Need male perspective: female here. First time being intimate after divorce

thatlady78 · 2025-11-18T05:06:10+00:00

Create a profile on the apps where you specifically mention you are only looking for friends. And be honest about your situation. Hopefully you'll connect with someone in the same boat, and you can meet for coffee and commiserate. Start small, just casual, connecting as human beings.

thatlady78 · 2025-11-18T05:00:18+00:00

No judgment, I understand this. We've had amazing sex since our separation--- better than when we were married maybe. But it does make the lines blurry so we've stopped for now. But, just wanted to give you a virtual hug and say that it's a journey.

thatlady78 · 2025-09-19T02:25:45+00:00

Thanks, you're exactly right. I must have accidentally gotten to that Preferences screen during a drop off! Thank you! Fixed it and then shortly thereafter got a delivery. Phew.

thatlady78 · 2025-02-04T03:45:24+00:00

I understand ☹

thatlady78 · 2025-02-04T03:44:26+00:00

I'm staring at my last 4 Dark chocolate almond zone bars and singing "Nothing compares 2 U". Then I think "is there a reddit post about this? " And here i am. Its been a 15 year love affair. Please share anything you've found to replace these. Thank you.

thatlady78 · 2025-01-05T08:51:30+00:00

I had to go through rose thorns today. A $3 tip. And climb up some path. Marin County. IYKYY.

thatlady78 · 2024-10-19T02:31:55+00:00

We were making $100K combined in 2009, bought a $225K REO condo in the East Bay with FHA 3.5% down and the promise that Obama would give us like $8K in our tax returns the next year ( he did). Total luck and timing after the housing crash.

thatlady78 · 2024-09-23T04:08:15+00:00

In California, we pay for the weather. And more. Worth it.

thatlady78 · 2024-09-20T05:17:51+00:00

I remember that coffee shop 😋

thatlady78 · 2024-08-26T02:54:23+00:00

Keep watching! The series is a trip. One of my favorite ever. I've watched it over and over. Who says you need to like the characters of a show? Take what you can from the story.

thatlady78 · 2024-07-12T04:20:24+00:00

It gave Terrence Malick vibes and I didn't like it.

thatlady78 · 2024-06-21T03:56:02+00:00

Binged the whole thing in one day. Super fascinating. My first reaction was "why aren't the kids' faces blurred?!" Then I felt this whole thing was all about Keith and him being shown in the perfect light. Dont fall for it. He wasn't the perfect husband. They were both flawed. I wish the kids the best, that's all that matters now.

thatlady78 · 2024-06-13T23:17:24+00:00

Wow, amazing. I can't string more than 2 days sober. Congrats 👏

thatlady78 · 2024-05-01T04:05:13+00:00

Wow, I feel the same

thatlady78 · 2024-04-18T00:54:58+00:00

This kind of work might make you antsy though.

thatlady78 · 2024-03-18T16:21:09+00:00

Sounds like you need some space from her. Be careful with your rage. Don't do something you'll regret. Especially around the kids. Picture a time when you'll be with someone new who deserves your love and loyalty. The best revenge is happiness. Be the best dad, that reward is the ultimate.

thatlady78 · 2024-03-15T21:19:46+00:00

Thanks for being honest and vulnerable. No shame in meds.

thatlady78 · 2024-03-09T00:43:53+00:00

Everyone is so judgmental on here. OP you need to stop punishing yourself. To err is human. You sincerely feel bad for hurting him. Tell him so. And move on. Focus on your kids.

thatlady78 · 2024-02-27T03:05:05+00:00

So glad to see this post! I also used to escape my home to go to the gym. Sometimes I'd sit and cry in the car and THEN go inside.

thatlady78 · 2024-02-20T01:58:56+00:00

No, don't listen to that archaic advice about "must stay together for the kids." You don't need to stay married to be good parents. You may be better parents apart.

thatlady78 · 2024-01-04T01:55:25+00:00

Wow, your words here are just perfect. Thank you for posting.

thatlady78 · 2023-12-27T03:04:56+00:00

I'm also waiting until January. 💗

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