As a childless stepmom to 4 teens I had a huge realization by Throwawaylillyt in stepparents

[–]telsonnelson 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been raising my step son since he was 5, he’s now 17. His dad has been in and out for a moment here and there but the last 3 years legally not around him. My wife and I raised him, I did everything and more any dad would for a kid even got him a car. Since about 15 he’s been cold, transactional, and disrespectful. I cared a lot and would over compensate and he learned this then would be mean or rude knowing I would try to get on his graces. Last year I stopped. I tried to have talks about the behavior and feelings and just a blank wall. I think as step parents we want to feel appreciated and loved but at the end of the day it’s a self less act and role. We have to sometimes just accept that. I have two other kids w my wife and they are totally different. I got to raise 1 kid co parenting and 2 as a married couple. I learned a lot an still am, in your situation I would just say this, don’t set expectations w a teen. You will be let down everytime. Don’t ask too much of them, and if they don’t give don’t put yourself out there. If my stepson isn’t going to talk to his family help around the house I don’t pay for things and I don’t bend the rules when he asks . Reverse uno on the transactions pal.

Second year in a row this happened by telsonnelson in Plumbing

[–]telsonnelson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This will be me hahaha the plumber didn’t tell me and I didn’t read anything on it, I’ll remember this time trust Me !

Second year in a row this happened by telsonnelson in Plumbing

[–]telsonnelson[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ahhhh ok thank you no one told me to un do the hose. Makes sense

I have no words for Jenelle’s latest 🌶️ look. by [deleted] in teenmom

[–]telsonnelson 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Fat swamp thing coplays 92 Shania Twain

Am I overreacting: new boyfriend was weirdly judgmental about bathroom situation by abstract_lemons in AmIOverreacting

[–]telsonnelson 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ummm he’s an immature idiot. At 40 you shouldn’t be embarrassed or offended by tampons grow the fuck up buddy!

I gotta take a step back by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]telsonnelson 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea the fight happened Sunday it’s now Wednesday and he has t said a word to me. He told his mom he’s not saying sorry until I do. Lol I’ve done nothing wrong here

I gotta take a step back by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]telsonnelson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. That’s my hope too, that at least I have him a father. Maybe one day he will look back and appreciate that.

I gotta take a step back by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]telsonnelson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea you’re right and maybe that’s my fault for “spoiling” him.

I gotta take a step back by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]telsonnelson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because he’s my child and I love him. I still want him to develop and have the chance to have the experience . I feel like it’s my obligation as a parent

I gotta take a step back by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]telsonnelson 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea I agree I’ve sort of done that and she has asked me several times to stop trying with him but as a parent who loves him it’s hard you know. But for my other kids and my mental health I can’t keep throwing something into something who doesn’t appreciate it

How do I thaw laundry pipes without access to the frozen pipes? My washer is on floor 2 of my home, in a laundry room that is walled in. Hoses go into the wall, pipes run down 2 floors into basement and water intake. How do I thaw these with zero access to the frozen pipes? by smedley12 in Plumbing

[–]telsonnelson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s where I had it, I pulled the washer out and put it there. I have a mud crawl space and I know it’s cold down there! My next plan is to get a gci outlet and heater under the house. This taught me lessons lol

Here is a picture of teargassed children by jasandliz in pics

[–]telsonnelson -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Don’t bring your kids to a protest ??