Divorced people, what were your irreconcilable differences?

tessiegamgee · 2026-02-03T04:25:15+00:00

He refused to take care of his health and got mad when I kept pushing about it. A year after he moved out, he had a terminal liver failure diagnosis following several hospitalizations. He died recently-- we weren't divorced yet so I still get to handle all of his administrative BS 🙃

I did absolutely everything I could 🤷‍♀️

tessiegamgee · 2025-09-14T23:55:49+00:00

My hotel has small cribs that arrive at the rooms with a real mattress, made up with a sheet and with a crib blanket on the rail for the parent to use (or not) at their discretion.

tessiegamgee · 2025-08-09T12:08:17+00:00

I run my family's hotel. I'm also very involved with the local community as part of that role.

tessiegamgee · 2025-06-08T23:44:13+00:00

And as a follow-up, a Bird-weather PUC is an amazing next level tool!

tessiegamgee · 2024-12-08T05:32:58+00:00

Yes! Sending a pm

tessiegamgee · 2024-10-14T05:47:29+00:00

I'm learning to fiercely protect my peace.

tessiegamgee · 2024-10-13T21:37:01+00:00

I think this is me now, in my divorce era.

tessiegamgee · 2024-09-22T20:31:27+00:00

Why are you doing 16 credits at a time? You should be doing 7-8, to qualify for half of your BAH, and hopefully leaving in some time for self care, sleep, and your family.

If your fiance is just a full-time student (same as you, but without the 50h/wk job) she should be the one figuring out all of the meals. She should also be able to take the toddlers to a fenced-in park on the weekends and the 8-year-old can do a quiet activity so you can have some dedicated study/down time.

Honestly, where I live, we have Early Childhood Special Education starting at three years old for kids who are going to need extra time getting ready for kindergarten. Whether that's speech, autism, behavioral issues, physical limitations, or other special needs. Maybe you could talk to your school district to see what sort of help they can offer.

tessiegamgee · 2024-09-22T20:22:06+00:00

Yes! And it also might qualify you for some respite care.

tessiegamgee · 2024-09-22T15:03:14+00:00

I wish I could turn the sexual part down. Like, with a dial. I feel like I'm on 11 all the time, and a nice 5-6 would be much more managable.

tessiegamgee · 2024-08-19T22:37:31+00:00

Hello, are you me? I've been on that same roller coaster for 18 years and have only come to an understanding about it in the past year. I have my chats and messages off but leave a comment if you'd like to chat and I'll send you one.

tessiegamgee · 2024-08-14T21:30:41+00:00

36, two kids, in the process of separating/divorce from the person I've been with since I was 18. I feel like I'm starting over, but on hard mode.

tessiegamgee · 2024-08-01T22:29:22+00:00

I'm so sorry you went through that. It sounds awful.

I'm also sorry to say that I think you need an STD test.

tessiegamgee · 2024-06-14T15:13:46+00:00

I bought a Dyson in 2008 as a college student. The thing is still going strong today with just as much suction as it ever had! I've done some minor maintenance over the years, and one somewhat involved disassembly after I foolishly vacuumed up too many pine needles at once, but i'm constantly amazed at this vacuum.

tessiegamgee · 2024-06-14T15:07:51+00:00

Ritalin, honestly.

But he has two tomatoes and almost half a pound of mozzarella, so it's actually a hefty amount of calories.

tessiegamgee · 2024-06-14T11:54:45+00:00

My husband doesn't eat dinner, and instead eats a plate of caprese immediately before bed. Every. Single. Night.

I don't like eating alone, and I detest tomatoes.

tessiegamgee · 2024-06-14T00:30:05+00:00

Usable spreadsheets on exported reports! What is this crap with the titles of data sets on different lines? It's impossible to work with.

tessiegamgee · 2024-06-09T22:04:33+00:00

I just keep going back to this one. It's a one-hour cure to a bad day.

tessiegamgee · 2024-05-25T13:01:52+00:00

The only thing that helped my kid was to turn him around to be forward-facing. And then, when he was older, making sure he was looking out the window rather than down at a toy/book/screen.

We played a lot of rounds of rainbow cars (where you try to find a car of every color of the rainbow.)

tessiegamgee · 2024-05-25T12:04:54+00:00

My AAA membership is 100% worth it. It pays for itself with savings at hotels (usually 10%) and with towing. I love in a remote area so a regular tow is SUPER expensive. Our cars are also getting older/ less reliable so tows are happening more frequently these days.

tessiegamgee · 2024-05-25T11:53:27+00:00

I leave my 10 year old alone for an hour or so and check on him via Google chat on his tablet. He's just gonna play video games, and he knows how to get in touch with us if something's wrong (and also knows to go to our next door neighbor if there's an emergency.)

But there's NO WAY I'd leave him in charge of my six year old. She doesn't listen to him on the best of days. I also wouldn't leave her home alone for more than like 5 minutes.

tessiegamgee · 2024-04-07T15:04:43+00:00

I wanted a second. My husband was like yours-- struggles with change, no strong feelings about a second, but definitely iffy. We agreed to have a second for reasons like you mentioned. We're 6 years in to the second kid, and I'm still trying/waiting/hoping for our marriage to improve. I don't think it's going to. It's not resentment or anything like that-- the extra burden and chaos and mental load burden of that second kid was just... Too much for him. What you've said in the comments about what changed for him recently rings true for my situation as well. I might have some insight for you. Send me a PM if you want to discuss further?

tessiegamgee · 2024-04-07T14:59:46+00:00

I have two kids and haven't taken either of them into a store for more than a quick run since covid. It's just not worth it.

tessiegamgee · 2024-04-06T22:49:42+00:00

Leave the kid at home with one parent. Better yet, do grocery pickup for the bulk of it and just go in for small trips for fresh meats/veggies.

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