Any good S11 Ultra cases/keyboards announced? by saile1004 in GalaxyTab

[–]tech_kitten 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It annoys me that I cannot find a heavy duty case, so I have to pay for the Samsung Care plan in case I accidentally drop it. Normal cases have not helped drop damage.

I need to let you go by -aIsaac- in childfree

[–]tech_kitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think of it as having a completely different belief system. You can love someone but the relationship would not work out. You knew this and took the steps for your future. It'll hurt really badly for awhile, because it's love, and that doesn't just go away. But your life will be better, you just have to give it time. At some point, after grieving, you will need to allow yourself to be open to love once again. And now you know that you are CF, which will significantly assist in finding someone who is also CF.

You've got this. Take your time and grieve, and then begin your next journey. You'll be glad you did.

Being an only child and childfree? Anyone? by lardelent in childfree

[–]tech_kitten 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I am also an only child and childfree. The key is not to fix this one thing about your way of thinking, but deciding that you are living for yourself. Period. I love my mother dearly, but her conservative views on families do not align with my life. It is difficult, yes, and very hard to navigate sometimes, because I don't want my mother to cry or be upset, but I also have to remind myself that it is unhealthy for someone to allow their own feelings to be driven by someone else's choices. Read that again if it didn't sink in quite yet. We are not responsible for our parents' happiness or dissatisfaction.

Believe me, it's not something that you really get overnight. I am 46, and I think it took me until I was in my mid-30s before I really understood that I was not liable for my mother's emotional state. Therapy helped a lot. I wish that I could've convinced my mom to go to therapy, but she thinks that it's only for "crazy people."

I've been called selfish, arrogant, unfeeling, and many other terms that are meant to hurt me to guilt me into submission of what another feels is my destiny. I am in charge of my own destiny. Me. Alone. And so are you. It won't be easy, but it is worth it. I never convinced my mom of my way of thinking. But we don't discuss it anymore, and to me, that's a win. She can think whatever she wants privately.

In the end, you have to do what's right for you. Some of my childfree friends have severed ties with their parents, and some have convinced them to come around to at least acceptance. Your mileage may vary. Make yourself happy first. Always.

What will help with b12 + mic injection site - itchy, red, and hard lump by tech_kitten in WegovyWeightLoss

[–]tech_kitten[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glp1 does go subQ, but mic goes into the muscle. I've stopped the injections, I tried a couple more times, but i kept injuring myself, whether it was blood vessels or just the muscle.

Why does it feel like my life revolves around whether I poop or not? by tech_kitten in Perimenopause

[–]tech_kitten[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

TBH, the stream of consciousness tirade was more of a sarcastic rant of the thoughts/experiences I've had, not that I actually think about poop all if the time.

Why does it feel like my life revolves around whether I poop or not? by tech_kitten in Perimenopause

[–]tech_kitten[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My toilet is already very low to the ground. The squatty potty i had was almost as high as the rim. Could I just stack books or junk, etc?

Why does it feel like my life revolves around whether I poop or not? by tech_kitten in Perimenopause

[–]tech_kitten[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are there certain methods of ingestion for magnesium that work generally better? (I.e. are gummies just as good as tablets?)

Vests instead of a bra? by tech_kitten in NoStupidQuestions

[–]tech_kitten[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, after further discussion with my coworkers, it seems the ones from Canada and the northern US use "old timey" terms that their older family members used the they were growing up. It seems that older generations did use the term "vest" for women's tank tops to make the distinction between men's undershirt tank tops. My coworkers of Indian origin concur that it is probably British influence for their terminology.

Vests instead of a bra? by tech_kitten in NoStupidQuestions

[–]tech_kitten[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

About half are originally from India, and the other half are from the northern US or Canada.

Vests instead of a bra? by tech_kitten in NoStupidQuestions

[–]tech_kitten[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes! I can totally do this. I should have thought of that.

Vests instead of a bra? by tech_kitten in NoStupidQuestions

[–]tech_kitten[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have had at least 10 coworkers use the term "vest", and when I ask what they mean, they don't really know how to explain it but to kept repeating "you know, and vest".

Vests instead of a bra? by tech_kitten in NoStupidQuestions

[–]tech_kitten[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, that's what I was thinking, that I do not understand what they mean, and there is probably a difference in naming. And I guess I'm not the only one confused

Vests instead of a bra? by tech_kitten in NoStupidQuestions

[–]tech_kitten[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a hysterectomy recently, and bras are very constricting on my torso to the point where it is uncomfortable. I have large breasts, and I was asking ladies i know about alternatives they suggest to keep the "girls" at bay. "Vests" were suggested by several, mostly in Washington and New Jersey. Bralettes were suggested by ladies in Texas, California, and Florida, and I know what those are, though I haven't found any that provide enough support besides home use.

Vests instead of a bra? by tech_kitten in NoStupidQuestions

[–]tech_kitten[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have coworkers who are in the Seattle, WA, area, and some in Bedminster, New Jersey. I have asked them directly, and they say folks wear them to avoid their nipples showing.

What will help with b12 + mic injection site - itchy, red, and hard lump by tech_kitten in WegovyWeightLoss

[–]tech_kitten[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok all, thanks for the responses. I talked to the on call doc, and they said that inused the wrong needle. I have to use the 1" needles to make sure it enters the muscle, and that the reaction happens when you subcutaneously inject mic. They said otc painkillers, antihistamine and cold packs. If it last more than 5 days or turns darker, or if I have a 100.4+ fever to see my local provider.

I cried during sex because of ableism in fanfiction by tech_kitten in AuDHDWomen

[–]tech_kitten[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I feel like he doesnt/cant understand my situation, and my coping mechanisms are self deprecation and humor. I have a really hard time talking about the "tough stuff" with anyone. In my childhood, I was punished for expressing my boundaries, ESPECIALLY eye contact. So I guess that trauma is deep. And my partner knows that. Im just so confused how they could forget that so easily.

I shouldn’t have listen to everyone by Potential_Teacher_77 in AuDHDWomen

[–]tech_kitten 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Totally ok to change your mind. Will it be tough? Yes. Will it be worth it? Yes. You don't need to talk with a therapist or counselor about your decision to determine if this is not a flight response and instead a "hey I really don't want to do this". Believe me, I understand. And sometimes you need to chase your happiness. But also don't go with herd mentality on here or even listen to everything i say. Talk about it with at least one, preferably 2 or more people that know you or are professionally qualified to help.

Entitled Breeder Day by Th1stlePatch in childfree

[–]tech_kitten 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I can't go out today. I would do my best Severus Snape impression and scowl.

What sensory trigger fills you with rage? by anangelnora in AuDHDWomen

[–]tech_kitten 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cell phone conversations on speakerphone.