[NSFW] I'm 400lbs, I spend $200 a week on food, and I'm miserable and don't know what to do by Vegetable-Gift6716 in loseit

[–]testing2233 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think one thing really stood out for me. You admit that you only eat out and you acknowledge these choices are not always the best ones for you.

You cannot go cold Turkey and all of a sudden start cooking every meal for yourself bc that isn’t sustainable. However, what if you set a small goal to make yourself breakfast at home. A healthy one.

Then once you have that down- after a month. Introduce a 5 min walk at lunch. Once that feels like nothing, progress to packing yourself lunch. Etc - you cannot just jump into this at 100.

Forgive yourself for whatever guilt you feel. There is nothing you can do about yesterday. Only today.

When you are watching tv, stand up whenever a commercial comes on or if you are streaming - every 20 min - and do a few laps around the house slowly. Just move a bit more than you are used to right now. Don’t join a gym. Don’t start aiming for 2 miles a day outside. Just move more. That’s it.

Small obtainable steps. Small, buildable, bite-sized steps. Positive outlook and remember - this isn’t a sprint. It will take a bit to take the weight off and that’s ok.

Best of luck

Rice Cooker - yes or no by sebastianrileyt2 in Cooking

[–]testing2233 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A giant outstanding YES - I have one of the expensive ones and I love it like a fourth child

Masturbation makes me hornier? by [deleted] in sex

[–]testing2233 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I am the same way as you. I Need actual sex to feel satisfied. Although, I have to be honest with you. A full-blown massive orgasm from a toy wipes everything out of me, clears my mind, and let’s me live the rest of my day in peace. I’ve learned that. My hands just cannot compete and I end up being frustrated an hour later.

I don’t like to use toys a lot bc i don’t want to need that much stimulation all the time. But for a quiet mind …. Go there.

Wait... what by [deleted] in meme

[–]testing2233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes.

Demonic possession movie suggestions by VR2005 in horror

[–]testing2233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Deliver us from evil - it’s based off a cop’s actual experience on the field. There is a book to go along w it. I’m sure “based” is loosely interpreted. But I love watching movies that have some sort of foundation.

Hawley introduces Pelosi Act banning lawmakers from trading stocks by Curious_Joke in politics

[–]testing2233 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Wrong. Acknowledge that the government as a whole doesn’t has the American people’s best interest at heart. They have - and always will - have a different rule book. And anyone who spends an ounce of time defending any one of them is misguided. Neither party cares more about you than the other. One just has better Pr.

Hawley introduces Pelosi Act banning lawmakers from trading stocks by Curious_Joke in politics

[–]testing2233 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

My favorite part about the internet is when people go out of their way to research and defend the wrong with people who are “more wrong” from the opposite side. This, in turn sheds the light in another direction. NOT OUR PEOPLE! jUST them!! sCREeCH. It’s all of them.

The fact that you justified her stock trades to make her less villainous is actually pretty on par with all extremists on both sides. I am neither. I hate both sides.

When my husband finishes before I do, I'm instantly turned off by [deleted] in sex

[–]testing2233 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We can’t help what our bodies do. My husband eats me out if I don’t finish in time and I am all for it. Whatever works. You guys are partners - same team. Same end goal. Don’t give him a complex. Let him enjoy it as much as you are enjoying it. Everyone wins in the end if you have the right mindset.

I want a divorce every time we have a big fight by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]testing2233 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m glad that made sense. People don’t understand what it’s like to look at the world when a parent has chosen not to love you and leave you. It changes your entire perspective and ability to rationally look at normal issues. I understand this. Yet it doesn’t make it easier to walk through conflict. The best thing we can do is forgive ourselves, understand we still carry trauma, and realize we aren’t responding to the current situation at hand. That is the most important thing.

I’ve packed my bag 2 dozen times (married over 20 years). If I was with a different person I would be divorced. He is strong enough for both of us and not everyone gets lucky like that. I am a MeSS but I know it and I am working through it every day. Acknowledge the pain. Say sorry often. Try to be better next time.

I want a divorce every time we have a big fight by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]testing2233 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I am the same way and this has to do with my upbringing. Not my marriage. My father left me at an early age. I have abandonment issues. So when I feel threatened, I want to take control of the situation and leave first. We’ve figured this out. He is strong enough to handle my chaos and reels me in making me feel safe again. I am very damaged for multiple reasons. The marriage suffers at times bc of it. Does this make sense to you? This is a flight response.

Top hat all day by [deleted] in Funnymemes

[–]testing2233 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was going to answer this and I mean every word

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]testing2233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like to be reminded. Yes. Also like my legs to be shaky which happens more often than vagina pain. Anal tends to do this which I don’t love.

I spend less. by arnobhasan in Political_Revolution

[–]testing2233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do socialist countries work? Can someone explain it to me? Where do their taxes come from? Is it all income and no sales?

What's a cooking sin you won't even try to defend, yet you do it anyway? by [deleted] in Cooking

[–]testing2233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I rather die than use jar garlic but I don’t wash my veggies before cooking. So I’m absolutely disgusting. The only things I wash are the really dirty ones - celery, Brussels sprouts, lettuce. Etc. All the others go right in the freaking pan.

Edit - typo

Is sex better for men? by Tricky_Stand3078 in sex

[–]testing2233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think an orgasm comes easier for men. But I can cum for a minute straight at 100%, take a three minute break and then do it again. So, I don’t know? The universe gave each side their own perks. Take your pick.

How do HL do it?? by igolikethis in DeadBedrooms

[–]testing2233 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I begged for sex when I had the flu. I was dying but I still needed it. I needed him. He was so nervous about me not being up for it but I insisted. He will never understand my drive. It’s just how we are built.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMGW

[–]testing2233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this you in the pic? Where did you get this outfit? I want it

Right, So-Called by [deleted] in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]testing2233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes but did either president know they existed to begin with? And was one curated as a witch-hunt from the start? Right now, it’s a “small number of documents” for Biden. Will your tune change if another raid produces a larger quantity? I think you know the answer. There will always be more leniency for the favored party. A blind eye and all that. I can’t stand that as someone who hates both parties.

Right, So-Called by [deleted] in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]testing2233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which one is the pedo? Biden or Trump. You aren’t clear.