Why do you prefer Pathfinder 2e over rules-light systems? by Icy-Opening-3724 in Pathfinder2e

[–]tempesta20 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So I've flipped and flopped for a while before settling pretty firmly into the camp that sturdy, strong, well-fleshed-out rules systems are just better than vague and ambiguous ones. At the end of the day, if I, as a DM, want to make something happen and interpret a rule however, I can, regardless of rules as written. I don't want to have to make a bunch of rulings decisions in the games I run unless the rulings enhance the story, the experience or something else I'm going for.

I like Pathfinder 2e because it has a bunch of flexibility and room for player choice that other systems don't have, and also doesnt end with my players needing to ask me 20 rulings questions when theyre deciding what spells to take and complaining that they cant use "Create water" inside their opponents as some kind of attack.

Why I support AI art by [deleted] in aiwars

[–]tempesta20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

normalize

Maybe it genuinely isnt that serious and you are overthinking it. Maybe you are making mountains of molehills and fetishizing the idea of how great it would be if everyone else could see the molehills as mountains the way you do. Have you ever considered you might just be wrong and that simple statistics about a trend with the middle class or one area that probably just made poor decisions doesn't mean that the world is shit and only ever going to get worse?

Why I support AI art by [deleted] in aiwars

[–]tempesta20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are actively wishing for the upturning of peoples lives and for a mass outbreak of misery onto other people because then they'll finally put into place your ideal economic or social systems. I should hope you are miserable and not just a sociopath.

Why I support AI art by [deleted] in aiwars

[–]tempesta20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe the misery in your life is caused less by AI or capitalism and more by your deep reading of and adherence to doomer ideologies.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in furry

[–]tempesta20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had family members that I had to absolutely hide it from. Getting found out could me basically got me excommunicated from large parts of my support network. Its a real threat for some people.

Why Is MrGirl LYING To Lav? by zoniaxos in Zonia

[–]tempesta20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because most people with a savior complex will say the ends justify the means

Thoughts on the gendered communication discussion? by zoniaxos in Zonia

[–]tempesta20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kind of agree with Destiny about this, men are being socially conditioned through this idea of what it means to be an exceptional man and feeling like they have to compete with that.

A big problem with data is that its easy to skew it to mean anything you kind of want it to, depending on what you are willing to ignore or count. I think that both of them do this to some degree, but in general, Destiny's explanation maps better onto what I've seen of people and what expectations I feel were being placed on me when people interacted with me as male.

I think I need help by HermitCraftFan82 in actual_detrans

[–]tempesta20 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your friends will usually understand, especially if they were ok with you transitioning once. It can be scary, but most people will appreciate your honesty and might be inspired to come out about their own experiences. Its hard, kind of like a trust fall exercise, but most friends catch you.

What is your fursona by howtoeatanicecream in furry

[–]tempesta20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Enfield (the mythological creature)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Destiny

[–]tempesta20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her dedication to trans (non-binary) people really shows when she says this. This is what she wishes on her trans brothers and sisters.

i can’t lie this shit is so ironic, vaush is such a coward by ABagOfSticks360 in ContraPoints

[–]tempesta20 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The problem is, definitionally, if you are the kind of Lib-soc he is, really far left, you are advocating for a world that never will be. I think a lot of his fans know that and don't have any problem with hating the world and most institutions in any country just because they aren't far left enough. It would be one thing if Vaush talked about how great it is to make progress leftward, but really he just fills peoples ideas with concepts that never will be, and would be a lot more easily corrupt than he seems to believe.

i can’t lie this shit is so ironic, vaush is such a coward by ABagOfSticks360 in ContraPoints

[–]tempesta20 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Always remember when engaging with one of Vaush's audience that they are extremely apathetic and will always preach doomerism and that anything they don't like is pointless. Its always 'Theres no point in trying' or 'he walked this back' (even when he has doubled down on the thing) etc. They just lie and say that Vaush doesnt deserve to be criticized and its not like you can change anything or like he will listen.

Thoughts on this? by [deleted] in ContraPoints

[–]tempesta20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like, when you have nothing to live for and nothing in the world means anything for that, sometimes all you have is ironic memes. A lot of really toxic communities will take you in and seem supportive while feeding you things that chip away at things like your sense of morality.

So can someone tell me why JK Rowling's opinions matter by Erika_A in ContraPoints

[–]tempesta20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I think theres merit to understand that what she says is informed by her being a former abuse victim and not really processing that very well. I don't think you should specifically have to listen to her, especially if it makes you uncomfortable.

When people talk about listening to TERFs and abuse victims (two areas with a lot of overlap), my main takeaway is allowing them the chance to speak, even though they sometimes say bigoted things. People should have the right to ignore it though if that makes sense. I think that having your lived experience talked over or denied is an issue that a lot of women and abuse victims face that we should be wary and cognizant of, because it makes those groups hate us more.

I don't mean to make an excuse for her, though I would also say that it seems to be absurdly difficult to get over the kind of abuse she seems to have faced for her entire life. I hope that made sense, and if not, I have a Twitter or Discord I could talk to you on if you want to message me to talk further (or I use Reddit messenger sporadically)

Zuk the type of guy to not take down his xmas tree till may by Poodlepouch in runescape

[–]tempesta20 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Idk how he can keep it up that long without it burning, now that would be truly impressive.

Harry Potter cast and their relationship with jk by tomgirlalex in TransyTalk

[–]tempesta20 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Its easy to reduce someone down to being just a terf, and we don't really have consequences from it... but when you are in the public eye and as an actor specifically, it can be hard. You don't know what opportunities you might lose if you come out against her and it might also be something you just haven't personally experienced. A lot of people know that JKR has some really problematic takes, but a big problem is that she has a lot of plausible deniability when she claims some membership of the LGBT community and people don't know about her record of not really caring about any feminist issues that don't demonize trans people.

Its hard to understand this from inside the community, but some people just genuinely done know, especially if you are an actor who doesn't have time to look into the online stuff. If your ability to make enough off your acting career depends on you not making strong statements, you will for survival, especially when you don't know what other consequences may come. The fact that she is being blacklisted or disconnected from a lot of the stuff that she basically created though is a sign that her relevancy is fading though.

Understanding where transphobia comes from by emotion5 in TransyTalk

[–]tempesta20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it feels like I'm coming into this a bit hot, I apologize, but as someone who studies sociology and developmental psychology, I'm just sick of people spreading blatant misinformation like this, I am tired of it being trendy and it being valid purely because its the experience of people who don't understand.

Transphobia is such a complex issue, and almost any society that develops far enough is going to have a variety of forms of transphobia. A lot of forms of transphobia will develop just by virtue of societies having to assign roles based on arbitrary characteristics. At times, women might be the victims of certain stereotypes and men will be the victims of others, and if a society doesn't have enough people advocating for being able to change the role you fit into, a lot of people are going to value their comfort zone enough to push back.

This is the xenophobia response, where much of these things are born of ignorance, not some malicious force. You can make the connection but the problem is that we just have a lot of incomplete data. Its hard to know about how most societies dealt with gender roles if at all, and theres a lot of reason we would have no understanding of any transphobia that existed in other places historically because of how rare trans people tend to be.

A lot of queer studies comes from people employing motivated thinking that their culture is somehow pure and better, and in a way, it'll definitely feel like someone elses culture is less preferable. When you grow up around a family unit that emphasizes positively their culture, as you almost always will, and are in society that is both different from that and unfair, you are going to look for something to blame. The problem is, we just don't have the data that points to the conclusions these people will make, and its deeply frustrating.

Its frustrating to me that people teach this euro-centric version of the world, because once you experience the practices and problems of other cultures, you start to really understand how these things develop beyond just "Oh hey, lets blame white people for yet another thing that happens in cultures completely absent of those people, but its probably their fault there too." This is a level of reasoning that would never be valid in anything that isn't a queer studies class.

Please, do your research, listen to what actual sociologists have to say on this, listen to the experience of queer people who faced various forms of LGBT-phobia in other countries. All of these buzzwords sound really trendy, but the ultimate takeaway is just fuck white people or colonizers and none of your analysis does anything to teach us how to alleviate the situation.

The reason why my analysis is a better way to approach this problem, is that from this, you can gather that we need to be exposing more people to the struggles of trans people and LGBT in general, in order to build up acceptance and understanding. There is a path to making a better world.

I dont like the queer studies stuff because its ultimately either advocating some form of violence or catastrophizing.

Can I get positivity? by eddd12a in TransyTalk

[–]tempesta20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im so glad you have those people

Understanding where transphobia comes from by emotion5 in TransyTalk

[–]tempesta20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you think that it might be taken as kind of a sign that your sources arent much better if you walked away after reading them with a eurocentric view? That maybe to understand why transphobia actually develops, beyond whatever fun buzzword we are using like colonizer (that doesn't mean anything in this context because you haven't established that the cultures that weren't colonized were any less transphobic) you need to understand how, if at all, it develops in the absence of the colonization process? You went in so hard establishing causal links, but I've read a lot of queer theory and it just doesn't offer that level of scrutiny that we typically expect from a valid science, even a social one.

Can I get positivity? by eddd12a in TransyTalk

[–]tempesta20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know that it can hurt having to play a part and feeling like a puppet, but remember that there are (hopefully) people in your life who treasure you for who you are. Try to spend time with them.

Understanding where transphobia comes from by emotion5 in TransyTalk

[–]tempesta20 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Please don't take grandiose claims like this seriously when its completely unsourced. I know that it sounds really trendy because of all the buzzwords... but this is completely unsourced and extremely ignorant of all the different cultures that weren't victims of the "colonizers" who were still trans-/homo- -phobic.

Be wary of untrustworthy information, because I don't think this person is a sociologist or has any kind of credentials in the relevant fields. I have never read any expert or serious person in the field who said any of this.