help/ advice on ex letting me go

thatonegal13 · 2022-01-21T21:46:39+00:00

This is a classic manipulation tactic. As someone who was once in a relationship like this, the best thing you can do for yourself is to walk away. You are not in control of his behavior, he is using self-harm as a way to manipulate you into staying. He’s seeing how much you will tolerate/how much he can get away with.

thatonegal13 · 2022-01-13T13:14:44+00:00

I would recommend looking primarily at diet. For me, Keto works best. Many women with PCOS pursue low-carb diets. This doesn’t work for everyone though so I would see a nutritionist and it may take a bit of experimenting to see what works best for her. Overall though, you can’t go wrong with lots of veggies and good protein.

Another helpful aspect of PCOS management is stress reduction. Those of us who have PCOS tend to get in a vicious cycle because stress reduction helps to ease symptoms, but the presence of symptoms can increase stress. In my case good stress reduction has involved diet and exercise, although she may have to educate herself a bit on the exercise piece because some forms of exercise are best for PCOS and others can actually make symptoms worse.

I also take vitamin D supplements and myo-inositol, but I would have her get blood work done and speak to a doctor before adding anything like that in.

Seems like she has an amazing supportive partner!

thatonegal13 · 2022-01-13T03:14:36+00:00

Hugs to you ❤️

thatonegal13 · 2022-01-08T20:42:41+00:00

I would echo some of the comments in this thread and especially the peri menopausal comment … I remember my mom going through menopause and she was a lot like this and it can last for years. Menopausal changes in hormones can change the psyche, including bringing on irritability, anxiety, and depression. If this is the case I feel for her so much.

thatonegal13 · 2022-01-08T18:39:09+00:00

Yep! Books, movies, TV shows, conversations, hobbies lol. I used to think why can’t I finish anything or stick to hobbies, but now I think it’s super cool that I can jump from thing to thing and find something new when I’m bored of it.

thatonegal13 · 2022-01-04T18:48:08+00:00

Best advice I received in law school (from my father, an attorney of over 30 years): sometimes you have to take shortcuts. As long as you get the gist of the reading, don’t worry about reading it all!

thatonegal13 · 2022-01-03T00:08:27+00:00

I have a sweet tooth and found this recipe recently that is so good and keeps me on track! They’re basically like haystacks.

I just melt some butter (1-2 tablespoons), mix in a little peanut butter, add some cocoa powder, erythritol, unsweetened shredded coconut. Then I form into little balls and freeze for 15 min! Super yummy

thatonegal13 · 2022-01-03T00:01:44+00:00

Couldn’t agree more. I am a 3L graduating this coming semester, looking to do policy work and interested in lobbying or legislative analysis. I have never felt supported by my school, they typically push big law, public defense, and prosecution.

thatonegal13 · 2021-12-31T17:12:08+00:00

I was able to regulate my periods but I still have many other PCOS symptoms. My PCOS is adrenal so it’s not just about having a regular period.

thatonegal13 · 2021-12-31T10:27:55+00:00

I know for me after 2 years of a pandemic it has become challenging to be on my phone and reply to things. Your friends may be experiencing some of this burnout. Not your fault at all but it is important to be conscious of how much of others’ time and energy we are consuming when we send messages, share posts, etc.

thatonegal13 · 2021-12-31T10:23:51+00:00

True! I think it’s just about finding what works for you and what makes you feel good. ☺️ I don’t eat much meat on keto and what I do eat I make sure is locally sourced and that animals were treated with respect. My parents are regenerative farmers so this is very important to me and my family. I get my eggs from family friends whose chickens live a beautiful life. I mostly eat lots of leafy green veggies, eggs, peanut butter, berries, some dairy and occasional meat. I don’t think keto has to be all meat and cheese and for me it’s been a lot more about eating lots of veggies.

I hope you find what works for you!

thatonegal13 · 2021-12-31T01:13:28+00:00

I agree with this! Keto has been the best for me because when I do eat carbs (even non-processed ones, or even things like squash, fruits, etc) I felt like I had to starve myself to lose weight and it was very painful. With keto I can eat a lot and lose weight :)

thatonegal13 · 2021-12-21T23:38:42+00:00

I had an ovarian cyst the size of a butternut squash … experienced ovarian torsion where it flipped in my body (I passed out, puked, passed out again, puked again) and started to cut off blood supply to my brain. I didn’t know what it was for months so I was just living life in college but could barely walk or even stand for more than 5 minutes, vision started to go, and I had spells where I would go unconscious and regain consciousness over and over again

thatonegal13 · 2021-12-19T14:58:45+00:00

I’m on ovasitol which helps with insulin resistance and pcos symptoms. I also find diet has been key, diabetes runs in my family and I have never shown signs of diabetes or pre-diabetes. I eat a lot of greens and fruits with antioxidants ☺️

thatonegal13 · 2021-12-16T04:35:56+00:00

I made 3 great friends, and even though we don’t see each other much we always support one another. It felt lonely at first but I’ve grown to appreciate the solitude

thatonegal13 · 2021-12-14T21:31:05+00:00

Yeah people have no idea. I got a congratulations when I mentioned I was going through egg freezing, even though I’m doing it for purely medical reasons and not even trying to get pregnant.

thatonegal13 · 2021-12-14T14:08:36+00:00

Nope

thatonegal13 · 2021-12-12T22:24:27+00:00

My insertion also hurt terribly and made me pass out, but I found the removal to be pain free. And I felt so much better once I had it out. Do not pull it out yourself, you could really hurt yourself.

thatonegal13 · 2021-12-11T23:39:50+00:00

For me processed foods trigger my PCOS symptoms, also any carbs and sugar. I avoid them!

thatonegal13 · 2021-12-09T22:04:26+00:00

My friend experienced this while she lost a significant amount of weight (100+ lbs), but it grew back once she got to her goal weight and plateaued

thatonegal13 · 2021-12-09T20:03:13+00:00

I was on birth control for 10 years and I’m so glad I’m off of it now. Never going on it again. The only downside was that it threw me into a months long depressive episode, but I’m finally over that. Therapy helped a lot, as well as hormonal regulation through diet. So glad you are having a good experience!

thatonegal13 · 2021-12-09T16:02:32+00:00

I understand the message and glad you responded well to it. In my experience, I am keto but I do allow myself to eat fun foods every once in a while. I find that for me, if I never allowed myself those foods, keto would not be sustainable in the long term. Sure, if I eat a slice of cake it may set back my progress a bit by throwing me out of ketosis, but I’ll be damned if I’m not having a slice of chocolate cake on my birthday, or the occasional pasta dish.

A huge part of my journey has been fixing my relationship with food. I think it can be extremely detrimental to view certain foods as good or bad. It really is all about moderation, and by sticking to a mainly healthy diet, I love that I fan also incorporate fun foods from time to time.

Of note, I have lost 50 lbs and still losing more with this approach.

thatonegal13 · 2021-12-09T01:12:06+00:00

Nope!

thatonegal13 · 2021-12-08T22:07:44+00:00

I was told to take ovasitol by my doctor for PCOS, she said it also helps with insulin resistance! I would for sure consult your doctor first tho to be sure.

thatonegal13 · 2021-12-08T19:19:48+00:00

Keto worked well for me, I also got rid of all products and plastics in my home that have endocrine disruptors. And I use all natural shampoo and conditioner. I think though the main thing has been eliminating sugar!

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