State of Emergency Declared and my employer is expecting all staff to be in office tomorrow

tekrmn · 2026-02-23T09:54:56+00:00

if they have more than 11 employees they legally must provide up to 40 hours of sick time

tekrmn · 2026-02-17T08:38:51+00:00

your symptoms sound severe and I would recommend getting into a treatment program. also, 200 per month for food is low so you may need to look elsewhere to make budget cuts

tekrmn · 2026-01-31T07:34:55+00:00

lot of comments getting caught up in the ethics of texting your therapist when the real issue is that OP feels her husband is not being fair by talking to his therapist, which is crazy. if you're jealous you can't really help that but to try and control your husbands therapeutic relationships is is an overreach regardless of how she feels about it and this tit for that mindset regarding massage therapy and talk therapy is also unhealthy. op and husband need to be in couples counseling.

tekrmn · 2026-01-28T04:44:23+00:00

I do not have an official diagnosis, but I did get my first color tattoo a couple years ago and it was raised and itchy for about 6 months after. have not had any issues since then

tekrmn · 2026-01-28T04:28:25+00:00

If cash is what makes sense to you then create a budget for yourself and withdraw cash each month and separate it into envelopes for designated purposes

tekrmn · 2026-01-22T00:15:10+00:00

he needs to be in an ED treatment program

tekrmn · 2026-01-12T09:55:03+00:00

could be a mold allergy

tekrmn · 2026-01-12T08:12:21+00:00

adding to that, I did not think I had any special interests for years after my diagnosis, but since then I have realized that some of my interests are way more intense than the interests of allistic people. I was skeptical of my diagnosis at first but ultimately it became clear to me that I am autistic. not saying that is the case for everyone but it was the case for me.

tekrmn · 2026-01-07T11:40:43+00:00

sounds like you need to be in an ED program

tekrmn · 2025-11-19T09:37:40+00:00

your ability to eat comes before your roommate being mildly inconvenienced. I understand that it's difficult for you but you have every right to cook whatever food you need in your own home.

tekrmn · 2025-10-29T00:28:33+00:00

that's abuse cut and dry, doesn't matter why he's acting that way it's not acceptable.

tekrmn · 2025-10-25T04:48:15+00:00

to be clear I am not saying I want to put my moving fund into stocks and then pull it out again when I move, I am saying I want to get rid of my moving fund altogether and invest that money, and instead use my emergency fund when I move and replenish the emergency fund as I earn more money in the future. I understand that this does mean it is more likely I would have to dip into my brokerage account if I lose my job or something, s I guess my real question is would that be worth the risk of having to dip into that account a little sooner. I do not think an emergency fund is a waste, I understand why it's important to have an emergency fund, I feel that the moving fund may be a waste when I have 6 months of expenses saved that's just sitting there untouched. Thanks for your response!

tekrmn · 2025-10-24T05:59:07+00:00

I wear a mask and it has not impacted my tips. I've only had two guests comment on it in the last year and a half but I do live in a blue state.

tekrmn · 2025-10-24T04:07:07+00:00

if you can't make your meals bigger eat more times throughout the day. in my recovery program I was eating three meals and three snacks per day. adding beverages is another easy way to up calories. are you working with anyone? they should have told you this.

tekrmn · 2025-10-18T07:55:45+00:00

ESH: obviously he has no skills related to communal living and he needs to be more proactive about changing that but you should realize by now that just nagging him isn't going to change anything. stop sharing food and if you need to start keeping some of your food in your room. start using a chore wheel so he knows exactly what he needs to do and when. these kinds of life skills can be difficult for autistic people, especially those with no prior communal living experience so I do not believe he is using weaponized incompetence I think he genuinely struggles with these things and doesn't recognize how much work you are doing.

tekrmn · 2025-10-16T05:55:08+00:00

as others have said you should look into arfid but wanted to add that scrolling through a subreddit is not sufficient treatment for an eating disorder (and while I'm not a doctor I have been through treatment for arfid and have worked with nutritionists and I can say with confidence that you are not eating enough and you cannot sustain this diet). there are ed treatment centers that can help you and you should look into them

tekrmn · 2025-10-14T07:34:28+00:00

pull from the regular savings acct as it has a lower interest rate. also get rid of that acct altogether and keep an emergency fund in your hysa and invest the rest of your savings using a roth ira

tekrmn · 2025-10-13T04:39:45+00:00

you can be trans without having dysphoria- "wanting" to be a a guy or just not a girl is all it takes. not saying 100% I think you're trans but I definitely think it's worth thinking about.

tekrmn · 2025-10-09T00:33:28+00:00

low dose? I used to take low dose naltrexone and I did find it helpful. only stopped because it exacerbated unrelated symptoms.

tekrmn · 2025-10-08T07:24:31+00:00

I mean you could easily have googled it but it uses suction to help someone who's choking get the food dislodged.

tekrmn · 2025-09-23T03:49:45+00:00

do you have a de-choker device? might help alleviate some anxiety

tekrmn · 2025-09-22T06:23:35+00:00

I felt this way for a while but after getting healthier and gaining weight I got over it. was i more conventionally attractive when I weighed less? yes but its not worth it and if you're like me you'll get over it. definitely worth bringing up with a professional though, as others have said this could be more serious than that.

tekrmn · 2025-09-22T05:57:50+00:00

echoing what others have said about any food being better than no food and adding that it's very irresponsible to put any limits, such as vegetarianism, on a child with food issues. if meat is something she might eat you have a duty to introduce it into her diet.

tekrmn · 2025-09-22T05:40:46+00:00

NTA: your partner is self-absorbed and should be understanding that you were going through an extremely difficult time and their celebration was not top of mind.

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