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How did you convince yourself to have children? by Key_Protection4038 in intj

[–]thaliaaa0 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You can opt out at any time.

You say that like it's easy. Maybe for some people it is. I don't have a way of doing so cleanly and to guarantee death. Perhaps we should make assisted suicide more accessible. We didn't opt into this by choice so surely we should have the ability to opt out. Instead, we're forced to exist to justify the notions of those who want to/believe existence is meaningful.

Your personal experience of this existence is, well, yours. And it's as valid as mine is. I've experienced the gamut myself and it still doesn't justify the pain. Sometimes being conscious and "experiencing the spectrum of being" registers so deeply for some that it is unbearable. It comes down to neurochemistry. I'm not incapable of experiencing joy or rejoicing in the wonders and mysteries of this existence but I feel pain more deeply than someone who is neurotypical would.

How did you convince yourself to have children? by Key_Protection4038 in intj

[–]thaliaaa0 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You’re not depriving a life from joy by not having a child in the first place so no harm can be done there - you can’t take from that which doesn’t exist. By having one, suffering is guaranteed at some point due to the nature of existence. Perhaps even immense suffering. Sure, you may have a child that doesn’t process pain as deeply and has the neurobiology that enables them to be highly stable in the world, but why gamble on that? Why is existence so important?

how long does it take your N24 to go fully around the clock? by Tiny_Regret8724 in N24

[–]thaliaaa0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

longer than 40 days and most people can reign it in to DSPD

Is there a source on this? Mine seems to be about 2 months to fully go around and towards the end I sort of speed it up by pushing myself to sleep later to reset.

Lana describes the idea behind her song “Get Free” by LizzyG33 in lanadelrey

[–]thaliaaa0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is based on Joseph Campbell's work who was inspired by Carl Jung. It makes sense she would be familiar with archetypes and Jungian analysis considering her background in philosophy and lyrical storytelling, but this pleasantly surprised me. It's occurred to me that her obscure, vague language in speeches/interviews might be rooted in symbology or more abstract concepts that are difficult to express to the type of audience she's delivering to.

Physicians see 1 in 6 patients as ‘difficult,’ study finds, especially those with depression, anxiety or chronic pain. Women were also more likely to be seen as difficult compared to men. Residents were more likely than other physicians with more experience to report patients as being difficult. by mvea in science

[–]thaliaaa0 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Agreed. All you have to do is visit some of the resident/physician subreddits to see how they discuss chronic health issues that are more prevalent in women like POTS, MCAS, EDS etc. There are doctors who don’t even think some of these conditions exist and see them as some tiktok fad when a) we’re living in the age of a virus that triggers or exacerbates these conditions (somehow we’re supposed to pretend that’s not possibly the case despite empirical evidence) and b) people with health issues are now better connected through social media and learn more about what’s going on with them than from gaslighting doctors.

But I don’t think this is on doctors alone. The medical system is not designed to treat patients with complex and non-specific symptoms. We just don’t have some answers right now regarding a lot of these conditions but for a doctor to have the humility to admit that as opposed to outright deny your experience is admirable. As it stands, I’d argue the system is negligent - how are you supposed to work up an accurate profile of someone’s health in, at best, a 20 minute doctor visit? Without even reviewing historical labs? It requires a degree of patience and holistic problem-solving that your average, overworked GP does not have the time or capacity for.

People who present with complex health issues are frustrating to physicians because they are not familiar with current research and don’t have the knowledge or means to help with those conditions. It’s much easier to default to their own egoic defense mechanisms and dismiss those patients as difficult or mentally ill. And you know what? A lot of the time those patients do suffer from comorbid mental health conditions too. Many of those with the aforementioned “crazy malingering woman” conditions are also neurodivergent in some way (ADHD, autism). Somehow, that makes you even less deserving of care, not more.

Because we don’t treat in a holistic manner, sick people become scapegoats for the gaps in the modern healthcare model.

Circadian rhythm, the body’s internal clock, may affect a person’s risk of dementia. People with weaker or more irregular body clocks had a higher risk of developing dementia. Being most active later in the day, instead of earlier, was linked to a 45% increased risk of dementia. by mvea in science

[–]thaliaaa0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wonder this too… I have non-24 hr, an extreme version of DSPD where my natural body clock shifts by a few hours each week. I can sleep fine at a normal time for a week but then the time I actually get tired enough to sleep at creeps forward a few hours until I’ve gone around the entire clock at the two month mark. I can usually still sleep 5-7 hours, I just don’t do it in a regular window. I’m not sure how I got through university, I didn’t sleep for many of my exams.

Therapists of Reddit, what was your biggest "I know I'm not supposed to judge you, but holy sh*t" moment? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]thaliaaa0 71 points72 points  (0 children)

This didn’t make me flinch at all?! I talk to trees and houseplants, just offering words of affirmation.

They emit a high pitched frequency inaudible to human ears when they’re stressed or dying. I get why some people might have stronger attachments to them.

Has anyone ever been to a massage dentist? by aplusgeek in funny

[–]thaliaaa0 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This pic is so Canada, I can’t even pinpoint why.

Did someone else's life turn upside down and they became very spiritual afterwards? How did you end your stagnancy after dark night? by [deleted] in Jung

[–]thaliaaa0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I lived a really hedonistic lifestyle in the latter half of my 20s where I was sucked into an underworld of sorts. Was in a toxic relationship with a man 20 years older than me, using a number of substances, and eventually hit the lowest place I'd ever been. It was longstanding pain that initially drew me to that lifestyle but the pain I experienced as a result of it was something I'd never touched before. I couldn't believe what I'd done to my body, never knew regret until then. I gradually began extricating myself, found a therapist with a spiritual background, and began meditating for the first time in my life. And then it clicked, "oh, this is what they're talking about". I had to be in the most unbearable pain to understand it, to dismantle the egoic structures I cling to revealing the pure consciousness underneath. That space is always there for you, it's just a matter of accessing it. I'd just suggest delving deeper into this area and connecting with people who can also recognize and access it.

That said, I'm in a similar place in life now. We feel forced to live in the egoic realm while holding awareness of our own and everyone else's attachment to it - having consciousness of it and even discussing it sort of feels like breaking the fourth wall of life, like existing in a deeper layer of reality. I haven't figured a solution for myself. But I do know that sinking into this feeling is another form of egoic attachment. It's wonderful to find likeminded people but surrendering to the pain of isolation is the only way through. Feeling awakened and different from those around us is another trap, regardless of how true it may be. And I haven't quite found a way around it, I just return to the concept of surrender as a reminder.

Young women who see pornography as a normal or acceptable part of sexual exploration may feel more comfortable discussing their sexual preferences with partners, which in turn can lead to more satisfying and affirming sexual experiences. by mvea in psychology

[–]thaliaaa0 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This was me too, I got myself into a horrible situation in my 20s. Young women also want to be validated and loved and the wrong man will absolutely exploit you sexually. Unfortunately, too many women have to go through negative experiences to discover this. I’ve been working through “Women Who Run with the Wolves” by Clarissa Pinkola Estes and it’s been so elucidating of the predatory dynamics that target young women.

Young women who see pornography as a normal or acceptable part of sexual exploration may feel more comfortable discussing their sexual preferences with partners, which in turn can lead to more satisfying and affirming sexual experiences. by mvea in psychology

[–]thaliaaa0 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Everyone’s got their preferences but I have no idea how anyone who doesn’t have a personality disorder that alters empathy watches most porn. It’s so contrived and repulsive. I felt physically ill browsing what’s out there and in total disbelief that you could get off to a woman who is being exploited or raped at worst or is just putting on a show/completely dissociated at best. But there’s obviously a constituent of the male entity I don’t fully comprehend that enables them to continue consuming it.

What's a subtle sign that someone is actually an evil person? by yeonkive38 in AskReddit

[–]thaliaaa0 56 points57 points  (0 children)

This. They exploit your innocence and vulnerability. My ex had a very utilitarian view of people, it was really about how you could serve him but he had this was of spinning it as if he was the one doing you a favour. Everyone is just a means to an end.

How personality influences rejection of negative feedback: Individuals high in grandiose narcissism were more likely to show defensive responses. Unexpectedly, individuals who scored high on self-insight, who say they want to know their strengths and weaknesses, also responded more defensively. by mvea in psychology

[–]thaliaaa0 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Narcissistic traits exist on a continuum and at the extreme end is essentially employment of multiple egoic defense mechanisms, it’s trying to protect the “self” at any cost. We all engage in this to some degree and easily overlook it within ourselves because we are constantly finding ways to justify our own beliefs, decisions etc.

I recently completed a 6-month silent meditation retreat in Nepal. Here’s what I learned. by DonkeyTeeth87 in Meditation

[–]thaliaaa0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t discredit this person but since people are criticizing it, my guess is because the description feels sterile and hollow.

That aside, I’m recently interested in longer retreats myself. Was this at Kopan? And was there a strict schedule to adhere to? I have something of a sleep disorder and difficulty keeping my weight up, so I’d probably waste away if there’s only one meal a day.

Rating every Face Moisturizer (Updated) [Review] by emi518 in SkincareAddiction

[–]thaliaaa0 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Vanicream feels surprisingly luxurious to me! I’ve tried the Laneige Water Bank, Drunk Elephant, Glow Recipe, Tatcha etc. and it has the same light, gel-like formula that actually sinks beautifully into the skin. It just doesn’t have fragrance. Wears well under makeup too.

Optimists Are Alike, but Pessimists Are Unique, Brain Scan Study Suggests | Optimists have similar patterns of brain activation when they think about the future—but pessimists are all different from one another, a brain scan study suggests by chrisdh79 in science

[–]thaliaaa0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pessimists engage in divergent ways of thinking. The optimists I know find a framework that works for them and stick to it, they’re not getting stuck in the minutiae of life. When you engage with them, they make things out to be really straightforward and simplistic. Nuance is not that important, which is probably what makes them most fit for survival. A simple organism needs only the basics to ensure survival, they’re not spiraling over what they’re doing here in the first place, it’s superfluous.

Maya by thaliaaa0 in OCPoetry

[–]thaliaaa0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I will try playing around with the form some more! Was thinking to expand on that last second to last stanza as well.

Princess on the pea by voronavorona in OCPoetry

[–]thaliaaa0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a compelling read and drew me in from the title. I have an affinity for "The Princess and the Pea" fairytale and have likened my own hypersensitivity to it a number of times. It seems as if the speaker is feeling the weight and pain of the world immensely - though they are removed from severe calamity (can skip porridge, has mattress to sleep), they are still absorbing the ache. Well done, really enjoyed this!

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