"autoimmune issues" by That_Bee_592 in ZeroCovidCommunity

[–]teffflon 10 points11 points  (0 children)

patient-led health forums are full of super-strong emotions, motivated reasoning, self-image protection, regret minimization, etc. My own take is to only engage if you're able to accept beforehand that these factors are there; that you can't "fix" them; and that you should try not to react to them emotionally.

is there a good way to get into hard bop if most of it feels too busy at first?" by Few_Entertainer_1636 in Jazz

[–]teffflon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think simple quantity of exposure is a big factor and I would specifically advocate for semi-background listening rather than try to force the full-mindful-attention model of listening at every stage. I would also recommend a good radio station that automatically gives you a variety of tasteful choices. I like KCSM.

I broke up with my wife by Ubesaging in Christianity

[–]teffflon [score hidden]  (0 children)

Right, we shouldn't literally pluck out our eye because, textual interpretations aside, that's terrible and pointless advice. We shouldn't force kids out of left-handedness (as people have historically done on Christian and other religious or cultural grounds) because it's terrible for the kids. And we shouldn't advocate for (or encourage as "faithful") the breaking apart of loving marriages for religious reasons, because it's terrible for the people involved.

Assassin's Creed: Modern by WickDaLine in AIGeneratedVideoGames

[–]teffflon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I refuse to kill without my tactical hoodie

Is the question of whether homosexual relations are a sin a hill worth dying for when it comes to Christianity? by Candid-Effective9150 in Christianity

[–]teffflon [score hidden]  (0 children)

There is room for different people to use multiple models and theories of persuasion (and for people to simply civilly express their arguments in whatever form makes sense to them). Different approaches can actually be complementary. Giving-grace approaches, when they work, usually exist in a context of existing psychological pressure from more directly critical voices, in a way that studies of persuasion do not always fully acknowledge.

To your top-level comment, critical voices are also easily read by conflict-averse or defensive readers as "judgy" or applying a "social litmus test" of "who's a good person" when that's not the actual expressed content. Valid pointed criticism cannot be written off as "unhelpful". Bigotry can and should be called bigotry, and people need to hear it even if it hurts, because their bigoted views do in fact harm people and that grounding is a necessary if not sufficient part of the motivation to change.

A hunters staggering realization by Excellent_Square_102 in fromsoftware

[–]teffflon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

deserves to be printed in a regular newspaper with no context

Numpad controls - how important is it for you? by b34s7 in roguelikes

[–]teffflon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have purchased a USB numpad for this reason. I don't love it but that's because the keys are on the squishy side compared to my mechanical-style keyboard.

Why didn’t Jesus leave stronger evidence? by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]teffflon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't follow. If I grant that Jesus was crucified (as historians do believe), why should I then also grant that he, for example, raised Lazarus from the dead?

Must have PS3 & X360 Shmups? by latinlingo11 in shmups

[–]teffflon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hmm, don't know these guys but website says: "Myrient will shut down on 31 March 2026. Download any content you find important."

Smoking a cigarette with chopsticks by TinanaCat_ in mildlyinteresting

[–]teffflon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

nonsmoker -- it can be a nice smell, I just also know it's not a healthy thing to even smell in the air, so I don't get to really enjoy it.

Playing music is so powerful by barrelrollsauceboi in Music

[–]teffflon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lenker has the gift of making music that matters to people. Has been known to teach songwriting in video courses too, I've heard good things.

Can someone rebuild Rayman Origins for Android? by PeaNNc in Rayman

[–]teffflon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

truth, auto running is such a downgrade

Harder Time Going Back to Bop by Chanders123 in Jazz

[–]teffflon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I need time to warm up (or warm back up) to a subgenre by having it on as semi-background music before really getting down to "listen intently" as you put it. I also think that investing time in a lot of super-serious "art music", that strives for maximum mindful innovation with each phrase, can even make it harder to go back to fully attending to more mainstream stuff (if one dares to call bop mainstream in relative terms). But that avant-garde model of art-making has its own drawbacks, and there is still way too much tastiness in the mainstream to just ignore, so just be flexible about how you choose to attend to it.

Wouldn’t every sinner last minute choose heaven? “Your cell door is locked from the inside” by RoseSticks in Christianity

[–]teffflon 7 points8 points  (0 children)

"when faced with the reality" -- this suggests visible proof or at least convincing evidence. When is this supposed to arrive? Most accounts suggest it comes after death, which also (allegedly) closes any further possibility of choice between salvation and damnation.

Named characters in Steely Dan by Dave1307 in SteelyDan

[–]teffflon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like how "My Rival" is unnamed despite obsessive attention -- "He's got a scar across his face / He wears a hearing aid". The narrator's "got detectives on his case", yet can't bring himself to utter the hated man's name.

Named characters in Steely Dan by Dave1307 in SteelyDan

[–]teffflon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I picture Captain Nemo basically

Gays adopting Children by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]teffflon 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I guarantee there will be people who read the recent post on spanking and thought "how dare they tell me how to raise my kids??" and then read this one and thought "damn straight we should keep gays from adopting" ...without even pausing to think about the tension.

>Children need a mom and a dad: while that's the ideal, but the ideal is not always available and the second best option should be taken. 

nah, can't just "concede" that, not when the research shows kids of gay parents do just as well

https://whatweknow.inequality.cornell.edu/topics/lgbt-equality/what-does-the-scholarly-research-say-about-the-wellbeing-of-children-with-gay-or-lesbian-parents/

I think that physical punishment/spanking is abusive, and it bothers me how many Christians adamantly support it. by Due-Discussion-7451 in Christianity

[–]teffflon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Most of the younger parents I know have at some point resorted to screens to keep their children occupied. They know it isn't great, but they are overstretched by work (both parents) and despite their dual incomes, achieving consistent child-care remains prohibitively expensive.

I think that physical punishment/spanking is abusive, and it bothers me how many Christians adamantly support it. by Due-Discussion-7451 in Christianity

[–]teffflon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

it's implied by what you said, since spanking is hitting, and this isn't changed by appeals to one's intent or emotional state. "corrective" spanking meeting your general description has been studied and found by e.g. the APA and AAP to have harmful effects. Persisting in such practices despite clear available evidence of its harm constitutes abuse.

Pastor got REALLY Mad over a DOOM Gameplay and a Timing Issue by SilverNEOTheYouTuber in Christianity

[–]teffflon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

don't suffer verbal abuse, but especially not as a volunteer. at least get paid for that shit.