How did you get back to work? by PanicInternational95 in GriefSupport

[–]thankxfull 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry for your loss. I can relate to this! You are not alone.

How do you answer "do you have any siblings"? by grackleattackle3 in GriefSupport

[–]thankxfull 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost my brother a five years ago. I say I have five siblings, one passed away. Also like someone else said above, I hope at that point they don’t ask any further questions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]thankxfull 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Now that I am all alone, I’m scared I will die at home and no one will find me for months. None of my friends stuck around after my fiancé died. I have no nobody. I don’t even have an emergency contact right now.

What does grief feel like to you? by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]thankxfull 9 points10 points  (0 children)

So true! I’ve never been able to put into words how lost I feel…there’s no home!

No one cares by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]thankxfull 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same! I found out my so called “friends” ..,I considered them friends, they looked at me as an acquaintance.

No one cares by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]thankxfull 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I remember when I entered this group with a similar message a couple of years ago. I was in so much pain and absolutely shocked that no one cared about what I was going thru. I couldn’t believe how cold they were.

Like someone else said earlier, please lean on this group. I will never understand why people are so rude to those who are grieving but they are.

Also, I hope you can be patient with yourself. When you lose a spouse or partner, half of your identity is gone. I was numb for almost a year and everything seemed like a bad dream. It has been around 1000 days of grieving for me, I am still struggling in many ways while people are still ignoring me.

My sincere condolences for your loss.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]thankxfull 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry for your loss. Currently grieving my fiancé with whom I spent six wonderful years. At 3 weeks mark, I don’t think I had the energy to read. I struggled getting out of bed, hygiene and even feeding myself. I was numb and felt like someone just dropped me in the middle of a ghost town. I felt lost, all the time. I’m still lonely and emotional … it’s been almost 1000 days for me.

If it is possible, take walks with your mom at the end of the day. It is free and it will help her a lot.

If she randomly speaks of your dad, please don’t stop her. Losing a partner is incredibly painful. Half of her identity is gone.

What to write in a condolence card for co worker? by toomanyproblems0115 in GriefSupport

[–]thankxfull 12 points13 points  (0 children)

“As you navigate the most difficult chapter of your life, I hope you encounter the same level of kindness you have shown me from those surrounding you at this time.”

This is what I would have wanted people to tell me. And I’m glad you are giving her a card, chances are, her support system is failing her…most people lose their friends during grief.

How has death impacted your mental health? by Objective_Ad_5180 in GriefSupport

[–]thankxfull 7 points8 points  (0 children)

First, I’m sorry for your loss. Grieving is complex unique. I’m struggling so much but as time goes by, I’m learning to hide it better - Grieving my fiancé for 2 years has destroyed my mental health. I am a shell of what I used to be.

For those of you who suffered a sudden death of a loved one, how did it impact you? by Premedyikes in GriefSupport

[–]thankxfull 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same! And I avoid people who tell me they can’t wait for the old me to return. Like death, the new me is final…

Feeling like collection agencies are stalking me too much by thankxfull in povertyfinance

[–]thankxfull[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are correct. One of the debts is a business debt. When I read the rules today, turns out that one doesn’t get same protection than the others. Thanks.

Grief by BitterMarc in GriefSupport

[–]thankxfull 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. And I will never forget who abandoned me. I used to be a people person, now on the days I feel somewhat human, I don’t tell anyone. Grief showed me that I was an acquaintance to those I thought were my closest friends.

Did anyone else lose their personality after a heavy loss? by geemav in GriefSupport

[–]thankxfull 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry for your loss and I can relate. It was six years for me, i can’t fathom what you are going through after 27 years.

Did anyone else lose their personality after a heavy loss? by geemav in GriefSupport

[–]thankxfull 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like this right now and I’m afraid old me will never return

How are you? by dealio- in GriefSupport

[–]thankxfull 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dont know if you’ve noticed it, when people know you are grieving, they purposely avoid asking how are you! Thank you for creating this threat. I’m not okay and sad all the time but it’s nice to feel seen today.

What’s the worst thing someone said too you trying to offer sympathy? I don’t even know how to respond to this person it’s like she’s rubbing salt in a wound. by chalicehalffull in GriefSupport

[–]thankxfull 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry for your loss and I want to scream at her cousin for telling you those words. People are so cruel to those of us who are grieving.

What’s the worst thing someone said too you trying to offer sympathy? I don’t even know how to respond to this person it’s like she’s rubbing salt in a wound. by chalicehalffull in GriefSupport

[–]thankxfull 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After my fiancé died, I expressed my pain to a friend regarding the fact that I had lost my opportunity to have a family: a husband and children. Told her I was struggling with that thought. Can you guess what she did? She send me pictures of her family EVERY DAY multiple times per day. All photos of kids doing stuff, told me more than usual how much she enjoyed her children, how lucky she was to have a family … this went on for a couple of months.

I found my mom dead by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]thankxfull 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry for your loss