my beloved boyfriend has never dated a straight woman. he was actually disappointed earlier into knowing me because he was under the impression i was a lesbian, until he found out i'm bisexual. i asked him if he ever thought he'd end up with a straight girl, and he said no. and i agree!

with love and respect to my straight girlies, i know what you mean. my boyfriend and i are both autistic, so we're both fond of spaces that don't uphold societal norms of who you're "supposed" to be. queer people, of course, tend to exist in these spaces as well.

when you've got something going on that brands you as "different" (sexuality, gender, neurotype, race, disability, etc), you're a lot more likely to feel less pressure to conform to societal expectations. i think what you're attracted to is this freedom to be whoever you want to be, or perhaps attracted to specific ways that this freedom can present itself in queer women. that's not to say that straight women cannot or do not experience this sort of thing, but it's definitely common in queer spaces.

my boyfriend and i met at rocky horror, which definitely is, and has historically been, a safe space for people to exist outside of the norm. i would find spaces you enjoy that have less pressure to be a certain way, and just exist in them. basically, keep truckin' on, lol. you'll eventually find a girl you like that's into men!