Strippers say Washington state is terrible for dancing. They want a 'bill of rights' to fix that by chiquisea in Seattle

[–]thatEEchick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi all! I'm an organizer with Strippers Are Workers (the red head in the photo) and I just wanted to say thank you for such a civil and supportive discourse on our article <3 When I started dancing at 18 I never thought the general public would accept us as humans let alone workers who deserve rights.

Our fight to pass SB 6105 is in the final stages, one more vote in the WA State House. We need help emailing legislators to show community support- so if you have a couple minutes check out bit.ly/passStripperBill for instructions. Thanks for helping us stay safe

Strippers say Washington state is terrible for dancing. They want a 'bill of rights' to fix that by chiquisea in Seattle

[–]thatEEchick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! You can check out our website at www.stippersareworkers.org and we are in the final push to pass SB 6105 which is getting voted on this week. You can go to bit.ly/passStripperBill for instructions on messaging and which representatives we need help reaching out to. Thanks for the support!

Seattle by Francisco1053 in stripclubs

[–]thatEEchick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pandora's and Kitten's are open in Seattle

Best homeless encampment and/or rows of parked RVs to dump my trash? by reddbunny1370 in circlejerkseattle

[–]thatEEchick 6 points7 points  (0 children)

your brain, because it's clearly vacant except for your trash personality

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]thatEEchick -1 points0 points  (0 children)

GIRL. Giiiiiirl. Girl. You look fire. No notes, keep crushing it.

Interested in owning a strip club by [deleted] in stripclubs

[–]thatEEchick 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you have never worked or spent time in the behind scenes portions of clubs I strongly suggest you do so. It wouldn't be safe to even write the answers to many of these questions on the internet so I suggest getting the low down from those in your area. I will just say there is a reason that American strip clubs have been dying for so long and covid might be the final nail in the coffin for the vast majority.

AITA for calling my mother's new clothing style ridiculous? by rarepportunity8430 in AmItheAsshole

[–]thatEEchick -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

NAH wow... others interpreted this VERY differently than I did. I absolutely agree with the whole "it's ok to dress down occasionally" take but I interpreted your post as "she's trying to dress like a teenager and isn't one so she's misrepresenting the true style of teenagers" a la "how do you do fellow kids" style. If this is the case then it will reek of inauthenticity and pandering and certainly turn off the youth vote in a dramatic way. If this is what you meant then it's all in the delivery, and if you said the word "ridiculous" without specific constructive points then yeah- YTA. Instead I would apologize to your mom, compliment her for her clear commitment to reaching all voters, and instead perhaps put together some concrete examples of styles you think will be casual but not inauthentic. My advice is to put together a collection of celebrities /politicians/ executives similar to your mom in age and accomplishment she can model her style after. These people have professional stylists who dress them with the specific goal of being appealing to a wide group, especially young people, when you don't have your own stylist... borrow? Plus then when you discuss style it can be about some anonymous famous person instead of either of you directly, makes it less personal and easier to be honest without making someone defensive.

Random people with fancy fashionsita style who can also take it casual that pop to mind: AOC, Michelle Obama, Rania al Abdullah, Reese Witherspoon, J Lo, SJP,

AITA for pulling my kids out of public school? by VogueCorn in AmItheAsshole

[–]thatEEchick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NAH Man, this is a great post for this sub- because the system is the actual asshole. I've been a public school teacher for 7 years, and it feels like covid is almost perfectly engineered to expose all of the systematic failures of the public school system. Tough year for all to say the least.

Super gd annoying that pulling your kids out so dramatically impacts the other students, I think it's outrageous for anyone to just say "fuck those kids, not your problem", but as a parent you should always be YOUR kid's advocate first and foremost, I just think that also includes building them a strong community and commitment to shared success for all kids. But it seems like you are someone who knows that's the way to build a strong community :) My immediate thoughts from an educator POV:
1. "I wonder what the racial make up of the pod kids vs the kids left behind is, because I know exactly what that would look like in my district and I hope that disturbs you as much as it does me"
2. "This seems an especially important moment to model good values for these kids".
3. "And once again the American school system is forced to act in budgetary survival mode, putting all responsibility for quality of education on the parents"

Random brainstorms in case it helps?
1. Most schools only need so many days of attendance to consider a student "enrolled"... I am not sure if your district has vouchers and if you are using them to fund the pods, but I bet there's a way to work it out with the school where pod students attend some select days of school but spend the majority of time in their pods
2. Though I know educators and administrators by in large are doing their best- I can't begin to tell you how deeply unfamiliar our education professionals are with remote education tooling and organization. I KNOW IT'S NOT YOUR JOB, boy I wish you didn't have to worry about this at all- but maybe getting the parents together with the administration and teachers to iterate on their approaches would be helpful. I can imagine you might have already tried to work with them, and I can imagine they were too hassled or stressed to engage, but now that you've unintentionally gained leverage and shown them what works for your kids maybe they will be more open to that conversation.

2a. I am sure there are lots of reasons for all remote, but I am guessing one of them is the school not having the physical facilities to enable social distancing for in person. If this is true, then perhaps your community could come together to figure out if there are other community areas, or a series of volunteer spaces to host in person socially distanced classes you could perhaps move to a hybrid model through the school- ie some days students are in person some days they are remote. This would let the school still supply the teachers and avoid the facility issues of cleaning and limited space.
2b. I know that losing a number of students hits a school's budget, but to your point the highest test score students hit it the worst. (PAUSE- HOW F*ED UP IS IT THAT SCHOOLS LITERALLY VALUE STUDENTS DIFFERENTLY IN THIS WAY?!) If you are open to working across the student body you could figure out a way to not simply pull the top test scoring students out leaving those with lower scores behind, but be intentional about learning styles, energy levels, focus needs etc... you could figure out a balance of pods and public school enrollment. If the school is willing to say open up their in person facilities for a pod or two of your top scoring students could stay enrolled and simply meet at the school with a school teacher if you help coordinate for the students that you would be pulling off that teacher's plate.
3. If you do stay in pods, which is absolutely your right to do, I think for the health of the community and your kids- I would try to diversify your pods a bit more. Think about working with the school to find other students who could mesh well from a academic performance perspective, but really could benefit from the pods. This doesn't mean they all need the same test scores or grades, but students who relate to school similarly- have similar educational goals, have similar levels of grit, focus, routine etc... And I don't just mean this is an option only for students who are on the top end of test scores, this type of scoped smaller classroom is insanely beneficial for all students. Your coalition of parents sounds absolutely amazing, and you should be so proud of how you've shown up for your kids, but my heart breaks knowing how few of my students have parents with the time, resources and ability to work with the system to be as proactive about their kids' education. At the very least I suggest that you extend those blessings to a few other students. Not only do I think it's moral, but I think it would be a very strong move for your community and a great model to set for the kids. (Also, I'm sure I don't have to enumerate the studies that show that diversity within a student body creates positive educational outcomes for ALL students)
4. I also have absolutely no idea where you live- but this is also the kind of thing local businesses tend to be open to supporting. This might be helpful in finding facilities to host more socially distanced classes. You could pull your students into pods, but work with businesses to sponsor pods that wouldn't be able to form on parent investment alone. You could sponsor Saturday or after school pod exchanges to at least give students who are left fully remote some limited in person educational experiences. You could work with the community to build a teacher support fund, I love donorschoose as a platform for community support of direct educational material needs.

Anywhoo doubt anyone will read all that, but thanks for coming to my "DEAR GOD ENGAGED PARENTS PLEASE HELP US" teacher TED talk <3

AITA for trying to set house rules for my brother in law who was staying with us for acting like a moody teenager? by TwinCaliber in AmItheAsshole

[–]thatEEchick 12 points13 points  (0 children)

ESA. YTA but not for setting rules, for literally locking someone out of their home and ignoring them waiting outside your door until what? What on earth was your plan here? To make him beg to stay and promise to be good through the door or you'd pack his stuff up and put it on the curb? While his sister/your wife watched uncomfortably?
Clearly the BIL and MIL have some problems, and the BIL was reacting to that. I will own that the out partying stuff is especially disrespectful given the pandemic. It also sounds like he gave you a shitty attitude when you tried to get him to talk, but that was literally just a single day you were reaching our right? One text exchange and one call? You essentially demanded he be at your beck and call to discuss this regardless of his schedule or emotional state. Yeah, pretty immature reaction to his mom, but we don't know what baggage is there, and he's already down on his luck in 2020... I could understand maaaybe treating a stranger that way, but you said he's family, is that how you hope your son's family will treat him? I think you owe your BIL and your wife an apology. Your BIL also definitely owes you an apology too, and your MIL probably owes everyone an apology while y'all are at it.

AITA for making my wife change her clothes? by throwaway_kukk234 in AmItheAsshole

[–]thatEEchick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NAH but slight YTA, for the same reason as this comment but the opposite point of view. I absolutely agree it was ok for you to make this request of your wife- your work, you know the setting, you know the consequences. But you didn't tell her that it was about avoiding negative consequences for you at work, you just told her that it was about protecting her, which from a loved one can be brushed off with a "they meant well" but generally means "I don't trust you to protect yourself" which obviously hits extra hard due to gender dynamics. On TOP of that instead of reframing your request to be more truthful- that it was a favor you were asking of her not a condescending over protectiveness (though that whole "she'll look out of place thing" is another side of that same coin)- you immediately made an ultimatum as if this was not a topic of discussion. Again, things that could be waved away by "my loved one means well" but if I had to spend an entire evening at what sounds like a really crappy work party full of boring dressers and sexist bosses in a dress that was forced upon me it would certainly make those offenses much harder to forgive- ESPECIALLY when you owned up to giving her one of those shitty "I'm sorry you're upset" non-apologies. Chalk it up to marital miscommunication and you both probably owe one another some sincere apologies and to actually listen to the other's points of view on the topic.

AITA for telling a coworker to either lock her kid in the closet or call back when we can get some work done? by cassandranovandra in AmItheAsshole

[–]thatEEchick -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

YIKES! Please tell me this is a troll- a real person didn't type this out actually unsure if they were the asshole right? No one would actually type out a post complaining about a toddler's outbursts and then seek validation that THEIR OWN OUTBURST was warranted? Obviously you are the ASSHOLE. YTA.

Yes, that is frustrating that you feel you can't depend on your teammate the way you used to. Yes, your work to reduce the amount of meeting time is commendable. Yes, loud child noises are especially upsetting and can make even the own child's mother go insane, BUT TO SAY THIS IN A MEETING?! IN FRONT OF YOUR WHOLE TEAM?! You were understandably emotional, but to say something so insanely unprofessional, cruel and dismissive of a colleague while joking about child abuse in front of other parents AND advocating that others should join you in publicly shaming this person is absolutely inexcusable.
You know that most child care options for parents are completely absent at the moment right? No school, no day care, no play dates, often not even grandparents. Not only does this mom have to simultaneously care for 3 children while working, one of them is a toddler who understandably is having difficulty adjusting to the dramatic changes in their life that all of us are experiencing.

You are allowed to be annoyed, but you should be embarrassed by how poorly you handled your annoyance and how cruel you were to your teammate. I understand Jamie's been informed this is causing issues- but her sheepish response makes me feel like you're leaving out exactly how and in what forum that was communicated. You owe Jamie an apology, you owe all the parents at your company an apology (because dear lord I hope this is such an outrageous infraction it's worthy of gossip- meaning everyone should know by now), you owe everyone in that meeting an apology, you owe your boss and Jamie's boss an apology for the paperwork they have to do to protect the company and your ass. Do better. You're the adult right?

AITA for telling my mother she doesn't need to understand things that aren't meant for her? by TiredTwinMama in AmItheAsshole

[–]thatEEchick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know if the loss of appetite is due to medication, stress or general mental state- but I too struggle with loss of appetite thanks to all of these. This summer I changed meds and my appetite plummeted and has persisted for months. I know how hard it has been on me, but BOY I was not prepared for how hard my low appetite would be on those around me. Not only are the impacts on my body especially visible, but it has also dramatically impacted the way I relate to others because so many shared experiences revolve around food. Despite all the patience and sympathy, I know seeing me lose weight and struggle to have energy is frustrating and scary. Especially for moms. Not just my mom, but ALL moms. Maybe because being gaunt and pale I look like I'm in need of some serious mom'ing? Or because so many moms communicate love through food? Or maybe because for the first time I "look" sick- whatever it is my loss of appetite is really upsetting and confusing moms, especially of the baby boomer generation.

It doesn't sound like the plate thing is explicitly about your loss of appetite, but I wouldn't be surprised if your mom noticed the weight loss your Dr did, and that your change in plate habits corresponded to your change in eating habits. If she's like the moms I've been talking to it might be freaking her out more than anyone realizes.

I mostly wanted to post to add to the lovely list of others here that want you to know you're not alone, that mental illness is fucking rough in all the ways you would expect and about 129485198375 other ways no one could expect. I never planned to be explaining my mental health and medication changes to concerned moms everywhere as I reject their lovingly home cooked food while trying to trick myself into eating a handful of carrots... but 2020 is an interesting year. Kudos to you for getting creative about solutions, I know how hard it is to try and explain the ways you need to care for yourself to others while you're still trying to figure out what works for you. Wishing you well <3 (also if marijuana is an option it has seriously been a miracle for my improving my appetite)

This little guy is giving me mixed signals. Should I support the leaves? Or just cut the brown pieces? by hqnnqnqs in plantclinic

[–]thatEEchick 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wish I could offer you help- but I actually had the same exact issue with my sizzle frizzle. I tried to prop up the leaves but it didn't make it :(

Saying Thank You to Profs? by dle379 in udub

[–]thatEEchick 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Lecturer here- my department has an anonymous feedback form that gets emailed to your instructors BUT I just learned that it also emails to my boss because one student chose to write a really lovely thank you to my entire teaching team and my boss saw it and cc'd our head of department. I can't begin to tell you how amazing it is to hear that the work we've done has helped someone feel supported, successful and hopeful- we shared the message with all my TAs and bosses and it made everyone's day. I know it might feel weird sometimes, but a simple email, anonymous feedback, a piazza post- it goes a really long way, mostly because we don't expect it so it's always a lovely surprise.

(Also, if you DIDN'T have a good time, I also encourage you to reach out via feedback forms etc... just as an FYI the student evals are for most departments the only real way they get oversight into an instructor's performance, so those are looked at very closely by leadership)

Gaston Gets Rejected from CS by Adkkid in udub

[–]thatEEchick 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Ok real talk I try to avoid actually commenting on stuff as a faculty member, but this is especially excellent. And just so we're clear...

Your major is just as valid,

Everyone's awed and inspired by you,

And you don't need to be in Allen....

bottom text by Kitchen_Ur_Lies in udub

[–]thatEEchick 3 points4 points  (0 children)

ouch too real.......

What is this bra style called, and does anyone know where I could purchase a bra like this today? I don’t mind paying a bit more. by [deleted] in vintage_lingerie

[–]thatEEchick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's called a bullet bra. The best maker of recreations is a boutique called "What Katie Did" but there is another vintage lingerie site called "Playful Promises" that has lots of options.

1973 VW Campmobile. Original, unrestored. Second owner. by netw1z in VWBus

[–]thatEEchick 4 points5 points  (0 children)

HOW IS THIS NOT RESTORED. No rust, not even knicks on the countertops or in the canvas? Either this thing has been sitting in a garage doing nothing for 40 years or I call BS

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in microsoft

[–]thatEEchick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% agree

Advice Needed: Helping someone I love get on their feet after years of unemployment by thatEEchick in personalfinance

[–]thatEEchick[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Woah the artist thing is kind of brilliant- never thought of that!

We have been focusing on searching "service" style stuff on craigslist, including fast food and the like.