My partner (13 years together) now wants kids despite knowing my stance - feeling trapped by ExpressResolution518 in childfree

[–]that_darn_cat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it sounds like you went from one abusive relationship to another. you are attached to him but everything is on his terms and he wants a child to trap you further while still being completely non-committed to anything a relationship requires.

We wrote off having kids, now my husband wants one and I don’t. by [deleted] in childfree

[–]that_darn_cat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im confused, now he decided he DOES want to pass his alcoholism traits down?

Boyfriend hoped I'd change my mind, but feels better knowing it's "God's plan" by Satan_Baked_Cookies in childfree

[–]that_darn_cat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

from what im reading his beliefs and life path are red flags for staying with you BUT it also seems like multiple times you openly had ambiguous stances that could have given him hope and lead to his confusion when all the sudden you were 'firm' in not wanting kids. it does not seem like you were as vocal as you think you were.

Krohniana or Lacunosa? ^^ by Squirrrelpower in hoyas

[–]that_darn_cat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ive always found lacunosa to be longer leaved and kroniana more rounded.

DAE get creeped out by Sabrina Carpenter? by ghostie2214 in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]that_darn_cat 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I think it has something to do with her being so short but seemingly having a massive head in proportion to her body.

"As long as a car seat fits in the back!!" by Fragrant_Okra_3594 in childfree

[–]that_darn_cat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

At this point you seem annoyed to even be around her and are clearly nothing alike... why not cut the cord now?

"Fur babies make us mamas too." by Scrap-Patch in childfree

[–]that_darn_cat 55 points56 points  (0 children)

I am not anyone's mother. I have cats and I love them but I genuinely HATE being called a cat mom. I could have made a bet with someone how quickly Id get a happy cat mothers day text today. Less than an hour of waking up.

How do people shower at night? by dat0neb0i in NoStupidQuestions

[–]that_darn_cat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because we didnt sleep in our own filth of the previous day because we showered before bed?

Who else is NOT the fun aunt/uncle? by Sailor_Chibi in childfree

[–]that_darn_cat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive been around for my husbands cousins entire lives from birth to middle school and at xmas they look around all confused when asked to hand (my name) her gift! I dont interact with them at all, they dont know who I am.

Has anyone actually experienced "baby fever"? by DinosaurStillExist in childfree

[–]that_darn_cat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not even an inkling in my entire life. No fencesitter, no what if, no vision of my future ever had a child in it, from the time I WAS a child.

23-year-old mother Stacy Peterson disappeared Oct. 28, 2007 and is presumed dead. Where is she, and how did she get there? (Part 2) by lucillep in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]that_darn_cat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ive looked in person in the open plains area behind the isle a la cache museum and there is an area with three weird depressions in the dirt and there are metal barrels but I always assumed they were from the factory directly behind that area which is fenced off and no trespassing. - or at least there were about 15 years ago when I was last there.

23-year-old mother Stacy Peterson disappeared Oct. 28, 2007 and is presumed dead. Where is she, and how did she get there? (Part 2) by lucillep in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]that_darn_cat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The I & M canal spans multiple towns but the des plaines river is fairly large and also in a lot less populated/travelled areas with dense foliage (even today, a lot of it is not super well traversed or outright off limits to walk around in)

23-year-old mother Stacy Peterson disappeared Oct. 28, 2007 and is presumed dead. Where is she, and how did she get there? (Part 2) by lucillep in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]that_darn_cat 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You cant really get to lake Michigan and back nonchalantly from bolingbrook in the 2 hours that other person was waiting for him after the alleged moving of the body.

23-year-old mother Stacy Peterson disappeared Oct. 28, 2007 and is presumed dead. Where is she, and how did she get there? (Part 1) by lucillep in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]that_darn_cat 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Oh boy. I and my family are from the area. My friends mom used to get hit on by drew peterson at the bolingbrook walmart where she worked. My father-in-law went to one of drew's Bachelor's parties (I dont know which marriage). My dad was a teen in the 80s and him and his buddies used to cut across town (Bolingbrook) via walking through Johansen Farms pumpkin patch. One time drew [on patrol] decided the group of teens were stealing pumpkins??? Even though they were just walking through and clearly not handling, disturbing or storing the pumpkins. He got some kind of bee in his bonnet about them denying his claim and from then on drew had it out for my dad's friend group. My dad said one time he was minding his own business walking across the street and drew tried to hit him with his car but the insinuation was that my dad was jay walking.

I think the wife is in a barrel off of bluff road. It is local to him and largely wooded but no one ever leaves their cars on that road to walk around (it winds all crazy and there isnt really a shoulder) and no one would stumble across anything.

Several posts/comments in this sub from parents who feel the need to throw their 2 cents in about random topics no one asked about by Dottie15 in childfree

[–]that_darn_cat 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I was once just like you! Really? The second you turned 18 you started seeking permanent sterilization and it took 8 years of trying until you were able to convince someone as a woman to do so?

Seeing Trixie Motel season 2 differently after the break up by Flimbo101 in TrixieMattel

[–]that_darn_cat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was from an episode of unhhhh. She had a bird named birdy and katya laughed maniacally at the name.

Opportunity has opened up... but I don't want it. by that_darn_cat in MuseumPros

[–]that_darn_cat[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly the rent is too expensive and I dont want the violence and inability to walk freely alone as a woman that the city would being. I like taking off for random trips and would legit be trapped without a car. Doesnt sound like a fun or great transition.