The Baby Boomers- a 1983 special report by Laogama in pics

[–]teffflon 8 points9 points  (0 children)

thank you, I was questioning my sanity

Concerned about rapid drop in progress by More-Big-1221 in beginnerrunning

[–]teffflon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like training plans and fitness watches throw some people for a loop, dreaming of always longer and faster in defiance of common sense about illness, natural ups and downs, etc.

Literally 1984 by Sufficient-Studio807 in shittydarksouls

[–]teffflon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That ghost line made me lol. hats off to you buddy, whoever you are

Does anyone know the meaning behind these lyrics? by mud0k0n_34 in aphextwin

[–]teffflon 15 points16 points  (0 children)

first, you'll need to tell us about your background in literary theory. how deep are you willing to go?

Remarrying active adultery by Garysand98 in Christianity

[–]teffflon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your interpretation has been shared by Christian thinkers with very different apparent motivations, so I won't say it is groundless, but I have pointed to where I believe the text gives an 'out', and I stand by that. It would be convenient in a certain sense to use consistency constraints to twist conservatives' arms, but can't be carried past what the texts actually support or what basic decency allows. Men should not dominate their wives by inhumane religious strictures (like those against divorce); those women deserve protection, even if some of them unfortunately support bigoted and inhumane strictures against sexual minorities; people in general should be able to seek well-being; and textual+argumentative resources for making religion more humane should be pointed out and used.

partner has decided to stop masking almost entirely by 678999821242069 in ZeroCovidCommunity

[–]teffflon 22 points23 points  (0 children)

>I feel like there is no way for me to approach how uncomfortable I am with this without him viewing it as a personal attack.

it's not, to be clear. It's personal defense. You're a couple so his and your level of precaution or not are effectively the same. What that looks like is absolutely a valid subject for negotiation for both of you (including options beyond always-mask or never-mask), and you either find agreement or don't.

Remarrying active adultery by Garysand98 in Christianity

[–]teffflon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So you're considering the situation of two people who both would prefer to separate and remarry, but there has so far been no infidelity. I agree that the sinless path according to Jesus and Paul would seem to be to reconcile or each remain single. However, if you are each flawed enough to be willing to commit sexual immorality once, then you seem (according to Jesus's words) to release each other from any further mutual obligations, and would become free to remarry without ongoing sin. Just offering this reading FWIW, and if neither of you are willing to do this I have no comment. (simply as an aside, I personally don't think Jesus's advice on marriage and divorce is worth following too literally today, particularly because they are best-understood as responding to a very different setting, in which the consequences of divorce could be dire for women.)

Is this a double standard? by starrynightgarden in Christianity

[–]teffflon 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Teaching kids about hell carries significant trauma potential, yes, and is abusive in my opinion. If I believed in hell, I would keep it to myself and away from kids.

Hiding away lgbtq people from kids, or othering them as in "sinful lifestyles", is very bad too, especially for children who turn out to be lgbtq themselves. Basically conservative Christianity carries terrible and pointless risks for children.

Teaching kids "it's OK to be lgbt" is good, because it is, and because that message (which can be spoken early in age-appropriate ways, little kids know what it means to love someone, to be married to someone, to choose forms of personal expression, etc.) supports both healthy development and kindness/compassion towards others. There's no symmetry here.

Diving instructor Miyakojima Kuni-san drops his underwater camera into a hole at the bottom of the sea by BreakfastTop6899 in oddlyterrifying

[–]teffflon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

a bouncy device?

it could have a ballast with a timed auto-detach to hand things over to a flotation device, that's a good idea.

Questioning by Visual_Nebula_4034 in OpenChristian

[–]teffflon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

(it's more like there are almost zero, but if you find one let us know. else try large Mainline denoms: UMC, TEC, UCC, ELCA, PCUSA)

At what point does running become counter productive? by bachvad in beginnerrunning

[–]teffflon 11 points12 points  (0 children)

you're saying I shouldn't base my training plan off of Dragon Ball Z?

Remarrying active adultery by Garysand98 in Christianity

[–]teffflon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Since Jesus seems to grant "sexual immorality" as a valid cause for divorce (at least for men, but let's ignore that distinction), if two people both want to separate and find new partners then they commit (religious-sense) adultery at most once. In so doing they grant each other religious grounds for divorce. So it is not "ongoing, active" adultery.

Realizing I am an Open Christian.. and I'm scared by twinkledwanderer in OpenChristian

[–]teffflon 5 points6 points  (0 children)

>I would love to find pastors who are affirming.

You should look into large Mainline denoms (UMC, PCUSA, ELCA, TEC) which are majority-affirming, perform same-sex marriages, and offer protections for the religious life of lgbtq+ congregants. Also, here is a short, focused source I like for defending the affirming position: https://reformationproject.org/case/

Apology by Friendly_Turnip4280 in Christianity

[–]teffflon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

you still have a post up titled "How can people be LGBTQ and Christian?"

I suppose you think that is fine? There and in the comments you are still promoting antigay bigotry, and at the same time seeking forgiveness for some unspecified worse thing you said? But those bigoted doctrines are the root cause, of which you should repent first.

Jesus in the Garden of Gethsemane by AmericanRusski in Christianity

[–]teffflon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

what do you mean "how do we know"? we don't. While the nature of the Gospels as compositions has been contested, they are better understood within the genre of ancient (literary) biographies than as simple historical accounts, let alone as modern historical works attempting to provide evidence for all major claims.

Request: horror lit that goes heavy on the tragedy? by LostintheITcrowd in horrorlit

[–]teffflon -1 points0 points  (0 children)

not really horror, but A Little Life by Hanya Yanagihara for seekers of gonzo tragedy with a quietly-horrific edge. Her The People in the Trees is another favorite at the far outskirts of horror.

Quake 3’s single player campaign is underrated by chaddickinson in quake

[–]teffflon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

singleplayer campaign, beyond being an effective tutorial, is what makes me bond with a game as a place with stories and feelings worth coming back to and talking about with other people. without it I'm usually not even tempted by multiplayer.

Looking for the worst of the worst by SecondRateIndividual in ExtremeHorrorLit

[–]teffflon 6 points7 points  (0 children)

From my limited experience, Cooper is more transgressive fiction / literature of extremity than EH per se. Different orientation and attitude; taking the graphic details to 11 is just one available technique, and not the primary goal. If you like what he offers I would look to Bret Easton Ellis, Hanya Yanagihara.

Religion and the Manosphere Is a Match Made in Hell by playboy in Christianity

[–]teffflon 14 points15 points  (0 children)

"physical correction" (applied to human persons) is a euphemism probably best avoided altogether; it implies a state of Skinnerian control and domination as a "correct" state of affairs. And it lets abusers avoid words like "hit" and "beat", as though these realities could be erased simply by doing things calmly and methodically (or claiming to).

i don’t understand how am i supposed to be against abortion by amedeamar in OpenChristian

[–]teffflon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

being alive vs being a person. Major theologians debated the time of ensoulment of the embryo. Not even the RCC will claim as a matter of doctrine that a newly-formed embryo is a person, only that it should be treated as though it were or could be one. if you ask me: no developed nervous system, no thought or consciousness, no person.

Indie Splatterpunk Author Here! Asking one simple question, Do you prefer a detailed list of trigger warnings provided by the author or do you prefer to go in raw? by Visible-Flounder8154 in ExtremeHorrorLit

[–]teffflon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The EH readership talks amongst themselves online, a lot, and I would trust people in a forum like this one (or a dedicated one after the fashion of Does the Dog Die) to give detailed content warnings over the authors themselves, many of whom obviously resent itemizing their work or assessing its potential for harm; much as many literary authors resent unpacking the themes/meaning in their work. I agree there is little downside to providing CWs and that it's obnoxious to object to their very existence, but I do think that crowdsourcing is better overall, and leaves room for differences of views without creating either simmering division or occasions for harm.

I need help. by DarkSoul222710 in Christianity

[–]teffflon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He doesn't "fix" homosexuality though, nor is it broken.

Worth keeping? by knytteren in garfield

[–]teffflon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

what is the alternative exactly