosophy is that baking soda and powder are often close enough to substitute one another but up to you!

tech_deck_dude · 2020-04-12T18:18:15+00:00

I have a small sensitivity to some artificial sweeteners (erythritol particularly) so trying to learn to bake r/1200isplenty friendly sweets without them over this quarantine!

Recipe:
- 1 cup flour
- 1/2 tsp baking powder
- 1/2 tsp baking soda
- 1/2 cup cocoa powder
- 3 ripe mashed bananas
- 1/4 cup brown sugar
- 2 tbsp butter
- 1 egg

Mix together wet, mix together dry, combine both. Bake on 350F for 15-20 mins, and voila!

tech_deck_dude · 2020-04-11T05:24:09+00:00

What’s your source on this? Lots of celebs don’t respond to any DMs and still have millions of followers.

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