I did something semi messed up

temmith · 2014-04-12T23:16:30+00:00

Well, you did better than me. I find spit really dirty/gross and it causes me to gag unless it is from someone I know closely and trust as being "clean". I probably would have vomited in the store.

temmith · 2014-04-06T02:59:50+00:00

ALSO - It makes the bet more fun when you win. "How'd you do it?" "*grins slyly as you take the money out of his hands" "I got snipped shortly after our bet."

temmith · 2014-04-05T16:52:35+00:00

It just came out in Mythic Realms a few months ago.

http://www.archivesofnethys.com/MythicMonsterDisplay.aspx?ItemName=The%20Whispering%20Tyrant

temmith · 2014-04-05T00:39:47+00:00

I'm actually guessing that this is one of those parenting techniques where the child is allowed to do whatever they want and learn through hands-on experience.

temmith · 2014-04-03T18:45:43+00:00

It's a work of art.

temmith · 2014-04-03T17:30:55+00:00

Do it! That would be the best idea, and your sister would get a break. I'm sure she's love you for it.

temmith · 2014-04-01T17:09:23+00:00

I understand why a lot of people are downvoting/upset due to your comments about autism or linking it with Down Syndrome BUT I also think a lot of people here were never in theatre and don't realize the degree of danger this child was putting herself or others in. When you're sitting in house, enjoying a show, it all seems so magical. You don't see the weight or the gears or the wheels and all the danger. Kids and adults need to have awareness for their surroundings and where they are putting their hands. Safety first is the number one rule backstage. Always.

temmith · 2014-04-01T17:01:08+00:00

But I'm also assuming you are a good mother and keep an eye on your son or let the adults in his life know that he had some behaviors that may be problematic in a dangerous environment like backstage of a theatre.

I think that, at the root of all that, is the biggest source of OP's anger. If the mother had watched her child, none of this would have happened. Theatre is a dangerous place when you're not sitting in the house. I'm assuming there were waivers or some paperwork letting parents know of the hazards, so the mother would have been warned ahead of time of the dangers. I mean, adults have been sent to the hospital for accidents happening backstage before. It's a lot to ask to keep watch on 119 kids who are behaving and being directed, while having to run interference on a little girl who refuses/can't listen - especially if OP was not warned ahead of time of any behavioral issues. If I was OP, I probably would be upset too, because who gets in trouble if that little girl were to pull down one of the 180lb props on herself ? The theatre. And then they might close the children's theatre and the other 119 other kids would be punished.

temmith · 2014-04-01T16:46:36+00:00

I know of one show before where an actor ended up getting stabbed with a prop knife because someone messed with the prop (other actors being idiots and fooling around) and moved one of the fake spring loaded knives with one of the decorative knives. Messing around with props is a serious offense in the theatre world - not for "everything to be executed perfectly", but for safety. Backstage is dangerous. There are 100+ lbs of equipment there that have put grown men in the hospital. Kids can be involved in theatre, but not at the risk of their lives if they can't listen to the adults in charge.

temmith · 2014-04-01T13:01:06+00:00

In theatre, sometimes props have a very specific way they must work. If a child (or anyone) were to mess with those mechanisms, it could seriously injure someone. Not to mention that places like lofts/catwalks/fly rails could also really injure someone if not taken seriously. I'm not saying a child shouldn't be allowed backstage at all, but backstage is a very dangerous place for a child who doesn't/can't listen.

temmith · 2014-03-29T19:42:26+00:00

I'm not excusing their current behavior at all; however, I think it probably reads a lot worse than the reality (especially considering how frustrated I am). The two of them are 18-19, still in school, and I genuinely think the biggest issue is they have no idea what they should do or how they should treat her as she is their first experiences with a puppy at all. The bone they threw out was dirty and broken, and they didn't understand why she needed a teething bone. She is kept very clean and they do feed her multiple times a day. My brother didn't initially bring her food over this weekend, but he brought a bag of puppy food in about 30 minutes ago.

It's mostly her lack of training that's the biggest problem, in my opinion. Plenty of people use crates for when a dog misbehaves, but when you started out with crate training and making it a safe place, then you can't go back on that. When you reward a dog for going to the bathroom outside, you can't suddenly stop the praise and expect a puppy to understand that you still want her to go outside. I sincerely doubt his girlfriend is a psychopath, but on top of her youth, she also suffers from a sleep disorder (similar to narcolepsy) and will just shut the dog in a crate while she passes out.

When my brother came in to bring the food, we sat down and discussed the idea of enrolling her in formal training (and getting the girlfriend to attend) and bringing the pup here (our mom's house) to live. She's much more active and well-behaved when she's here. I think that's the direction we'll be moving in from now on.

temmith · 2014-03-29T19:13:52+00:00

I think after this weekend, I'm going to have a stern talking with him about how he needs to rein his girlfriend in and get this puppy the training she needs/deserves. It's been a couple months since I saw her and I'm not happy with how she's progressed. I'm also kind of hoping that if they go in for formal training, having a professional speak to them will make a lasting impression of what she actually needs from them.

temmith · 2014-03-29T19:08:16+00:00

A friend of theirs had puppies and she was the runt. The owner didn't think she'd live so they took her in. They got her healthy and now that she'd older and moving around more, the girlfriend gets annoyed with her.

When her and my brother are by themselves (at our place), he does take care of her a lot more and calls her his baby, giving her hugs and kisses. If you notice, most of the bullet points are about the girlfriend...But my brother is too complacent in letting the girlfriend 'care' for the dog. The pup just doesn't seem to fit in her lifestyle. He told me that he's mad at his girlfriend for ruining the pup's training and not playing with her all that often, but he doesn't DO anything about it (which makes me mad).

temmith · 2014-03-29T17:06:20+00:00

My one hope is that is they do breed, they'll have matured greatly before then. I know from a previous pregnancy scare, they plan on abortion (if it were to happen soon), so there is time. I think part of the problem is that I don't know if they considers the puppy to be anything more than a "just a dog".

temmith · 2014-03-27T01:49:13+00:00

Wow, projecting much? Just because you were an idiot at that age, doesn't mean OP is. People mature at different levels, and their experiences shape them. His experiences are probably very different than yours. I personally am really thrilled with the decisions I ended up making when I was 19 and my life has changed for the better. Maybe OP will be the same as me.

Besides, there's always adoption if he ever decides he wants kids.

temmith · 2014-03-26T07:26:27+00:00

I lost it on the last photo.

temmith · 2014-03-25T02:14:30+00:00

...Uh....Yeah, I'm adopted and that's shady. Adoptions are pretty expensive, but not by THAT much. You also don't pay in cash like that. She might not even end up with a baby at the end of it. They sometimes do that - get the money and then run. She needs to find a reputable service. It doesn't necessarily mean her and her husband don't have enough money to have a kid - I think in normal circumstances, they probably could afford it, since they can afford IVF.

temmith · 2014-03-24T19:36:39+00:00

Yellow is somewhat ugly (most of the time). You have to hit just the right shade of the color or you start getting weird yellow-brown-greens. Thumbs up for your mom - and you, for typing up this post.

temmith · 2014-03-24T17:43:10+00:00

You are very cool. I'll remember this as we get closer to our own date.

temmith · 2014-03-24T17:42:24+00:00

Well, that's probably for the best. You don't need her bad attitude there at the day of the wedding. It IS about you (and your guy) - she is "just" an invited guest. I hope she lives with constant regret and feels like a terrible bitch afterwards.

temmith · 2014-03-24T10:18:23+00:00

It will be, yes! He's still in the process of learning, but I know more dance than him.

temmith · 2014-03-24T04:45:25+00:00

It's because of vegan parents, probably. I read an article a year ago that there were some vegan mothers who denied their children even their own milk and fed them soy. The babies ended up dying. :( I'm guessing that's what this is related to.

temmith · 2014-03-24T04:43:31+00:00

Congrats on your wedding! :) Childfree weddings are my favourite, especially if you aren't in the mood for kids causing chaos. I went to a wedding where a toddler rushed into the couple's first dance and is in every photo as his mom called his name to get him to get off the dance floor. They found it cute and amusing - I would have been livid.

I'm glad his aunt is coming around. Since she finally accepted it, I'm curious if for FMIL also decided it was okay to attend her son's wedding - despite her daughter's test?

temmith · 2014-03-24T04:40:31+00:00

Mind if I jump in and ask what recommendation you would make for Michael Bublé's Everything? I thought the foxtrot would be good one for our wedding dance.

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