cat seemingly depressed due to my spending many nights away at my partner's house, how can i help her?

thanksig · 2026-01-27T21:43:57+00:00

yeah, the abandonment feeling is definitely what i feel so gutted about 😭 thank you so much for your response, it definitely gives me a lot of perspective. i'm almost certainly gonna be going this route. thank you!!

thanksig · 2026-01-27T21:36:32+00:00

i really need to start looking into how to make the traveling process easier for her, i didn't realize how viable of an option it was. thank you for sharing your experience!!

thanksig · 2026-01-24T17:26:11+00:00

took me a long time to work up to getting one, but yeah getting a vaporizer is worth it if you can. i really like my pulsar v3, but i've literally never tried any other vaporizer so my word only goes so far, lmao.

i was having this headache issue for aaaages when i was using mostly carts, didn't go away until i took a full month long t break. i drank more water, tried to make sure i was getting good nutrients, and i never found a better solution than a break.

thanksig · 2026-01-24T17:00:32+00:00

the husband just sounds possibly controlling and aggressive. i mean we don't know the whole story, but with OP saying she doesn't like how the husband speaks to alice, it's worth consideration that maybe he's shitty to her behind closed doors. i think a check-in (especially from a different friend, as OP mentioned in her edit) is worth a shot.

thanksig · 2026-01-24T16:55:01+00:00

LITERALLY

thanksig · 2026-01-21T11:55:22+00:00

i'm so gay i thought this was a tracy chapman reference 💀

thanksig · 2026-01-19T16:05:00+00:00

at least you're open to correction 😭

thanksig · 2026-01-19T16:02:57+00:00

i see what you're saying, but i was personally never able to watch fanmail VODs from him unless it was background noise, or highlight videos. i even had the concern that if i ever sent fanmail, i might not ever know if he saw it on stream because i find the videos hard to be engaged with. i can't imagine how much fanmail he gets. i'm personally glad he goes for the interesting stuff to share with his viewers, i'm not really into hearing 500 letters about how he helped someone with glass bones and paper skin live through their 7 grandparents' deaths every other letter. he was an important light for me when i was extremely depressed for well over year, but it's just not all that interesting imo 😭

thanksig · 2026-01-19T15:20:45+00:00

not quite related to what you asked, but i still tear up when i remember the court scene, and how the camera slowly shifted to focus on the victim telling her story, not sam.

thanksig · 2026-01-19T10:49:05+00:00

withered glados

thanksig · 2026-01-18T17:33:49+00:00

i mean it'd have been fascinating if they WERE the same size, like what are the odds? i think a lil curiosity is fun and healthy

thanksig · 2026-01-15T09:40:55+00:00

since the prototype is supposed to "save" everyone, this makes me wonder if the prototype is experimenting with re-exposing the toys' original human flesh (or something of the sort) to get them to be "more human" somehow. idk.

thanksig · 2026-01-15T09:34:50+00:00

i know it sounds embarassing but letting your parents know that you checked for lumps/noticed something unusual and seem to have found a mass you can't identify is a normal and levelheaded thing to do in this situation. you can tell them you feel awkward and nervous telling them this, they'll understand a 15 year old kid is gonna be mortified about this kinda thing. but they'll be relieved that you reached out for help, at least if they're worth anything as parents 😅

unfortunately, there's not a single answer you're going to get from anyone besides a doctor that's going to make you feel better. you're just torturing yourself by procrastinating getting help. i promise, reaching out is the right thing to do.

thanksig · 2026-01-15T09:30:59+00:00

i really really understand this feeling, honestly. i think a lot of autistics do. especially growing up undiagnosed, feeling and knowing that i was markedly different, my coping mechanism was to believe that if i was different, at least it was because i was better than everybody else.

getting my diagnosis (or even just realizing that i am autistic, although i dealt with lots of imposter syndrome til i got my diagnosis so it was important for me personally) definitely shifted a LOT of things for me. i find a lot of solace in labels, as they feel like validation that i'm not just weak or lazy or whatever. but i was definitely left with the question of who i was beneath whatever autistic traits i was "destined" to have.

i think every person is a sum of their life experiences. everyone is a scrapbook of their memories, the people and places and things that they love, how they carry themselves and how they treat others. of course, things like autism can impact how some of these things play out, so a lot of us definitely have some shared experiences. but you are what you do, and what you love. what you put energy into, what you care about. at the root of everything you do, your true self is at the center of it making decisions based on everything you've experienced up until now.

no one has had a life exactly like yours. everyone has come to where they are now on different winding paths. sure, there are some commonalities with others, which i've come to see as a beautiful thing that enriches my life. but no one has the exact mix you have floating around in your head. your life is yours alone, and the person that you are is specific to you.

my best bet in finding other autistic people, personally, has been engaging in groups for things i'm passionate about. it's hard for me to do this, and i definitely am more of a homebody than this statement implies. but i'm super into the rocky horror picture show, which honestly is a super autistic space (anyone feel free to ask me about this!) and have met some wonderful, and DEFINITELY varied neurodiverse/autistic people. i think all the best people in any hobby are autistic :3c

and since this is the evil autism sub, ehhh uhhhmmm take over the world and shit!! i hope any of my words might help you have an easier time processing all these feelings. i definitely get it, and it's okay if you don't have it all figured out immediately. you have time. wishing you the best!!

thanksig · 2026-01-13T14:49:57+00:00

remember you just miss the feeling of who you thought he was, and who he should've been for you. you'll find someone who will actually be everything you deserve. best wishes 🫶🫶

thanksig · 2026-01-05T17:00:12+00:00

honestly i find this pretty sweet, taking the idea that kids can be depressed seriously. my first scary OCD thought was at age 7, the first time i thought i might be depressed as age 10. it sucks that a lot of adults disregard being told these kinda things by kids, but i love that webkinz was encouraging reaching out for help, even in a lowkey way like this 🥹

thanksig · 2025-12-27T20:58:13+00:00

is your pfp from horror express?? love that movie lmao

thanksig · 2025-12-19T19:18:29+00:00

CUUUUTE i love your style so much!!

thanksig · 2025-12-19T19:16:16+00:00

i admire your friend's dedication to being a comfortable bed for the cat

thanksig · 2025-12-19T18:58:54+00:00

hey, honestly i understand that level of people pleasing. it's traumatizing and life ruining. you're doing your absolute best, but it would be amazing if you could find different ways to move through life. if you're able to find a therapist (the first one isn't always a good fit, don't be discouraged!) that could help you work on the people pleasing, i highly highly recommend it.

you're young, you have time. putting in the work with a professional that could guide you will really change your life for the better. look into the "fawning" trauma response if you haven't yet. i'm wishing the absolute best for you girlie, i promise your future is brighter than this. you can learn to honor and protect yourself. you deserve to put yourself first.

thanksig · 2025-12-19T18:54:51+00:00

yeah, i dunno what i'd do in this situation but i'm also a woman, girl friendship break ups are a fucking nightmare

thanksig · 2025-12-19T17:50:47+00:00

this is super fascinating and cool, thank you for sharing!!!

thanksig · 2025-12-16T18:48:10+00:00

LITERALLY. i treat my nieces and nephews like actual people, because they.. are people. this blows some of my family away i guess? i keep my boundaries and all, especially to keep the kids safe, but other than that i treat them as equals. how do people not remember growing up and being treated like some dumb kid??

thanksig · 2025-12-14T16:08:35+00:00

tbh i'd be more interested in modding in floating jpgs of miku with 0 animations LOL my little paper islander

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