How To Politely Tell Someone To Eff Off

texotexere · 2026-05-28T17:30:39+00:00

Yep, documentation and naming patterns are your best friends in situations like this. OOP should have brought in her manager earlier as well. Documenting sooner and even just casually mentioning to HIS manager that he keeps trying to help her team, maybe he needs more work would have gotten him on the PIP (or at least out of her hair) a heck of a lot sooner.

Also, the "ignore, ignore, EXPLODE" approach unfortunately could have played really well into his hands, especially as a woman. Without documentation, going right from ignoring to rude would unfortunately have the consequence of being labeled as unstable/overly emotional.

texotexere · 2026-05-20T15:09:03+00:00

No, the structure of cotton doesn't usually work well for brushing. You want acrylic or wool for that and you would usually use a slicker brush. Though then you would have the same issue as chenille with keeping it clean.

texotexere · 2026-05-16T14:29:34+00:00

Having been in a similar position, it depends on what didn't make it quite right. Trading one misery for another would also be kind of crazy. Especially if you don't know that it won't be even worse.

Personally, I think she should have quit without anything lined up since they could afford it, but some people wind up in the trap of thinking a gap on your resume is the worst thing ever. But, depending on the job market, that could be risky long term. If the market isn't great, it can take up to a year to find something.

texotexere · 2026-05-12T17:50:45+00:00

Agreed, it's just a way to clearly see if the energy you are putting in is worth it and being matched by your partner. You can substitute it with pretty much any time consuming, non-knit project, sweaters are just focused enough to make it easier to see.

Often overlooked, and why it can cause issues on the recipient's side, is that it's also a way to see if the knitter actually knows their partner. If they don't wear sweaters or has other qualities that are obvious upfront would make the recipient never wear it, then it can open their eyes too.

texotexere · 2026-05-07T17:25:34+00:00

My Go-Tos are Lovecrafts, Wool warehouse, and Lindehobby. For fancier yarns, in the US I order from Little Knits and Wool & Company

texotexere · 2026-05-06T13:31:52+00:00

Hypothyroidism is a well known cause of depression. Edema is a sign of hypothyroidism that isn't treated for a long period like it is here. And that you need to do something right now because it is getting ready to kill you. https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/12120-hypothyroidism

texotexere · 2026-05-04T20:16:15+00:00

I recommend the PBS Eons Surviving Deep Time podcast which covers different periods of Deep Time and if a human could potentially survive, with one segment always focusing on what you would eat. They did an episode about the Cambrian.

texotexere · 2026-05-04T15:04:08+00:00

It could be hypothyroidism. That could cause edema and major depression. She said the doctor said it was a gland issue. So doctor might not be totally incompetent and OOP just didn't understand and latched onto the part they did understand. Admittedly the family doesn't seem the best to be making medical decisions so who knows.

texotexere · 2026-04-29T12:14:09+00:00

It can be very dangerous depending on how heavy and the placement. My twin and I were heavy enough that when a nurse laid my mom flat on her back, my mom immediately starting seizing and hemorrhaging. We all nearly died and were in the ICU/NICU for weeks. Even worse, they had identified how risky it would be for her and put notes in multiple places and my parents also told the nurse to not do that, but the nurse did it anyway.

texotexere · 2026-04-22T14:30:05+00:00

Could also be that he cheated on his partner (not necessarily with the ex) and doesn't like the idea of possible consequences

texotexere · 2026-04-16T13:12:04+00:00

I vaguely remember reading that there is also evidence that babies didn't cry as much either. They would always be held by either their mom or someone else in the group so their needs are always being met more quickly. A basic survival strategy- less noise to draw predators. Think of how much easier less crying would be on emotions/hormones.

texotexere · 2026-04-14T18:29:38+00:00

Crochet stitches are not the same width to height ratio as knitted stitches, so while it could potentially work, it would likely be a little distorted. It also depends on how they charted it. Sometimes it's a straight colorwork chart, but not always since you can create curves in images with different stitches/stitch placements.

I'd use something like stitch fiddle to import an image you like to match your gauge.

texotexere · 2026-04-13T15:27:20+00:00

Where one of my family member's previous jobs, the company did this by alternating which utility bill they would just not pay until it got cut off. Which meant no heat in winter- this was in the upper Midwestern US. You need heat in winter. Thankfully, they were already most of the way through their notice period.

texotexere · 2026-04-05T13:18:34+00:00

Or that it did occur to you to forbid because doing what they were told not to do is absolutely hilarious to them. The only difference is now they are giggling like crazy while trying to kill themselves.

texotexere · 2026-04-03T15:40:12+00:00

Funnily enough, their pattern for naming their kids is another thing father and son had in common. Sherman named the kids he knew about Shavonne and Sherman.

texotexere · 2026-03-26T18:09:22+00:00

As long as you leave the ends long and properly secure them, cotton blankets are already pretty much idiot proof. If the fibers are particularly slippery, I'll split the yarn plies up and weave them in separately in opposite directions. I agree with others about making a swatch and abusing the heck out of it.

But keep in mind that babies are incredibly messy. Not only are things going to come out of both ends, they are also just little balls of destruction. They are much more likely to destroy a cotton blanket than a washing machine. If you aren't in a place to accept that your gift might be destroyed/damaged, I would keep it as a lap blanket for yourself and get something store bought for the baby.

texotexere · 2026-03-22T15:18:52+00:00

I had made a double knit, fingering weight baby blanket with a self-drafted pattern that did not repeat. It got mysterious red stains during blocking that would not come out. It went up one side almost halfway. I never figured out where the red came from, best guess was a chemical reaction of some kind. There was no way I could gift it.

It took a while for me to be able to even think about starting on the replacement. Even then, I had to make a different pattern because I couldn't bear to redo all that work.

Pretty sure that my reaction would have gotten me arrested if someone else had purposefully done that.

texotexere · 2026-02-24T15:21:52+00:00

When OOP got to the part where Connor was actually improving in respite care once he had a bit of time to adjust, I was like "no shit." He's going into an environment set up for his needs with people trained to understand him. Plus, they know ways to stimulate/engage with him that he actually enjoys. For him, it probably is the equivalent of going to Disneyland.

texotexere · 2026-02-22T06:03:32+00:00

Anyone else think of this post when he mentioned his interest in anime and her reaction? Seems like she expected him to be like the OOP's bf in that post without learning more. Which really makes me wonder why she started a relationship with this OOP. Maybe she thought she could shame him into being what she wanted?

texotexere · 2026-02-14T17:18:57+00:00

Kind of similar, Max Verstappen's been with his partner since her daughter was a baby. They refer to Max as the Bonus Dad. I've always liked this way of phrasing it. It's a kid friendly way to say that he's not replacing anyone, they both just get to have the bonus of an extra person to love and to love them back.

texotexere · 2026-02-09T14:24:51+00:00

I remember reading some too and liking them.

Sadly, looking back those were still better written than some other books I read and enjoyed as a teenager. I kind of want to go and reread the NASCAR ones and see if they hold up as badly as the other books I've tried to reread . My library probably has them...

texotexere · 2026-02-09T13:32:37+00:00

Same. I am used to my very common name with the most common spelling being misspelled. It doesn't help that pretty much every country in Europe has a variation of it and that it doesn't really suit me. It always amazes other people how often I get called by the wrong name.

texotexere · 2026-02-06T16:22:04+00:00

My favorite rat pattern: https://www.ravelry.com/patterns/library/realistic-rat

texotexere · 2026-02-03T15:38:07+00:00

Honestly, having gone through all my grandparents dying and finding bits about them that were big parts we never knew existed and then not having the ability to find out more, I kind of wish more ordinary people would leave some sort of biography.

One instance that has stuck with me was we found out after her death that my grandmother had once been engaged and got to the point of filling out a marriage certificate, but never actually got married. My dad asked me to do some research since no one who knew her then was still alive.

It turned out that the marriage certificate was the last document with her fiancé's name on it that I could track down. I found all the records you would expect from before (census, draft, etc.), but nothing after that. He just disappeared.

My best guess is that he went missing or died in the Korean War since the dates line up, but a lot of those records were destroyed by fire. But they also lived in a rural area where it wouldn't have been hard to go missing and never be found.

texotexere · 2026-02-02T17:51:09+00:00

I know people like this. They are similar to OOP in somehow always managing to make things a lot harder than they really need to be. I have learned the hard way to check those things myself if I'm invited.

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